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submitted 1 day ago by Angel@hexbear.net to c/chat@hexbear.net

I got hired by this place, and my training with them starts on Monday. It's also remote, so hopefully, nothing weird about "load tests" steps into the room. I don't think it will. I already completed my onboarding with them, and the training will last a month. It is a full-time position and actually long-term. I love that I don't have to leave my home to do the work, so it sounds like a win.

In addition to all of this, I am looking into narrating audiobooks as a side hustle of sorts. Unfortunately, because of AI, I wonder how long this will even be an option. Either way, I'm gonna navigate finding some side hustle.

However, I got some anxiety when I read these policies on having a "professional appearance" for video conferences [slightly paraphrased]:

  • Hair must be clean and well-groomed in a reasonable style.
  • No hats or head-coverings that impede a clear view of your face. Scarves and hair-wraps are fine so long as they do not violate another policy (obscene patterns, etc.)

Because I have freeform dreadlocks, I probably don't fit this "well-groomed" or "reasonable style" description they're talking about. After reading this, I actually decided to wear a (solid black) Rastacap during the interview, and they took no issue with it, so I take it that the Rastacap is not invalidated by the second bullet point there. I guess one could call it a "hair-wrap." Regardless, it is such a goofy, performative, and LARPy thing for them to have these stringent guidelines on one's appearance in video calls for a job where you're not actually even seeing customers, just talking to them on the phone.

Either way, if they do try to go after me for either the Rastacap or the freeform dreadlocks, that can be a violation of anti-discrimination laws, I'm sure. Though I'm not actually a Rasta, I thought it might be in my favor to cap (pun definitely intended) and tell them that I am so they get off my ass for the sake of avoiding religious discrimination. I don't think it will actually get to that point, though, or at least I hope it doesn't.

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[-] Feed_el_Castro@hexbear.net 5 points 1 day ago

Holy fuck congrats on the job, that's awesome! Don't worry about your hair, they already hired you and it won't be an issue that you're wearing what you wore to the interview, we're all so proud of you!

[-] darkcalling@hexbear.net 13 points 1 day ago

Just keep it neat and clean I think is the thing.

Definitely doesn't hurt to air on the side of caution. Though they definitely could try to use that in racist ways I presume hopefully they just are trying to stop people showing up with out of bed hair mess everywhere because it makes the bosses feel like their precious employee rolled out of bed 4 minutes before job start and didn't take the time to "get ready" for their day working for them properly. There's a certain mentality among managers who put on their dress shirt and slacks every day after styling their hair and getting their coffee that there is a right and wrong way to start the work day and guess what their way of getting in the right attire and "mindset" is the right way and encourages productivity so they think. Meanwhile the thinking goes getting up late, not getting in the right mindset with the right dress and grooming is the habit of a lazy person who won't give them the 110% they've been drilled to expect in their propaganda mills.

Same thing with the head-covering rule, sounds like they don't want maskers and have a real "we want to see your face and your smile so we know you're not making faces at us, it's part of getting to know you blah blah blah". So I'm thinking that won't be an issue as long as you don't cover your eyes, mouth, and their way of seeing your expressions while on video with them.

Best of luck comrade, you got this!

[-] Angel@hexbear.net 6 points 1 day ago

What does "neat and clean" mean in this context, though? I think you're misunderstanding what I exactly mean when I say I have freeform dreadlocks.

[-] GalaxyBrain@hexbear.net 6 points 1 day ago

They keep it vague on purpose. Then they can decide for themselves when they see you

[-] Angel@hexbear.net 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Well, in that case, I'll just show up with the Rastacap. That's the only real alternative to me having my hair visible as it is, and judging by the policy, it doesn't sound like they'd have an issue with it.

[-] GalaxyBrain@hexbear.net 4 points 1 day ago

Where it's just for video calls, i'm pretty sure it's just a policy put there to prevent someone being on call in their pajamas and bedhead. I think the spirit of it is to look like someone who is at work when on video calls. If I had to guess, they probably arent that strict about it, hell it might just be straight up ignored by everyone, some rules only exist on paper but it's best to play it safe if you're new. Being new also gives you some leeway. If they dont like your hair then it's not like you'll get fired, they'll just let you know to look different next time. Also if you aren't white I dont see management coming after you for having dreads. They would be way too scared of being discriminatory. The rastacap would make them even more scared cause of the relgious association. Use that to your advantage, rastacap for the first little while and then they'll probably feel relieved to just see dreads. I dont see them fucking with you if they think there is an HR risk

[-] darkcalling@hexbear.net 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I presume showered, not particularly gross or oily looking from excessive not washing, not full of crumbs from your meal last night, that kind of thing. And neat = well groomed so reasonably maintained in some way that isn't just frizzy hair floating all over from bed-head. I presume it tends to more apply to anglo hair types where individual strands of hair can just go all over. I don't think it hurts to wear the cap though as you said.

Ultimately it's subjective based on whoever the person judging is but I don't think it's anything to worry too much about.

[-] Angel@hexbear.net 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Yeah, you got it right about the "anglo hair" part. What is considered "neat hair" to most people is really not something applicable to my hair because, especially in the West, the term "neat hair" has a very Eurocentric connotation. I have type 4C hair and my dreadlocks were formed through what many would call "neglect," but it was a very intentional, lengthy process. Freeform dreadlocks, as a hairstyle, entail literally no manipulation (unless you count me washing my hair every 5 days, but there is no brushing, combing, etc.), so, throughout the whole day, my hair will still functionally look the same way it does when I first get out of bed. I also use satin pillows and bedsheets for this reason. The rastacap is ultimately the best idea with all of this in mind. Judging by their policies, they have no reason to be against it, so I should be good!

[-] Hestia@hexbear.net 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Audiobooks as a side hustle is a good idea. There's plenty people out there who prefer to listen to an actual person over an AI generated voiceover, so I wouldn't worry about that aspect.

Dont worry about your hair. Bringing it up will only make them more likely to find fault in it.

[-] beanocene@hexbear.net 5 points 1 day ago

If you live in the US, looks like hair discrimination is explicitly protected against in some states but not others https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Discrimination_based_on_hair_texture_in_the_United_States

If they took no issue in the interview, the cap seems good for now? Hate that they care about appearance in any regard given customers never see you, but managers gotta power trip I guess. Echoing other posters that there's a good chance it's something that is on the books but never ends up being an issue for you. Not trying to discount the history of hair discrimination, definitely something that could happen, but hoping for the best for you.

[-] LeeeroooyJeeenkiiins@hexbear.net 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

You're not supposed to take "dread locs" literally! heckle

but for real personally I would just not say anything, if it's made into an issue default to the rasta cap, that probably won't be made into an issue since you had it on in the interview

good luck with your new job btw

[-] Le_Wokisme@hexbear.net 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

congrats on the job.

if they're going to have a problem with your natural hair they probably won't know the difference between anything you'd wear that's more "exotic" than a ballcap or bandana. I'd port that "clear view of your face" bit up to the hair point since that's where their mind was at when the rules were written down.

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