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What is Neurodivergence?

It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc

“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”

So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned


Rules

1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them

2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence

2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals

3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.

3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith

4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!

Further rules to be added/ rules to be changed based on community input

RULES NOTE: For this community more than most we understand that the clarity and understandability of these rules is very important for allowing folks to feel comfortable, to that end please don't be afraid to be outspoken about amendments and addendums to these rules, as well as any we may have missed

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hey there hexbear nd gang! it's that time of year for the first time ever!

here we are once again approaching the end of the year according to the roman imperial calendar that we all have to use for some reason. it's the winter holiday season in the global north, a time of great symbolic significance to many people.

and so, i want to solicit your thoughts about this community, what it means to you, how you'd like to see it evolve, changes in moderation policy, suggestions for thumbnail and banner images, or anything else related to the comm or neurodiversity in general.

or just come hang out!

i also want to invite applications for new moderators for this comm. what would you like to do as a moderator for c/neurodiversity?

personally i've largely been a placeholder, but i do love this community and i want to see it grow as a shared and safe space for our neurodivergent comrades to talk about ourselves and with each other. i also want to do better and want your input about what that means.

c/nd has a well behaved user base so we don't need extra mod help for enforcement or anything like that. what i'm mainly looking for is fresh perspectives on community engagement and growth.

there is absolutely no requirement to disclose any personal information about yourself, just to make that clear. but if you're interested in moderating this community, please contact @[email protected], myself, and/or the other nd mods with an application.

if deadlines help motivate you, you have 3 days from the time you read this.

if deadlines harm your motivation, don't worry about it. if an application comes in a month or two from now of course we'll still consider it. this isn't a job, i'm just asking for volunteers to help moderate a small internet message board.

Application

What is your Hexbear username?

Do you have any preferred pronouns?

What are your thoughts on capitalism?

What are your thoughts on imperialism?

What are your thoughts on trans rights?

What are your thoughts on racial justice?

What are your thoughts on neurodiversity?

What do think about current and previous protests around the world?

What are your thoughts on Veganism and Animal Liberation?

Do you have any experience with other leftist online communities? What did those experiences teach you?

What is your approach to moderation, and how do you work with teams?

How do you deal with online drama and people who try to start things for the sake of it?

Do you have any ideas for c/neurodiveristy community engagement?

What is your general time availability? (amounts, common browsing times, etc)

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To get started, check out this link, where you can choose to either download Element for your platform or, if on a computer, open it in a browser ("Launch Element Web").

The instructions that follow are for the desktop application and the web application, but the process is similar on all apps:

  • Press "Create Account"
  • We host our own Matrix server, so if you want you can change matrix.org to chapo.chat. This is completely optional; users who sign up with a matrix.org username can still talk to people with chapo.chat username. (Note: It is chapo.chat, not hexbear.net. Also, registrations aren't always open on chapo.chat; if they're not, just create an account on matrix.org)
  • Fill in a username and password
  • Hit register, and you're done!

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 10 months ago (17 children)

Hey everyone! Anyone have any good new years resolutions?

[–] [email protected] 32 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Upping my competitive ranking in Maslow's Hierarchy

[–] [email protected] 18 points 10 months ago

Gotta get gud at those 360 MLG no scope self-actualisation skillz

[–] [email protected] 18 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

Read more books (will try 1-2 per month). Start lifting again. Meet some of my old and new friends more in 2024. Try to paint miniatures for at least 30min each day. I really started to connect more with people and do things I really wanted to do. I basically just want to do more of that.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Got any pics of your painted miniatures?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago

I got some yes. That said I want to wait till I got a bit more practice next year. Will probably upload some of it in the hobby and tabletopcom

[–] [email protected] 17 points 10 months ago

I want to be more honest - I want to work on building space between me and the mask and conscious honesty is a good first step (when it feels safe for me.)

[–] [email protected] 16 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I'm going to say less mean shit for no reason

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago

That sounds stupid. (this is a joke)

[–] [email protected] 14 points 10 months ago

Establish a sleep schedule. I just have to accept how important it is to everything I do.

Work on my new relationship. It's my first open one and I got to learn a lot of stuff about communication and acceptance.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 10 months ago

I'm considering trying to finally give up drinking since I recently learned that it's a mask of sorts and is also absolutely not healthy, especially mentally.

And after talking with my therapist, I might be seeking medication again for my severe depression and anxiety. I want a promise that I won't have to jump through hoops when my SSRIs are almost out just to get more and I have developed a dependency for them because that super doesn't fucking help with the anxiety part. Looking at you amerikkkan healthcare system.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 10 months ago (2 children)
  • Ditching Red meat and alcohol to start my multi-year plan on improving my diet.

  • Lose the last ~35 lbs to get to an ideal weight.

  • complete a half-marathon, start training for a full one.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Don't stop with just red meat, ditch animal abuse entirely vegan-liberation

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Nah, oysters are delicious and literally don't have a brain so I'll never be vegan. Plant level sentience means I can morally eat them.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago

Actually oysters are vegan, they all converted to Buddhism so they're ok to eat

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 11 points 10 months ago

They can sense damage but have no consciousness on which to inflict pain. They're similar to plants in this regard. If oysters feel pain then so can carrots and other vegetables. Just because the nervous system of a plant is different, doesn't mean it isn't worthy of life. Or we can just admit that once we've reached a certain threshold of development you can't hold the same moral standards anymore.

The question is how to reduce the suffering of creatures with consciousnesses. Oysters do not qualify, lest you open up a can of worms that makes plants non-vegan as well.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago

alpine salad bar

[–] [email protected] 11 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Stretch or foam roll everyday and text friends back

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago

Stretching is mine too. We'll only get older so might as well start sooner.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 10 months ago

Clean my room and not let it get as bad as it is ever again

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago

Getting the damn business up and running!

Hopefully, making 500 regular customers.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago
[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago

make myself go to the dentist

yes-honey-left

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Find a way to overcome my executive dysfunction sans medication. Sounds impossible when writing it out like this…

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

A hunch, yeah. Not diagnosed yet 'cause I don't have access to mental health professionals in my third-world homeland (yay!)

I am curious to know how you managed to break the cycle, though

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I was diagnosed as a child and yeah I very much have ADHD. Tbh it sucks and doing things like keeping todo lists, staying on top of cleaning even when it sucks, using schedules (I hate doing all these things lol) helps a lot. But I also can't really deal with the medications that come along with ADHD because I was medicated heavily as a child and now it just gives me crazy anxiety

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Oh yeah, I’ve tried the planning stuff, but I’ve never quite gotten around to doing it consistently. Quite frustrating, really, I’d have a nice setup going and the tiniest of inconveniences would derail it in a single moment.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Yeah I feel rhat. It is a constant struggle for me too. I just donr feel like I have any other options

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago

All I can offer is solidarity fren meow-hug

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

continue steadily taking my lithium, which has helped me immensely so far, and I also hope to go back to therapy

continue my transition from teacher into professional woodworker

still on that topic, I want to see how much quality furniture I can make for my apartment over the year

start studying classical guitar again, as soon as my fingernails grow again - I broke my index fingernail in a very bad way and had to cut it all the way down to the flesh, and it's been taking a long while to regrow

overall no big resolutions, I just want to continue doing what has been good for me throughout this otherwise very nasty year

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago