So over the weekend Mr P and I formally broke up. First there was an argument where a ramekin was thrown, then a calming down and proper conversation. We've been in separate bedrooms for years so not much is really changing. He initially asked me to leave. I said no, I've been paying rent for 13½ years to the owner of the property who isn't you. Neither of us can afford to move anywhere or pay market rent. Also with him on the dole, can't afford to pay for all car related expenses, which is needed with the children. I said I'm still happy to pay that stuff and I think he saw that it was a pretty good deal actually and he's best to eat humble pie and stick with it. It's in my interests for him to have a car to do child/school related things whilst I'm at work, and I'm happy to contribute to that. I told him (not for the first time) that he's welcome to see other people as long as discretion is exercised regarding the children. Since then things have been really civil between us. Let's see how it goes.
I think you've made the right decision to be honest.
Remember to take care of yourself! It's easy to get caught up in the kids, and Mr P, and just all the stress and difficult conversation, and you forget to care for yourself too! Treat yourself! Be it a cafe coffee, or a luxurious bath/shower, read your fave book/listen to your fav song, etc
Breaking up is incrediblely hard on the soul, especially if you still have to live together, but you are strong, kind, clever, and AMAZING!
YOU GOT THIS HOT STUFF!! 💜💜💜
That sounds like a positive approach to a shitty situation.
Thankyou, I'm hopeful that we can work our way through the "not working out" situation as peaceably as possible. Especially for Elder Minipeeler, who at first seemed pretty bummed out but is gradually realising that nothing is radically different.
I think it's better to separate and be honest with kids that things change in people's lives, than to keep pretending. The social lies wear on kids, they're still developing and things subtly being wrong fucks them up I reckon. Do you guys have support networks where one of you could take off for a weekend leaving the other alone from time to time? Go stay with a parent or friend occasionally just to get/give each other some space?
for reals, I grew up in a fighting house and the goddamn divorce (and this was in the 1980's, so social stigma wahoo) was a goddamn relief.
I was five at the time.
It sucks that it was needed, but I trust that this will be the start of a happier life for you and the mini peelers
Hugs 🫂. I wish you and the kiddos all the best moving forward. ❤️
It sucks that things worked out that way, but I'm glad he was able to be civil about it afterward and it seems like you'll be able to make things work how they are for the moment.
Man , bringing home other people sounds super awkward. But congrats for finally setting boundaries
Thankyou ❤️ He won't be bringing them home, he'll be going out.
I'm so sorry to hear.
I hope you'll be able to work through it all in the best way possible for you and your family.
I'm so sorry.
I hope this goes as smoothly as you need it to
Night walk. Hambam ended up rolling in some other dog's shit. Needed bath.
I was not very popular at first but he ended up accepting his fate.
Getting that dog into the bath wasn't very easy.
I walked out of work at lunch yesterday. My boss was understanding about it - he is…aware of my week! - but I’m now in the grey area where I’m sort of waiting on funerals.
First one of the two is tomorrow
Great image to wake up to lol
Good morning Gibson
Woop there it is
Rent increase notice received. I had a feeling it was coming, as the places near me with a similar floorplan were increasing. I almost can't be mad tho, it's still $50pw under the comparable places lol!
Sent a reluctant message to the apartment using one of my two car parks, about starting to charge for it. I won't charge them if I find a job though, and what I'm asking per month is $150 less than other car parks around here too so 💀🤷🏼♀️
I am more pasta then human... I may have eaten a bit too quick...
There are more than a handful of nonnas out there (all of them) that think you haven't eaten enough.
I’ll be joining you on Friday….then we’ll take over the world!
I've decided I need a detailed and comprehensive moving plan to make sure everything goes smoothly for my relocation. After a lot of research and considerable thought, here is what I have come up with:
Step 1: Put everything in boxes
Step 2: Move boxes to new house
Step 3: Unpack all the boxes
I think I've got this.
I'm thinking about what I would like for my birthday and the only thing I can come up with is a caviar tasting box.
https://www.yarravalleycaviar.com.au/product-category/packages-gift-boxes/
If I want something I buy it. I really can't think of anything else.
Did everyone stockpile machetes before they were banned today? It slipped my mind and I forgot to get mine
This has to be one of the least effective and stupidest knee-jerk reactions I've yet seen. It would be more to the point to ban shopping centres imo. Or teenagers. Machetes are really really easy to make - long grass slasher machine blades make the best ones. This is traditional in the bush for clearing scrub and butchering deer/sheep and opening Queensland Blue pumpkins if you can't find the bow saw. Just screw the blade to a handle of some sort and sharpen. And I don't think they're going to ban council grass mowers anytime soon. Or Bunnings. Or pumpkins.
dear optichoice caller who refused to acknowledge "not interested"
I hope you enjoy the high volume youtube poop I put the phone next to, and the complaint to the DNC
Usually we have Spotify on at work, but today we have the radio and they’re advertising a competition to win a ski trip to Utah and all I can think of is what if you won the competition and then were denied entry because border officials didn’t think it was enough of a reason to visit? I wonder if there’s the option to just take money instead, haha.
Well I've had my "stuff I bought from Temu that is actually tiny" experience.
we need pictures 🤭
I bought some iron on patches which are half the size I expected ( pictures coming )
yay, no rain on the horizon , I think I will to the city for a bit
Famous last words. Been itchiing to get doggo out for a walk but everytime we're about to head it starts pouring for a few minutes and he hides lol.
$400+ for floor seats for One Republic at Sidney Myer Music Bowl? $180+ for terrace seats? Fuck that.
For some of the worst audio quality possible in the live music capital of Australia, too.
Sigur ros concert was over $400 and $200 for the nosebleeds.
I was 4th row at Sigur Ros the other day and it was ~$220. Still a shitload, but not that crazy
How was it????
I was desperate to go but missed out.
train delays all day from various punks walking out on tracks
wtf , this is intolerable
I just broke my packing tape dispenser.
Fortunately it is just a plastic guard so I can still use it, I just need to be careful not to gouge the tape with the metal cutter.
Maybe I've been too busy to notice but did I miss Autumn? Seems winter is here already.
I stand corrected. My Temu order is fucking AWESOME!!! I fucking love decorating my space!!! Aaaaargh!!!!!!
More photos on the weekend.
I, too, would like to receive a cat in the mail 😂
Put me in for an order too please.
I am exhausted and I'm still so far behind where I want to be packing wise. All this stuff seems neverending, and everything seems to triple in size once I try to put it into a box. At least I should be building some good muscle with all this lifting.
Miss Meow likes the stacked boxed decor theme, she's been having a great time exploring everything.
I don't think the heating is working in my workplace, I'm cold.
My heater is getting a service this morning. In a few short hours I'll be warm. Glorious.
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