I bought and am gradually fixing up a large dilapidated house in my city to use as emergency housing for trans people. I can afford all fixed costs (mortgage, property tax, insurance utilities) by myself. In March, a distant connection of a comrade moved in. Our agreement was that they contribute 10% of their income (~15% of the fixed costs of the house) and contribute as they are able to our collective emergency housing project. I work somewhat more than full-time and they work itinerantly as a housesitter and selling art at craft markets.

Since then, I have found out that my roommate comes from a rich family able to support her in a city across the state, has a masters degree, and has no debt. For instance, their family paid for them to fly and stay out of country on a two week trip. They are also somewhat more able than me. Another comrade is planning to move in with us and is taking the other currently-available bedroom meaning we cannot provide emergency housing in the medium term while I make the other rooms habitable.

My frustration has reached a breaking point when 1) they sent a passive-aggressive message about a few things our other comrade left in the entrance as they are moving in slowly, and 2) they shirked being available to receive an appliance delivery with 2 weeks' notice so we can have a working kitchen.

W/r/t to domestic labor I feel we are at a 30:70 split with my roommate doing more, and that the general level of cleanliness is below what they would like. 90% of our eating and all of our laundry are separately done.

The origin of my feeling comes from my envy at the fact that they have to work very little, and that I significantly subsidize their ability to do so---their contribution is about 20-30% what a room in a rental would cost. At the same time, I recognize the significant power imbalance in our relationship.

My principle goal is finding parity in our contribution that acknowledges our power imbalance. Additionally, our 3rd comrade who is moving in is in a significantly more precarious structural position and is offering significantly more money and labor investment in our housing project.

How can I recognize and communicate my frustration fairly?

In particular, I am looking for advice on how to insulate the attic effectively without breaking the bank or causing major moisture build up concerns.

Contemporary Al Chet

FOR THE WRONG WE HAVE DONE BEFORE YOU by hardening our hearts,

and FOR THE WRONG WE HAVE DONE BEFORE YOU by giving up hope.

… by thinking we have to go it alone,

and ... by thinking someone else will take care of it.

... by not serving our community,

and ... by serving our community and neglecting ourselves and our families.

...by ignoring the past,

and ... by not dreaming up new futures.

... by thinking we can’t make a difference,

and ... by thinking we can save the world.

V’al kulam, Elo’ah s’lichot, s’lach lanu, m’chal lanu, kaper lanu.

For all of these—G-d of forgiveness—forgive us, pardon us, grant us atonement.

FOR THE WRONG WE HAVE DONE BEFORE YOU...

... by expecting perfection from ourselves,

and ... by expecting perfection from others.

... by not taking ourselves seriously,

and ... by taking ourselves too seriously.

... by not caring for our bodies,

and ... by denying ourselves pleasure.

... by being quick to anger,

and ... by being slow to forgive.

... by thinking we are too much, and ... by thinking we are not enough.

V’al kulam, Elo’ah s’lichot, s’lach lanu, m’chal lanu, kaper lanu. For all of these—G-d of forgiveness— forgive us, pardon us, grant us atonement.

FOR THE WRONG WE HAVE DONE BEFORE YOU...

... by valuing a person’s political views over their humanity,

and ... by avoiding difficult conversations with those we disagree with.

... by forgetting that we were all once strangers in a strange land,

and ... by militarizing our world with borders.

... by not believing those who spoke up about sexual assault,

and ... by believing those who spoke up, but doing nothing about it.

... by internalizing and perpetuating racism and ableism,

and ... by internalizing and perpetuating sexism, homophobia and transphobia.

... by taking action against the occupation of Palestine but doing nothing about structural racism in the US,

and ... by taking action to confront racism in the US, but doing nothing about the occupation of Palestine.

... by believing that hoarding our resources keeps us safe,

and ... by seeing ourselves as separate from the earth.

V’al kulam, Elo’ah s’lichot, s’lach lanu, m’chal lanu, kaper lanu.

For all of these—G-d of forgiveness— forgive us, pardon us, grant us atonement.

the only good thing he ever did for me.

In order to keep a balanced butthole, it's crucial that you never shit more than you piss. Shitting too much creates disequilibriating urethral pressures, while overpissing creates intolerable bung-side pressures. While Presinold Bungold Reagan was a major proponent of bung-side economics, it never worked out and the neoliberal strat remained GOATed among the Shittycago Boy-led consensus.

Proponents of MMT (Modern bowel Movement Theory) however hold a different hypothesis. Replacing the Balanced Butthole hypothesis, they argue the excreter has more levers to pull on than assumed by neoliberal excretometry. Namely, fiber consumption, pre/probiotics, and (to a lesser extent in certain systems like market socialism and imperialist social democracy) prostate stimulation. Under their model, MMT excretometrists argue that while bungside forces do affect need-to-piss (NtP), gross displaced piss (GDP) is the main measure of economic health and operates largely independently of bungside forces. They criticize the neoliberal model of fecal density intensity (FDI) which assumes a fixed, zero-sum relationship between fecal volume stored and piss volume; store more piss by shitting more shit. Instead, they suggest GDP can be increased by increasing pissing frequency, fluid intake, and even aesthetics of the piss trough.^1^ This covers direct growth of GDP.

MMT excretometrists also account for the second-order effects of bungside forces. Furthering their rejection of neoliberalism, they highlight the diet-agnostic effects of DIRECT prostate stimulation on reducing fecal volume. Other innovations include diet-proscribing policies such as higher fiber intake (such as through Beanis) and wholesale bans on shit expanders and removeders like cheese, dairy, and excessive treat consumption---destroying the neoliberal excretomists principal of fixed FDI.

Furthermore, so-called piss pills (diuretics in advanced theoretical works) such as spiroanalactone can directly increase NtP.

Consequently, it is possible to significantly boost GDP without a concomittant rise in shitting. You can piss more than you shit!

^1^ Interestingly, they find outdoors pissing and especially opportunities for prairie and secluded tree pissing induce the greatest growth in GDP

I love the very lyrical, sweet, and melancholy guitar. It feels inspired and not overly considered. Reminds me of a rawer version of 'classical gas' almost.

Be the change. Cook some beanis today. If we can gas up an auditorium, we can gas up a city. If we gas up a city we can gas up the tri-county area. Get those brappers rippin'! Cook some beans!

[Alt text: soldiers carry a coffin draped in an Israeli flag. A caption reads: "War Trauma Drives Israeli Troops to Death". It doesn't say by who, either.]

From this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8v-FpFsEiGI