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I don't think the place is here, but is there a safe space for leftists to talk about sex and dating? (hexbear.net)
submitted 5 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
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I understand that Hexbear has young and vulnerable people, making it potentially unsafe for something as personal and private as sexuality, but I was wondering if there are many online spaces that are friendly and nonjudgmental for that.

There are topics I'd like to discuss like classism in hookup culture/kink communities, but I don't want to make people uncomfortable. I also can't account for wreckers and just general topic derailment.

Also in general, are there considerations I should take when broaching these topics in online spaces?

I feel like we're doing a good job of protecting people from sex pests and I don't want to make a safe place unsafe.

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[–] [email protected] 38 points 5 months ago (5 children)

stop fucking

[–] [email protected] 26 points 5 months ago

Way ahead of you.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Start making love instead

[–] [email protected] 20 points 5 months ago

I want to make hate. sicko-crowd

[–] [email protected] 19 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Never even started

[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 months ago

king

[–] [email protected] 13 points 5 months ago

They hated him because he told them the truth

[–] [email protected] 11 points 5 months ago

I agree with what this man has told us.

[–] [email protected] 36 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Sometimes I'm like "maybe it would be cool if the ~~fedposting honeypot~~ bear website had a horny discussion board" and other times I'm like OH HELL FUCKING NO

[–] [email protected] 21 points 5 months ago

Yeah that's terrifying.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 5 months ago

BDSM/kink communities tend to be willing to talk about this kind of thing.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 5 months ago (1 children)

start fucking

[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 months ago

Fuck starting

[–] [email protected] 13 points 5 months ago (3 children)

I feel like there is an unwritten rule every discord has to have a porn zone. I that'd probably be the place to start. Failing that I think you woudl have to got to sex positive spaces and work backwards. Most quink spaces are probably half way there. True most lifestyle spaces are full of liberals. I would just expect you to have better luck finding a fetlife group than a lemme instance.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 5 months ago (1 children)

porn zone

I think OP is looking for a place to have honest discussions about sex, not an explicitly horny space where people post porn. those are two entirely different things

[–] [email protected] 16 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Yeah. Like I think it's weird to consider the power dynamic at play when only wealthy people can safely host, especially if you're queer.

Or the way racist sexual stereotypes dehumanizes people of color.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

only wealthy people can safely host, especially if you're queer.

You mean only people who have their own place can safely invite people over to hook up?

[–] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago

Yeah, but in metropolitan areas it's straight-up dystopian

[–] [email protected] 12 points 5 months ago

We enter the Porn Zone when a RedTube Premium subscription becomes greater than 60% of a gooner's budget

[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 months ago (1 children)

What kind of discord are you in?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago

I feel like lots of discords I have been in just have that mullet experience where there is just a party going on in the back someplace. Is it just me?

[–] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago

I don't think the place is here

YOUR DAMN RIGHT

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