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I’ve tried putting it under the little spoons pillow, but it always gets weird pins and needles numb and hurts by morning. Thanks!

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[-] [email protected] 2 points 11 hours ago

I don't. When it's time to sleep, we kiss goodnight and face away from each other. Just works better for both of us.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

Under my partner's neck, between their shoulder and the pillow

[-] [email protected] 15 points 1 day ago

Wait until she goes to sleep. Then get up to fix your arm, get chores done, etc, and go to bed at a more normal time

[-] [email protected] 46 points 1 day ago
[-] [email protected] 20 points 1 day ago

wow as a side sleeper that looks amazing. i rotate at night like a 7-11 hot dog i can never stay comfy long so its just round and round all night

[-] [email protected] 9 points 1 day ago

Damn that's slick

[-] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

Dude looks awesome

[-] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

Shut up and take my money

[-] [email protected] 16 points 1 day ago

I've seen a few ideas like that posted before and people had always ended up calling it things like "the spider hole."

As a broad shouldered side sleeper, I would like to test it out, but I can only imagine what things would disappear down that hole...

[-] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago

That's where my bedside table gun would migrate to.

[-] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago
[-] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

I read this in the "Watch those wrist rockets!" way and completely lost it.

[-] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago
[-] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

Pretty nice though, forget tableside, I bet you could stash a whole ass shotgun down there! :)

[-] [email protected] 9 points 1 day ago

On the bright side...

...snacks?

[-] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

I like your positivity!

[-] [email protected] 48 points 1 day ago
[-] [email protected] 25 points 1 day ago

That's the neat part!

[-] [email protected] 39 points 1 day ago

I bend my arm and put my hand under my face, thereby converting it into shoulder pain.

[-] [email protected] 44 points 1 day ago

There’s nothing more romantic than falling asleep spooning, waking up and softly whispering to your partner “my shoulder’s dislocated, get off me.”

[-] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

This is the dream ❤️

[-] [email protected] 18 points 1 day ago

You don't actually spoon the whole way, just up to the waist, leaving a bit of a gap between your chest and partner's shoulders.

Upper arm goes round partner as normal, lower arm rests elbow on mattress, forearm vertical across their back, hand holds their upper shoulder.

Plenty of contact still, but your arm doesn't die, you don't get their hair tickling your face all night and you get to use your own pillow.

[-] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

This would work if my bed were no lt an unconscious battle field for space; if no-man’s-land exists it will be eagerly taken up, any inch given is another inch towards my partners unconscious goal of making me fall off my side of the bed. Either that or they want to be close to me. But a good thought :P

[-] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

I don't understand. Can you draw a diagram?

[-] [email protected] 9 points 1 day ago

Forgive my terrible phone doodle, but I think this is what's being suggested. Basically, you're groin-to-ass below, but above your chest is not pressed directly against the front partner's back. Instead, you position the lower arm so your forearm runs across their back, and wrap the upper arm over them in a half embrace.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 49 minutes ago

Brilliant, thank you, I can't draw for shit

[-] [email protected] 2 points 11 hours ago

Awesome. I understand now.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 11 hours ago

I'm sorry, I will never forgive you for your terrible phone doodle

[-] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

What is this post even talking about why does your silverware have a pillow

[-] [email protected] 12 points 1 day ago

curl it up under your chin like the statue "The Thinker"

[-] [email protected] 21 points 1 day ago

If I keep it under their neck, it usually doesn’t fall asleep as fast.

[-] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

Ah good thought

[-] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

That's like a metaphor for our whole relationship. I'm out. I'll meet you at the food court.

[-] [email protected] 14 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

There's special pillows designed for this that have a little passthrough for your arm and a small amount of sturdy material so your arm doesn't get crushed.

Called couples pillows or or cuddle pillows or something like that. I have wanted one for some time.

[-] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

Because of that I only spoon in space.

[-] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

Along their back or between my legs. Something like this:

[-] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

My dude, this picture has clarified nothing, lol.

[-] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

Took me a while to figure out too! Turns out, it's easier for the smaller person to be a big spoon.

If you're larger than your partner, lay lower in the bed compared to your partner. Your face should be at their back. Pull that cushion down with you to help your neck. If they curl up a little, your arm can bend a bit forwards as it ends up at their legs, and it won't fall asleep at all.

Happy napping! 😉

[-] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Also called "jetpacking" (especially if the smaller person is gassy).

[-] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

What if you're the jetpack but your partner is gassy? Damn lactose intolerance.

[-] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

My ribcage rests on a memory foam pillow. My head rests on a buckwheat pillow. My arm goes in the gap between the two pillows. The buckwheat pillow is easily remoldable so my arm can go underneath and find a good angle without making my head feel unstable.

[-] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

Sometimes sacrifices must be made.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

I build a bridge out of our pillows. Two bor the base, then one spanning a small gap. I put my Earthward arm's hand up the the gap and my head on the bridge pillow.

Nothing falls asleep improperly.

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[-] [email protected] -3 points 1 day ago

The spoons are the same size. Two different size spoons don't fit against eachother.

this post was submitted on 09 Jun 2025
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