Isn't the entire point of the profile and matching system to filter incompatible people out? Why can I match with 50 people and not a single one wants to get a coffee or something after exchanging a few pleasantries? Everybody hates these things and yet they refuse to do anything IRL to get off them. Is there some Manchurian candidate activation codeword that I'm missing? I feel like everyone treats this shit solely as an ego booster and actually gets pissed off that anyone tries to interact with them. How do you meet people in hellworld if you don't drink?
Me after dozens of dead-end back-and-forths that lead to nowhere despite having shared interests and presumably being attracted to each other since we matched: 
Hmm, maybe it's the extreme commodification of relationships and atomization under capitalism that prevents you from getting anywhere with this garbage 
Nope, must be because @[email protected] didn't say my favorite "The Office" quote and send me a playlist with 50 of the greatest songs I've never heard that made me instantly fall in love with them. I have no idea what other people expect from these things but I'm not doing labor for someone that I don't even know is real. Thanks for reading my rant, any advice is appreciated.
once you're out of college-age it gets pretty impossible and has been that way for decades in the US at least. even worse if you're any kind of ND and can't tell the difference between friendliness and interest because nobody is ever friendly.
when you're in college age they're hookup apps and i was lucky enough to get out before those really took hold.
I am in my mid-30s and I still meet people relatively frequently (less so since Covid, to be fair, but that’s on me as I’m still not very comfortable with large social gatherings). People just keep on inviting me to hang out. Sure, some of them are too immature for me these days, but I still meet people my age, many already in a relationship, but some are still single. And I’m not even in the market for dating/relationship, just enjoying meeting new friends.
Do you have hobbies or interests? It’s fairly easy to make new friends simply by meeting like-minded people at these activities/gatherings.
based on your description of your experience i cannot believe you are a real human being actually living in our capitalist hellworld.
It’s not that they don’t live in the same capitalist hell world I think the simple answer is that we used to call people like them things like “social butterflies”. Some ppl just got the juice and are loved by many.
I can assure you that I am nothing like that. I am an introvert myself and I can only say that I got “lucky” because when I first moved to my current city, I met a couple friends who are exactly like you described, and dragged me to social gatherings despite my reluctance. From there on, all you have to do is to show up, literally, when people ask you to hang out and start talking to people. Like genuinely take interest in people’s lives and hobbies, don’t even think about dating or getting laid. Just make friends. You don’t have to like everyone, nobody does, but please tell me you can at least make 1-2 connections out of, say, every 10 people.
i didn't mention anything about myself in that comment but I did make some assumptions about you, so I suppose it's owed. I moved to [large city] to meet ppl and hangout more easily too and thank god I could.
All I meant by my comment was that some ppl just take to socializing without really 'trying'. one's willingness and ability to meet ppl r dependent on innumerable circumstances that we can't (or at least, i don't want to rn) possibly address. I don't disagree that it's only a matter of time and persistence, but idk if I'd phrase it as 'just do it' lol