My wife prepared dinner for the whole lot because I had uni until Friday and then little one got sick so I had to take care of him while she did the whole thing basically herself, only for her parents and their partners to criticize today's lazy youth, jerk each other off over how much they let themselves be exploited by their employers and telling each other they did nothing wrong with how they raised kids while criticizing how we do it, all the while my wife is running the show. Absolute travesty I wish she could cut them out, its pure poison. Her sisters just sat there as well either trying to harmonize or relativize the indirect beratement or came out to help, while the boomers were gabbing about whatever trying to get in as many sideswipes in as possible.
I'm going to strongly suggest to her that next year we rethink the whole Christmas thing, because she is the whole reason the family got even together like it did. If she just doesn't organize it won't happen.