[-] [email protected] 11 points 1 week ago

That was the passage that made me tear up unexpectedly (specifically around the "Our lives [...] Our struggle" part) doggirl-cry I was really moved by how zie spoke plainly about the pain, suffering, and humiliation inflicted upon gender non-conforming people by a bigoted society while still giving voice to such a bold and hopeful vision for the future, as well as explaining to cis people that their freedom from the oppressive gender binary is also tied up in the struggle for trans liberation. You can definitely tell that the book was adapted from speeches: hir voice came through so strongly that it was like zie was right there in front of me. It's rare that I feel hope, but hearing people like Leslie speak with such conviction keeps that tiny ember alive. I'm really looking forward to reading the rest of the book, and thank you so much for hosting this reading group! cat-trans

only tangentially related personal musingsNot particularly related to anything in the chapter, but I felt a pang when I realized that Leslie grew up around the same time as my own mother, and yet their views on gender could hardly be more different. Well, that's a little unfair: my mother is no bigot, and I've never heard her say anything negative about trans people. But she also is someone who adheres strongly to societal norms, and I think a large part of that grows out of fear of judgment.

The other day she was randomly talking about how her neighbor's kid must have just graduated, and when I looked her name up in the school paper to see what her post-graduation plans were, rather than (what I presume to be) her deadname I found an unmistakably feminine name attached to her unique surname. In the silence, I could hear the gears in my mom's head turning, after which (to make a long story short) it was clear that she was considering the possibility that the neighbor kid was trans but dared not speak it as if it would bring a curse upon the kid's family or something. In the end, she changed the subject, and I didn't press the issue, which I regret. My feeble defense is that I'm deep in the closet and I wouldn't want to do anything that would garner suspicion, but if I'm honest with myself I think I was afraid to probe my mom's beliefs more deeply.

[-] [email protected] 6 points 2 weeks ago

I would be interested! It's been on my reading list for a while, and it'd be nice to both get a little push and be able to discuss it with people and get their insights.

My vote is also for one chapter a week to minimize both uptake and attrition. I'm sure I speak for many of us when I say it's been a long time since I was regularly reading books, so getting through a relatively short selection can still be a challenge. As a bonus, it also makes it easier for people to join partway through.

[-] [email protected] 9 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Finished reading Welcome to Dorley Hall and

Welcome to Dorley Hall spoilersholy shit what do I gotta do to get sent to the all expenses paid forcefem identity erasure dungeon

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6_IsiCmI-n0&t=71s

the reference to the Dawkins honey tweet was chef's kiss

great book, very excited to start the sequel

[-] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

if she chose fox or shiek I'd be cooked. No one choses those two unless you know what you're doing

you clearly never met me as a child

also only just now realizing that the three characters I mained in Melee were Samus, Zelda/Sheik, and Peach. Nothing to see there blob-no-thoughts

[-] [email protected] 15 points 2 months ago

doubt/doompostingkeep trying to subtly hint that I might be trans to my trans friend but she won't violate the prime directive (or more likely, my "hints" are way too subtle). god I'm such a coward. I'm so deep in the closet I'm not even out to myself. and now with everything going to hell in a handbasket I don't know if I'll ever be out, not if I'm still living here anyway. even writing this I feel like I'm committing fraud by posting in this thread madeline-sadeline

[-] [email protected] 19 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

okay random as fuck but I saw a tweet which made me think about those MySpace bulletin surveys you used to do back in the day and, being the hoarder that I am, I actually found some that I had saved as text files

and holy shit, one of the first answers slapped me in the fucking face. I won't quote it verbatim on the off-chance that someone has a pre-wipe MySpace database, but it basically reads

internalized (?) transphobia (is this overkill pls advise)

I look female and feel female, but I have a dick so I guess I'm male :P

LORD SOMEONE GO TELL THIS CHILD THAT TRANS PEOPLE EXIST screm-aaaaaaaaaaaaa

that aside, I honestly had no idea I that kind of explicit eggy sentiment that early on. Sure, it's very flippant, but like--that's a weird thing for a cis guy to say, right? Wish I'd kept a diary, but I guess MySpace surveys will have to do

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