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[–] [email protected] 11 points 19 hours ago

It's a tie between licking ice cream and saying something is adorable.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 20 hours ago

Sucking dick.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 23 hours ago (2 children)
  • Wear orange or pink.
  • Eat quiche
  • Like poetry
  • Hang out with girls at recess
  • Wear an earring
  • Owning Laurie Anderson or Philip Glass CDs
[–] [email protected] 4 points 19 hours ago

Damn, they took orange too? Deadass not making this pizza

[–] [email protected] 6 points 22 hours ago

Quiche is amazing. Who doesn't like eggs and ham/bacon? Hanging out with gurls, well yeah nothing straight about that...

[–] [email protected] 11 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

eat a chicken sandwich. Apparently straight men have to eat burgers.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 22 hours ago (2 children)

Hilarious considering chik-a-fila history (unless it's a reference and I missed it for too not being American and having never heard about them before their homophobia was revealed)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 18 hours ago

Many bigots feel entitled to their bigotry but would probably be outraged if they knew some of the other things the people around them at the rallies they attend believe.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 23 hours ago

It's funny to me all the times that I've been considered not manly enough, whether it's wearing my hot pink vans or a pink shirt or tie, allowing my gf or now my daughters to paint my nails, and tons of other examples I've been called gay for too. It made me think, what really makes a man. And going by their own definition, isn't it one sign of a man to not be swayed by the opinion of someone who seeks only to denigrate? So why would I care about their opinion?

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Wearing an earring in your right ear, but it's ok to wear it in the left... Or the other way around. I could never remember which.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 21 hours ago

When I was a kid, the saying (here in the UK) was "right ear, right queer".

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

~~Don’t wear it solely on the left~~

Apparently I got it wrong, sorry for giving you the gay

[–] [email protected] 2 points 19 hours ago

I hope you're happy. Bro is now getting pounded in the ass bc of you

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 14 hours ago

Looking at my fingernails while my fingers were on top of my palm

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 day ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 day ago (2 children)

According to my dad, considering something as 'lovely'. Even if it's the exhaust note of a motorcycle.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

Was this some iteration of "straight men don't care about aesthetics, they care about function" type of thing??

Because that's such a boring existence. I'm sorry your dad hates aesthetics. I hope you've found your own tastes despite him.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Putting a wig on my best friend and spooning him while he's asleep.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago (5 children)

Take my pants all the way off when I poop

[–] [email protected] 3 points 22 hours ago

Better than not pulling em down at all

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

We're all at least a little gay πŸ’œ

[–] [email protected] 4 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Hold my arms in a position so that my hands grab the sides of my belly.

(which wasn't even something I was consciously doing, but apparently it was enough to make a fellow male teenager exclaim sarcastically that I was truly standing there in a very heterosexual way)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 18 hours ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 hours ago

TIL about that term, yeah that seems to be what I mean

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

Wear a kilt?

TBH I've never tried and nobody told me it was gay. But I'm a sweaty person and I would love to air out my crotch except for fear of social criticism.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 day ago (4 children)

These are all example from decades ago growing up in the 90’s.

I was called gay for not liking soccer, like it’s gay to not watch men chase a ball in shorts.

I was called gay for wearing UGG boots as a dude. Like if we even want to accept gay as an insult, I would argue the person bothered by such things as what shoes one is wearing is more fitting of an insult.

Fun fact. When I had a house mate who was gay, it was very difficult not to use gay as a word for something that wasn’t fun. Like this show is gay. He didn’t mind, but still wanted to stop.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

I somehow managed to condition myself into thinking of gay as a complement term. People I hung out with in high school used to call things "straight" derogatively. Something was straight if it was boring, bland, predictable, superficially performative in a conformist manner, etc.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 22 hours ago)

I read a lot as a child and watched very little TV. So in first grade, I only knew the "traditional" meaning of gay. The first time I remember hearing it in the sense of homosexual was when a classmate told me, in a hushed and gossipy tone, "one of the Teletubbies is gay." (I did know about the show even if I hadn't ever watched it.) I didn't really react, but all I was thinking was, "aren't they all?"

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 22 hours ago

The one and only thing was the way I held my wrists/hands when I was younger/into my teens. What's super weird is it was my dad who brought it up and mentioned it a lot but he is super supportive of lgbtq+ that's the weird thing to me.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

Using black eyeliner.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 23 hours ago

Clean my ass

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 day ago (2 children)

when I finished high school and was talking with friends about going to uni, a few of us were talking a out renting a place together when we got into uni to be close (instead of 2 hours away like we were). another friend we should never do that because people would think we are gay. obligatory he is a Christian fundamentalist who is highly likely gay himself

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