Need to get cis people use to the idea that forcing a child to go through the wrong puberty or preventing them from going through any puberty with alongside their peers is child abuse.

Gender affirming care is widely used for cis kids. Banning it specifically for trans kids is pure discrimination. And also it’s reversible.

Unfortunately, I don't see a way to do it without exposing our own traumas. Like, because I went through the wrong puberty, I grew up with a bone-deep certainty that I was an ugly unlovable freak that no one should look at or touch. I missed out on the relationship-related life milestones that all my peers got to experience, essentially rendering me developmentally stunted.

I think parents would care about that, I know mine did, but we didn't even know what was wrong. If they're legitimately worried about "regret" then make them know how much their child will regret not starting earlier.

And it's humiliating to even talk about and I know most people aren't going to want to do it, but I don't see another way.

honestly i just don't think i ought to have a say in what other people get to do with their bodies. unfortunately, most cultures having these "debates" don't really see children as people, or value bodily autonomy in general, and i'm not sure how to breach that gulf of understanding, but i fear it might need to be tailored to the individual.

they probably think transition for kids means 10 year olds getting surgery and can be corrected on what it really means.

i've also had some success asking why puberty blockers exist at all, and then when they don't know or say something wrong you explain about precocious puberty.

I strongly doubt the degree to which these are sincerely held beliefs as opposed to cynically deployed tactics, therefore

Personally, I regret not transitioning when I was a teenager. And most of the trans people I know would probably tell me they feel the same if I asked them.

Other comments on the thread bring up good points. I'd also say that you can add your own personal touch to it. Wouldn't you have wanted to transition as a child?

Tell them about all that trans kids who don't transition early miss out on. I know I missed out on a lot and have regrets. I wouldn't necessarily go into traumatic details, but you should make it real what their choice actually means.

Cis people, liberals, and all other kinds of moralists need constant reminds that "inaction" of forcing trans kids down the wrong puberty when alternatives exist is also an "action", and a deeply damaging one at that. There are no neutral actions in the web of karma. Don't let the cis pretend otherwise.

I don't promote the trevor project necessarily but for the kind of people you are talking about this fact sheet would be helpful: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/article/facts-about-lgbtq-youth-suicide/

basically my argument would be "trans kids who don't get gender affirming care are very likely to kill themselves, would you prefer that to them getting the evidenced based care that is recommended by the relevant experts?"