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Also, the first class tickets for the train were totally worth it.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)
[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

That’s some Grade A dad’ing Squid! Happy for ya, proud of ya. Best of luck over there!

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 hour ago
[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 hour ago

I seriously think airlines are a sham after riding a bunch of trains.

On a train:

Seats are massive. First class wasn't like 5x the ticket price. No charge for luggage. So wack-ass TSA giving you conflicting rules about if you should keep your shoes/belts on or not. You want to rent a room so you can sleep, do it. You wanna jog from one end to another? Sure.

Unfortunately in America, trains don't fully connect to most places. And because of the price, attracts some real skeevos who leave the place a mess. In most other countries, my god. It's beautiful.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

The UK just gained several precious people. Good for them!

Lemmy will be okay if you don't keep posting as much as you've been. Do whatever you need to do to set your family up there.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

I'm both glad you made it out and jealous I don't have a similar history with another country to move to. You're a great parent for everything you do for your daughter. Hope the last bit of the trip went smoothly and you find a job quickly.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 hours ago
[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 hour ago

Ohh that's a rough ass flight for a teen :) good luck over there!

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

I just took a look at your post history to see the origin story to this, seems to me you ARE Lemmy?! Every other post I saw seems to be from you...

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

Yeah, Lemmy is basically just Flying Squid and The_Picard_Maneuver. The rest of us are bots and/or figment of their imagination.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 hour ago

Can confirm. I am a imagination of FlyingSquid.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Someone once said that emigrating is trading one set of societal issues for another. If you’re happy with the trade, awesome.

Good luck in your new homeland.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Yes, and I am trading the societal issue of possibly having my daughter tortured for being queer for the one of that not happening.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 hours ago

That is a valid choice.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Welcome to the UK. And if anyone asks, you ain't seen me, right?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 hour ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 28 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

Hey, congrats for taking that big leap, even if it is to the UK (having lived in a couple of places in Europe including over a decade in the UK, my opinion of the UK is pretty low).

It takes a lot of guts to take yourself out of the environment you know (with all it's implicit expectations of "this is how people behave") and move into a different environment were people don't value the same things, expect the same or behave the same.

Good luck!

[–] [email protected] 22 points 6 hours ago (2 children)

Thankfully, due to my British father and grandmother, I know some of the basics. But I still have a lot to learn. Thankfully I've got us registered with an NHS clinic (waiting to hear back from them) and just got our new phone numbers.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

Wow, you actually did it! I remember you laying out your plan here on Lemmy a few months ago. Kudos to you

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 hour ago

Yeah it was a fun journey to watch it all unfold!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago) (1 children)

Yeah, it's a bit of a headache to figure out all those details if you have nobody to help you, though generally you can figure out a lot of those things by talking to coworkers - as a saying from my country goes "Those who have a mouth can get to Rome"

However the "expectations" I was talking about are more the nitty gritty details of interacting with others in everyday life one isn't really aware are social conventions (because everybody follows the same version of it as you do in your country, so one naturally thinks that's just the way people behave in general) until moving to a different country and finding out those things aren't actually universal.

Things like saying "it's interesting" when an English person asks you your opinion about something is actually being very critical (you can literally use it as an insult), you're supposed to stand on the right side of escalators if you're not walking (especially in a Tube station) or that, unless indicated otherwise, you're supposed to queue for things if there are other people waiting for it.

Figuring this kind of stuff out is actually quiet an interesting personal growth experience, IMHO.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 hours ago (2 children)

Where do people not line up for something to wait for it?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Often it's more like not respecting the sanctity of the line. Americans got the tradition of the queue from the Brits. It was a source of constant annoyance when I lived in Germany when people would cut the line and others just let them without objecting.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

people would cut the line and others just let them without objecting.

I can't even imagine that being the case in a place like Germany... Some places sure, but there!?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 hours ago

It was 30 years ago, at least. Can't speak to today.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 hours ago

It's pretty common in most countries for things like waiting for the bus to not queue and in some countries people won't even queue when the bus arrives and they're trying to go in, and instead just try and jostle their way in.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

Good luck, I hope you and your child find the UK to be less shitty than America. :)

Having emigrated to France with my kids in 2017, I think you're making a good decision.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 hours ago

Was this a similar move as with OP? Meaning you had preexisting ties to the country before moving?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

Ah awesome, I was only thinking about you both the other evening and wondered how you were doing.

I hope everything is going well so far.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 hours ago

I'll tell you when I'm less exhausted myself.

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