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What are some ways you've generally handled know-it-all nerds? The kind that gatekeep the concept of being highly intelligent? They've taken advantage of me all my life because I'm unconfident. (hexbear.net)

submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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CW sexual assault, physical assault Growing up, I've been repeatedly assaulted and harassed by know it all's. That's how upsettingly nerdy they were about gatekeeping the autonomy of thinking for myself. Because they wanted to violate the most intimate of boundaries, and not have me fight back. They wanted control and power over me in every way. To play pretend that they were all powerful and intelligent wizards.

I see a lot of communists on here saying things that might lead to them being stigmatized, and I want to be able to do that more. You guys shut down nerdiness. I've been conditioned to have controlling nerd voices in my head, and automatically let them convince me out of setting boundaries and speaking up for what I believe in. Now I'm my own controlling nerd, and I don't want to be. I want to walk the right path regardless of how stigmatized it may be.

How do you shut down nerds? Especially when their opinions are antihuman? If you don't care about piggypoopballs opinions, what are your reasons for not caring?

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago

I guess you can't avoid them... (that'd be my first line of defense).

(This feels like a very silly thing to ask) Have you ever straight up confronted them about it? Like, when they do the galaxy-brain schtick have you ever just dead-eye stared at them for a solid 30 seconds before pointing out that they're being a flaming poo bag for no reason?

If you want to go rrrreeaaalllyyy dark... if you've got some friends who can keep their cool and don't mind breaking a person's brain... pick one of the asshat know-it-all-nerds and find some one thing and just work together to gaslight the shit of them.