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Also, the first class tickets for the train were totally worth it.

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[–] [email protected] 28 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Hey, congrats for taking that big leap, even if it is to the UK (having lived in a couple of places in Europe including over a decade in the UK, my opinion of the UK is pretty low).

It takes a lot of guts to take yourself out of the environment you know (with all it's implicit expectations of "this is how people behave") and move into a different environment were people don't value the same things, expect the same or behave the same.

Good luck!

[–] [email protected] 23 points 9 hours ago (2 children)

Thankfully, due to my British father and grandmother, I know some of the basics. But I still have a lot to learn. Thankfully I've got us registered with an NHS clinic (waiting to hear back from them) and just got our new phone numbers.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

Wow, you actually did it! I remember you laying out your plan here on Lemmy a few months ago. Kudos to you

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 hours ago

Yeah it was a fun journey to watch it all unfold!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago) (1 children)

Yeah, it's a bit of a headache to figure out all those details if you have nobody to help you, though generally you can figure out a lot of those things by talking to coworkers - as a saying from my country goes "Those who have a mouth can get to Rome"

However the "expectations" I was talking about are more the nitty gritty details of interacting with others in everyday life one isn't really aware are social conventions (because everybody follows the same version of it as you do in your country, so one naturally thinks that's just the way people behave in general) until moving to a different country and finding out those things aren't actually universal.

Things like saying "it's interesting" when an English person asks you your opinion about something is actually being very critical (you can literally use it as an insult), you're supposed to stand on the right side of escalators if you're not walking (especially in a Tube station) or that, unless indicated otherwise, you're supposed to queue for things if there are other people waiting for it.

Figuring this kind of stuff out is actually quiet an interesting personal growth experience, IMHO.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 hours ago (2 children)

Where do people not line up for something to wait for it?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Often it's more like not respecting the sanctity of the line. Americans got the tradition of the queue from the Brits. It was a source of constant annoyance when I lived in Germany when people would cut the line and others just let them without objecting.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

people would cut the line and others just let them without objecting.

I can't even imagine that being the case in a place like Germany... Some places sure, but there!?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 hours ago

It was 30 years ago, at least. Can't speak to today.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 hours ago

It's pretty common in most countries for things like waiting for the bus to not queue and in some countries people won't even queue when the bus arrives and they're trying to go in, and instead just try and jostle their way in.