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“wow hexbear’s most annoying user returns and the site immediately starts to implode. really makes you think!” -a brave but fallen commenter

It’s an honor to be y’all’s most annoying user. I have been back for all of 3 days and I’m already catching strays, hell yeah.

To start out this classic “TC69 takes the reigns” post, I want everyone to take a moment to read this “I’m leaving” post I made during the Great Pronoun Wars and it’s slew of bloody battles before we move on as a refresher for where things were when I left. I want everyone in this chat to take a big step back and look at the overall reaction to this struggle session with my leaving post in mind. I want everyone to consider if there is still work to be done in the community.

Over the years while completely detached from the community for mental health reasons, I’ve heard whispers on the wind about the state of Hexbear – telling me that while things have massively improved for trans people, there is still work to be done in the chauvinism, misogyny, and overall toxicity departments. Wild that I managed to catch some strays, but I hope that “really makes you think”, I guess.

To cool everyone’s jets, you will be getting your slop back, but it’s definitely not going to come without some changes to the community as a whole. I’m talkin’ constitutional amendments. We will be updating the COC in the coming week-ish to explicitly disallow misogynistic and chauvinistic language/sentiments – what will be explicitly said, I don’t yet know but I do have some ideas having reviewed the COC for the first time in 3 years last night.

Having just come back outta the blue, I didn’t have much of a stake in this struggle session nor much context for the circumstances that led to this decision being made but from what I can make sense of, it sounds like we’re combing for the aforementioned issues with too fine of a comb. My view of the situation is this:

  • I will provide an example to start. There are three overlapping communities that I remember receiving heavy pushback to have separated: Politics, Electoralism, and News. Each of these communities may have the same posts on average, but the way in which users discuss the content is distinctly different. I view this attempt at community changes in a similar light. Before the next point, I will say that from what I’ve gathered, I view the dunk_tank in more of a "here is some general stinky shit regarding politics, lib brain rot, electoral copium, etc., etc. Let’s all point, laugh, crack jokes, regurgitate the lukewarm takes we saw on Twitter yesterday” way.
  • With point #1 in mind, I agree with the overall sentiment of a counterpropaganda community as well as see a healthy appetite amongst users for a more educational approach to “dunking”. However, I don’t think taking out the holy centrist middle ground and asking for more effortful posts was the best step. Perhaps all we want to do is point and laugh, perhaps a baby leftist sees something Not Good TM somewhere else on the internet, and while they do not have all the context or education on the matter to make an effort post of why said thing is Not Good TM, they do have the ability to identify it as Not Good TM and can post it to let other people tear it apart. There is value in that, but we need to work on the shadowboxing and cut down on the aforementioned chauvinistic, misogynistic and overall toxic tendencies, folks.
  • There is equally value in seeing chud shit online and wanting to go in-depth for new leftists about why something is reactionary, but I don’t think everyone is meant to be a poster – not that I don’t believe in y’all’s posting power, but it’s true. 353K posts, 4.75M comments. Some people just live for the comment sections and that’s okay, I love you all the same. Commenters are still braver than any troop.

I feel like the overall sentiment is that we don’t have a problem with dunk-esque content, just the means by which it’s discussed – particularly involving, again, the aforementioned issues and conversations devolving into shadowboxing.

So here’s what we’re gonna do. COC Update, then run a slop channel naming competition for a new contained community. I’m going to make a megathread for the community to decide the name of our new slop trough. Most upvoted comment after a week decides the name (some restrictions may apply, I’m not going to let this turn into the Mountain Dew naming competition, obviously).

That’s it, that’s the post. I apologize for the rustiness in making community announcements, it has been a while. Love you all.

Original post here: https://hexbear.net/post/3856299?scrollToComments=false

EDIT: Look, I just got back from a 3 year hiatus 3 days ago. I'm definitely not privy to everything that has been said or done with regards to this issue while I've been slowly walking down the pool stairs and adjusting to the temperature of the water. From what I've read, some outta pocket shit was definitely said, and I apologize on behalf of the team for the defensiveness and botched communication on this rollout. For now, I'm working on addressing things that are immediately within my control and power as per usual with these types of "TC69 picks up the pieces" posts.

We aren't some turbo transphobic cabal, as I said 3 years ago in the exact same way, we're just volunteers trying to continually better the community and navigate taking action against certain types of behaviors/sentiments (something literally no other social media platform gives a fuck about doing, if they aren't actively encouraging negative behaviors to begin with). While what was said did not come from me, I can guarantee it was made under immense stress and pressure, per usual. That does not excuse it, but there is certainly a reason why the running joke is "wow TC69 is literally Stalin with her 5 attempted resignations" - see Carcosa's attempted resignation last night. I love y'all, but this is getting outta hand.

Please be patient as we work through these issues and navigate taking steps to improve. And for the love of G O D please let me catch up some more before our next struggle session.

EDIT 2: I said it 3 years ago, I'll say it again today. I'm not going to sit here and post every little example of things we're describing as an issue when the modlog is publicly available. It's accessible from any page on the site at the very bottom and in the sidebar of all comms. Please let your keyboard breath and spend like 15 minutes reviewing the modlog, lmao.

EDIT 3: Sangria was Alaskaball. Banning themself was a bit. Furthermore, they were unaware that fella was a gendered term, as was I. Yes, they did effectively misgender themselves if you consider fella to be a gendered term. They don't consider it to be. Therefore, non-issue on this point.

EDIT 4: I'm locking the thread. I tried my best to give some decent paths forward amidst the chaos. Someone else can deal with this.

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[–] [email protected] 72 points 3 days ago

Obviously this isn't directed at you, TC

So, I don't give a shit about the controversy itself, but the way that the mods in a closed chat just hyped themselves up on saying "This is what white bros do" to each other and then handing down the pronouncement that some of the most popular communities are only for chauvinists and then masking their real motives with an excuse about the names is just awful. The disingenuousness, the insular snobbishness, the immaturity, the cynicality. It's just disgusting.

I have no further thoughts.

[–] [email protected] 50 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

There's something really funny about a bunch of commie admins who want a serious leftist community, but rather than actually committing to anything like democratic centralism by gauging their communities' thoughts on things they instead unironically do the whole undemocratic shadow cabal 1984 meme by dropping half-baked ideas on everyone with zero prior warning or discussion.

And by "really funny," I of course mean that the admins should take their own advice and go touch grass for a bit, because this is by far the dumbest struggle session this site has had and that's saying something.

[–] [email protected] 78 points 3 days ago (1 children)

The antagonism shown by the admins and mods every time they decide something behind the scenes then spring it on everyone unilaterally is so exhausting. If you hate interacting with users so much that you're making alts to harass people or just deciding to ban people who politely disagree with you then this really isn't the right gig for you

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[–] [email protected] 72 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

this is being handled so childishly by what seems like a good handful of the mods and admins lol. complete shit show. why not just lock the thread and perma everyone criticizing you all at this point, or do you enjoy arguing with us that much? i acknowledge that some users have acted overly hostile and crossed lines which sucks for you all to have to deal with but you all have created this situation (problem was fake to begin with) and gone on to drop the ball on resolving it several times in comical fashion.

[–] [email protected] 46 points 3 days ago

I went to make dinner and come back to a literal shitstorm. What the actual fuck is going on? Our admin and mod teams need to seriously do some self crit now. This is the most pathetic shit I've seen online in quite a long time, and that's going back to my reddit days.

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[–] [email protected] 44 points 3 days ago

You know, honestly I had been hoping that a couple days of nothing being done would be in order. Where the old comms remained locked, and everyone just sat in their corners for a bit and maybe we just all let things pause for a while.

I am incredibly disappointed to see some users that I saw make excellent points like REgon, usa_suxxx, among many others get temp bans.

I also see that many bans are being handed out with the same comment copied and pasted, multiple times to many different people.

I understand that moderating can be a slog and there's so MUCH SHIT that has to be shoveled, but I can't shake the feeling that it is being done with a little bit of glee. That each ban with the same pithy one liner just gives you a little burst of dopamine, each time that you do it.

Which is sad. Truly.

I never really appreciated your moderating style TC69, because you seemed to just take it as a given that everything had to be your way or the highway, and I'm disappointed to see you return.

[–] [email protected] 86 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (12 children)

"To cool everyone’s jets, you will be getting your slop back,"

The slop was only the catalyst. The issue quickly became that mod statement misgendering much of the site(and having an un-CWed self harm reference), harassment against people who were against it, and the fact that other lemmy mods got told before we did. Is there any plan to address those issues?

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Or just ban people for opposing it I guess

[–] [email protected] 67 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (25 children)

Yeah are there going to be any consequences for whoever cooked up 20 alt accounts to harrass everyone that disagreed with them, and tell users that they should kys/their parents should never had them/should have been killed? On top of purposeful misgendering and claiming that a user who exclusively used they/them pronouns was actually a cisgender man. I really did not care about this issue much, until that started.

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[–] [email protected] 81 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

a plea to the admins generally: please address the flagrant transphobia/bizarre gender essentialism that was the thrust of a couple of the (anonymous!) mod takes from the big thread. if this gets swept under the rug my faith in admins/mods to consistently oppose bigotry will be severely damaged. the silence is already deafening on the issue.

[–] [email protected] 58 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (8 children)

This needs addressed immediately. This type of shit can't be running rampant around leadership let alone the userbase.

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[–] [email protected] 60 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Why is someone who just returned after 3 years in charge of fixing this? Nothing personal but you're in the worst position to address culture.

I said it 3 years ago, I'll say it again today. I'm not going to sit here and post every little example of things we're describing as an issue when the modlog is publicly available.

If mods/admins want us to take the modlog seriously they have to take it seriously first. What is a user supposed to think when they look at the modlog and see this or this?

[–] [email protected] 55 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (4 children)

suddenly turning bans into a big joke feels like a way to deflect criticism for... banning people for valid criticism (as well as condescending in ban messages). cynical and irony poisoned.

[–] [email protected] 48 points 3 days ago

Not just deflection, but obfuscation as well.

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[–] [email protected] 54 points 3 days ago

feeling very foolish for ever thinking the internet moderators on here don't have that much in common with all internet moderators ever

[–] [email protected] 50 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I'm honestly baffled that people are surprised by the mods' reactions to this. This has always been how they handle things. The only difference is that the target has become a critical mass of regular Hexbear users.

When we first started, we were under threat of wreckers and other reactionary elements. Our mod tools and policies were forged in that environment. But with defederation and increasing isolation, these elements grew to be less and less. Our policies have remained the same. The tools of external subjugation have been turned inward. The techniques we used to hunt down literal nazis are now being turned against the regular userbase.

This has always been how the mod/admin team operated. Hexbear is viewed simultaneously as serious political project that necessitates a party line but also a pet website so they can arbitrarily push changes from above. The only difference is that most users agreed with the decisions at the time, or at least didn't care enough to raise a fuss.

I've been here since the very beginning, all four and a half years plus a few on the subreddit. This is literally the organizational structure the users built and supported. I don't see it changing anytime soon.

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[–] [email protected] 67 points 3 days ago (31 children)

which one of you did this please

[–] [email protected] 75 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (3 children)

This smug condescension is exactly the kind of shit that pissed me off about the anonymous mod post. Its not like they were even shitposting they were contributing to the conversation constructively

E: and its from TC69??? Disappointing to say the least

[–] [email protected] 49 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Cool, it appears @morte was banned for this comment...

[–] [email protected] 53 points 3 days ago (5 children)

All I can say is that for me it is not disappointing. In order to be disappointed one needs to have expectations to begin with, and as apparently one of the very few people who remembers what TC69 was actually like as an admin, I am not disappointed in the least.

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[–] [email protected] 71 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Christ, the next ban was "none of you are capable of realizing when you need a break"

Mods are absolutely not beating the allegations. Irritating, patronizing bullshit tbh

Edit: and from what I can tell, @Chair was banned for this comment with the mod note "Break Time"

[–] [email protected] 61 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

absolutely wild lmao, love too be infantilized on my serious commieposting forum

[–] [email protected] 60 points 3 days ago (5 children)
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[–] [email protected] 70 points 3 days ago (5 children)

This wasn't really adressed, so I'm just gonna include my comment from the last thread, so maybe it will get adressed, as it was way out of pocket and deserves a response.

I think there should probably be some accountability for whoever was/were behind "the white cishet man vibes" part of the post, editing it out of the original post doesn't change that is was there, saying that shit was kinda fucked, as many people in the original post noted

[–] [email protected] 65 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Yeah if you go view the front page of the dredge tank right now, only 4/20 of the posts there are made by people primarily using he/him pronouns. So not only was it a shitty thing to say, it was also factually untrue. And that's not even mentioning that some of those guys using he/him pronouns are likely not het and/or cis either, given the demographics on hexbear.

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[–] [email protected] 38 points 3 days ago (1 children)

i realize i haven't posted at all in this strugglesesh which is honestly a good thing because even just reading it all has landed me a massive headache but i'm so serious when i say that i believe that bits should not have a place in these kinds of discussions. people are genuinely upset and i really don't think the confusion that is arising from these bits and inside jokes are helping the matter and are rather spiraling things further out of control. deeper-sadness

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[–] [email protected] 48 points 3 days ago (4 children)

I gotta say banning everyone for everything all the time was quite a funny bit back in the CTH days when we were still getting lots of recruits from reddit and various other places, but banning everyone for everything now when we're not really growing and not really recruiting is probably a less good idea. Every time someone leaves for good it's unlikely they're being replaced by someone new and that's going to eventually lead to us falling below some critical mass of users required to maintain an active community.

I mean definitely ban people for good reasons but banning people for jokes or because some feathers got slightly ruffled is a lot less worthwhile these days. To be clear I'm not saying give hate a pass... absolutely do not give hate a pass. But the mod log is public, as you say, and I find myself poking around in there a lot to see what's going on and seeing folks banned for dumb reasons is not a nice time.

Other than that welcome back. TC69 thought can and should continue to be upheld without perm banning every mildly rude poster.

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[–] [email protected] 65 points 3 days ago (27 children)

Also to add.

Can mods/admin stop making big changes to the site without posing the question to the community? Can this be written in big bold font somewhere? Was nothing learned during the vcj incident?

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[–] [email protected] 64 points 3 days ago (12 children)

This post has mentioned chauvinistic, misogynistic, and toxic tendencies three times but provided literally no examples of such - nor did Carcosa's original post. I am not trying to say that these things have never existed or never will exist in posts/comments on my beloved Hexbear nor am I saying that you (or any other admin/mod) should have to provide examples of literally any/everything TC69 - but I am begging you to actually provide some legitimate examples because otherwise this just sounds like the same "we don't want the dunk tank because white cishet male behavior" justification that everyone was like jesse-wtf to

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[–] [email protected] 34 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

I promised myself I wasn't going to comment. I've been reading shit for days on the sideline and just biting my tongue. And I can no longer keep doing that.

So I'll try to be brief.

After witnessing a few struggle sessions in my time, and being the center of a recurring one for a while, I'm just going to be blunt: I don't trust the admins. Those who run this site do so behind closed doors and they have an agenda. An agenda often at odds with the userbase, and drenched in hypocrisy when decisions are made and rolled out.

Just fess up. You all hold the keys and you do what you want, when you want. It's always been that way. Please, stop pretending anything will ever be equitable. It's just... not. I would respect the honesty vice management bending themselves into pretzels to make it look like their doing the community any favors. I mean, lets be real: the only reason why the tanks discussion is causing such a meltdown is because the overreach this time was off the charts, affecting so many users. But it's always been that way.

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[–] [email protected] 65 points 3 days ago (2 children)

then run a slop channel naming competition for a new contained community

this will be the most important election of our lives

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[–] [email protected] 45 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

So...

Just trying to summarize for myself what to make of this.

In summation:

  • It's over. For now.
  • Adjustments to renaming the mockery forums.
  • Adjustments to code of conduct and new filters to eliminate but not limited to misogynistic/sexist/transphobic slurs.
  • Instead of forcing people to effort post in both forums, they'll be separated to encourage effort post in one and low effort mockery material in another.

I think there's left over unresolved feelings from this struggle session:

  • anonymous moderators statement in Carcosa's initial announcement was filled with direct and indirect verbal abuse and belligerent hostility to the user base.
  • Unilateral decisions being imposed upon the user base by a clique of moderators who appear to have contempt for their comms.

Is there anything else?

[–] [email protected] 31 points 3 days ago

This tagline that just popped up firmly illustrates my position on the matter

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