Theres a third option
Come out to them, but double downnon the spy bullshit.
Be late to everything because you had to be sure you werent tailed. Check corners with a mirror. Keep your hormone supplies in an anal tool kit. Put dye bombs in a decoy bag for your mom to search. Depattern the family pets. Dose everyone with LSD. Poison your umbrella. Change wigs and outfits every time youre in a room alone. Speak in code. Tell them you cant even tell them the number of times youve saved their way of life¹. Blackmail and terrorize strangers into being assets; figure out what for later. Find an arms dealer you like. Answer every question with 'i can neither confirm nor deny', 'im not at liberty to say' or 'no comment' so non-answers dont become answers. Learn to cheat at cards. Overthrow a democracy for basically no reason.
¹it's zero, but you can't tell them that!