How can I get over my disdain for sport enough so I can exercise yet again? (lemmy.world)

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TL;DR: Gained too much weight after I fell and broke my arm + couldn't really move for a while. I have a lot of trauma related to sports, like I was forced to play football like any other Hungarian kid, and I was awful at it, which made others be angry at me for it, which made me reluctant to do it. Even if I manage to do it, I often get brutal, crippling muscle pain, which makes me fo it even less.

Since I"m Hungarian, I cannot rely on health care at all, especially mental health, as it was the very first thing that got cut, amd I cannot afford private care.

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[-] SpikesOtherDog@ani.social 1 points 18 minutes ago

I have had multiple doctors tell me that limiting my intake is much more important than exercising.

As far as exercise goes, walking is great exercise. The difference between walking a mile and running it is mostly time. Do what you can and worry about building cardio endurance later.

Right now my big cardio workout is six flights of stairs I go up daily. It took me months to be able to do the whole thing without feeling like I was going to pass out. I'm still run down if I need to run them several times in a day.

As far as exercise trauma goes find something and make it yours. Little steps, but push yourself. I can somewhat relate as I find handwriting things difficult due to other childhood trauma. I can do it, but I find myself avoiding tasks that would require it still. My trick is to recognize that I'm avoiding it and set a time to actually do it.

[-] BurgerBaron@quokk.au 1 points 21 minutes ago

Obviously there's plenty of ways to exercise without playing sports ball or any team based activities OP, don't make me list them all 😅

I wouldn't advise sports for health anyways, that's usually how everyone involved in sports I know acquires significant injuries and permanent body damage!

Do whatever. I walk around my local green belt after work each day or night since I work rotating shifts. I get home and do a minimal equipment workout in my basement gym in the style of George Hackenschmidt, a classical (pre-steroids and targeted workouts requiring gobs of equipment) professional strong man, ride my bicycle around the city bike trails in summer months, use a rowing machine I bought used in the winter while watching Futurama or whatever I don't have to pay much attention. Took up dancing and kick boxing. I don't like those last two very much but it's more about preventing my social skills from atrophying tbh, gotta exercise that too! Nothing I listed is what I'm saying you should do, it's just examples. Find stuff you can do with your current body condition without risking injury. Doing a regular walk daily is a great start alone.

Well, when it's not 40+ outside with 100 humidity at least. I've visited Hungary in a heat wave before, absolute fucking misery.

[-] sylver_dragon@lemmy.world 2 points 52 minutes ago

Don't worry so much about sports, as finding something you enjoy which gets you moving. The important thing is to try stuff and find something that works for you. Really, the best exercise you can do, is one you will actually do. It sounds like you have issues with team sports, so maybe try some stuff which doesn't involve other people. Also, accept that you will likely suck as whatever you do, if you keep practicing, you might find you suck less over time.

I'm not a "sports person". In fact, I suck as most sports I have tried. But, I discovered that I enjoy indoor sport climbing. I sucked amazingly bad at it when I first started. I mostly climb top rope and was struggling to finish a 5.9 climb. But, I kept at it and now I can finish most 5.10a climbs on my first attempt. I'm not some super climber by any means, but I have become kinda competent. I enjoy the challenge and have met some great people along the way. I also get excited when I walk into the gym and see a new set of routes. It's like being handed a new set of puzzles to solve.

[-] naught101@lemmy.world 4 points 2 hours ago

Probably worth splitting your idea of "sports" up. Perhaps "full contact" sports are to be avoided, or maybe team sport. That leaves a lot of other options.

Also, what things can you do that involve exercise that aren't sport? You could start with walking, perhaps? Then you can do as much as you're capable of and build slowly, perhaps to long hikes or to jogging.

[-] mannycalavera@feddit.uk 7 points 2 hours ago

Since you're Hungarian you can freely move in the EU. Find another state that has the health care that you need. Maybe, as others have said, first a therapist to get over your trauma. Then slowly build up to exercising again. Find something you love.

[-] ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world 2 points 2 hours ago

It doesn't work like that, and also I have zero chance at getting a job at a different state. Maybe I'll try to save up for a private neurologist, then get prescription for a better anti-eizure med, that allows me to skip meals without developing stomach ulcers, does not cause an increase in appetite, does not cause sleep issues, etc.

[-] Maeve@kbin.earth 1 points 48 minutes ago

Your body and mind need food to heal properly. I don't know what your budget is or what you can access. If you can get it, fatty fish like sardines, mackerel, tuna, salmon. If tinned, in olive oil if possible. Fermented foods. Added sugars are poison. Raw, unfiltered honey is ok sparingly (chewing honeycomb has the additional benefit of boosting your immunity of local pollen allergens).

Fresh vegetables, especially leafy greens, raw or cooked. Carrots. Pumpkin, squash, pumpkin seeds, walnut. Chicken. Apples. Milk and cheese, goat milk is excellent. Peanut butter is filling, but tree nut butters are better. Red meat protein sparingly. Stop eating before you feel full and wait ten or fifteen minutes, you'll feel satisfied. Apples, pears. Cheeses, especially stinky ones. Onions, garlic. Dates, figs. Sweet potato, white potato, but cooled and eaten cold or reheated.

I don't know if these foods are accessible to you, if I understand correctly, budgets can be very tight in Hungary. I wish you the best.

[-] I_Fart_Glitter@lemmy.world 2 points 1 hour ago

This guy shows how to do modified mobility exercises that are meant to be more accessible to people with health issues. His very chill tone is relaxing to listen to and no special equipment needed.

youtube.com/@coachjohnnoel

[-] radiofreebc@lemmy.world 6 points 3 hours ago

Find a non-team sport, or activity, you enjoy. Walking is incredibly healthy.

[-] ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world 4 points 2 hours ago

Walking is like the only thing I can reliably do, everything else comes with a bunch of caveats.

[-] Maeve@kbin.earth 2 points 47 minutes ago

Walking is perfect, especially in green spaces.

[-] Babalugats@feddit.uk 7 points 2 hours ago

Walking and dietary changes.

Even if it's a diet you can't stick to forever, sticking to it for a couple of months, or 10 weeks should make a big enough difference that you find many exercises easier to start, and then go from there. One step at a time instead of trying to achieve finished goal immediately, will probably work better for you.

[-] originalucifer@moist.catsweat.com 4 points 3 hours ago

build/obtain a stationary bike.

i hate sports but ill sit on a bike forever.. great for heart rate, burnin calories.. not really a strength thing though.

you can even make one out of an old busted bicycle, if youre mechanical at all

[-] ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world 1 points 3 hours ago

I have even more trauma with bikes, due to falls and the whole "vehicular cycling" craze.

[-] originalucifer@moist.catsweat.com 13 points 2 hours ago

sounds like you need a therapist more than exercise

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