A good chunk of people are hostile bloodsuckers just pretending to be normal people, and they think everyone thinks like them secretly.

So usually, the person will look at an angle of how you are trying to undermine them.

No contact those people.

Me: Question A

Them: Ah you must really mean Question B. Here's your answer.

Me: OK but Question A

Them: Ooh, you're really grilling me now. Relax.

Could be.

Could be that you were just encountering any of several types narcissists, who in their fragile egos cannot entertain curiosity or criticism or advice as anything but an attack on their perfect image of themselves that they identify with.

There are various free online tests to help towards making a determination as to which it may be. Or even both.

Where I live most electric is air conditioning.

And what the hell else are you gonna do with that space? Do they get in the way of your rooftop garden?

Nah. I'm in Australia and our electricity bills have been slaughtered by two thirds. We used to have a powerpal (it died, ironically for the following) and even midwinter there would be huge chunks of the day where it registered 0 meter use - we are literally powering everything in the house just via solar.

So even without a battery (they're 20k+) we've cut a large chunk of fossil fuels clean out of use. We also feed back into the grid - we get bugger all money for it, but that's not the point. The point is reduction of fossil fuelled power.

And here I thought I was doing a great job masking with small talk.

My uncle is further on a spectrum than me, and when I was young I hated when he does this. You tell the story, and there is a passing character that doesn't matter, but now he asks a lot of info about that one. Used to drive me crazy. The story is about a cute dog in a hat I saw on a train, it doesn't matter how old was the dude that walked past it and also complemented the hat. It doesn't matter where was the train going. A dog was wearing a hat, who cares how many people was also on a train.
I now understand better why he was asking the questions

I get that. I've worked hard to calibrate my filter so it's appropriate to different situations. It's difficult to figure out the line sometimes. The best I can do is take the misunderstandings and turn them into self-deprecating jokes. I might end a spiel with, "Okay, I'm done nerding out now" or something along those lines. Usually people are cool about it. Maybe it's the acknowledgement of my own awkwardness that helps?

Otherwise, I often hear, "Huh, I never thought about it that way," and honestly that's my favorite response. I want to make people question things. I want them to reflect on why they do what they do. I know it can be uncomfortable, but it's better than living a life unexamined.

Weaponized therapy speak is annoying, but this is a real phenomenon, just like people like you explaining that this everyday part of my life isn't actually happening and is all my fault and deserved if it is and...

That seems somewhat red-herring / strawman, like you're responding to some dyslexically re-scrambled arrangement of the words in the original post.

Neurodivergents will trigger people that avoid self-reflection simply by asking follow-up questions and being curious about them.

See how it does not preclude?

a little unfair to brand the other person as avoidant of self-reflection,

is talking about something else.

[ This is more a "those who" than a "they are". Following the logic?]

... Almost as if that could be a gaslighting darvo reflex to avoid self-reflection [~ perhaps about how triggered you get to questions about you? a wild conjecture to entertain, given it fits the data immediately available.].

... Have you considered this? (I ask, thinking it in reach for you, given your edit.)