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I've had a lot of conversations with cis people about the trans experience and most of these have been cordial, if not enjoyable! While most of the points raised when discussing the struggle for trans liberation elicit sympathy from these people the topic of minors transitioning tends to get the strongest and most oppositional responses. They seem to believe that the possibility that someone may regret transitioning for identity or reproductive reasons justifies blanket bans on transitioning for minors. I've also heard concerns about gender affirming care being used as an avenue for medical abuse, of which I am unaware of any verified cases.

How does one approach the topic of trans liberation for trans minors? Obvously debatelord antics aren't going to win hearts and minds but there has got to be some narrative angle that resonates with cis people or otherwise dispells their fears of cis children coming to harm.

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[-] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 5 points 1 week ago

Other comments on the thread bring up good points. I'd also say that you can add your own personal touch to it. Wouldn't you have wanted to transition as a child?

Tell them about all that trans kids who don't transition early miss out on. I know I missed out on a lot and have regrets. I wouldn't necessarily go into traumatic details, but you should make it real what their choice actually means.

Cis people, liberals, and all other kinds of moralists need constant reminds that "inaction" of forcing trans kids down the wrong puberty when alternatives exist is also an "action", and a deeply damaging one at that. There are no neutral actions in the web of karma. Don't let the cis pretend otherwise.

[-] Shaleesh@hexbear.net 3 points 1 week ago

"There are no neutral actions in the web of karma."

I will be stealing this. Thank you. The rest of what you said was also very inspiring, without medical intervention the body will take actions that will cause lasting harm to the child. Navigating the line between revealing enough to give an authentic description of a lived experience and overexposing traumatic details is intimidating but I think that route may be necessary for a discussion like this. Its been said that narratives win hearts and minds better than facts do.

~~of course my internalized transphobia is still caked on in places, it can be hard to imagine how the trauma could matter to others while I reflexively downplay it to myself~~

[-] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 3 points 1 week ago

Btw what's your pfp from? It's so cute!

[-] Shaleesh@hexbear.net 3 points 1 week ago

Well I knew this day would come eventually.

It is a drawing of Kenzaki Tsurugi (a character from a trashy gacha game) a friend of mine drew for me a while back.

a screenshot of an image folder entitled "kenzaki 'literally me' tsurugi", it contains over 1200 images.

I've been collecting sfw fanarts of her for years and find her relatable.

[-] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 3 points 1 week ago

So the demon girlfailure archetype?

[-] Shaleesh@hexbear.net 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I am so thoroughly embarrassed by talking about fandomy stuff that I am putting it in a dropdown.Ok so no, actually.

Tsurugi is a weirdly nuanced character for a gatcha game about collecting anime schoolgirls. The internal conflict the character faces is that she is feared, respected, and supported in her life as the leader of a paramilitary organization but finds social interactions outside of her inner circle to be confusing and overwhelming, which impedes her desire to "be more like all the other girls". She's very neurodivergent-coded and I can heavily relate to the struggle to have for oneself the experiences one sees as having missed out on. I was really surprised when I read her arc in the game because it was kind of sweet and the otakubait creepyness was fairly minimal. Sadly, I think she's a victim of the changes made to BlArchive's creative direction early on in its life cycle. She's in the highest rarity tier for the regular drop pools and got an event-limited swimsuit variant almost immediately after launch (and the story in that one is about her girliepops taking her to see the ocean and its super super sweet) but in the five years since then she hasn't been featured much at all. Meanwhile, one of her besties in the lowest rarity tier became a prominently featured character due to fan responses. The silver lining to this unpopularity is that the SFW fanart crowds out the super gross porn, more popular characters get more NSFW in the NSFW:SFW ratio... I think.

[-] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 2 points 1 week ago

no need to be embarrassed. Have you seen what I talk about in the mega lol?

You know that is pretty relatable.

BlArchive

My condolences

[-] Shaleesh@hexbear.net 2 points 1 week ago

Truly one of my guiltymost pleasures, and poor Tsurugi is trapped in it, forever.

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