Your identity is the same as a cis women but you will not experience life the same as a cis women. You face different at times worse challenges then a cis women because cis women are more protected in a intersectionality sense then trans women.

The same is true for trans men.

This isn't even covering the fact that while you might want to be cis. There are trans people (hello) who do not want to be cis.

I could be wrong but I feel like there is a lot going on here for you. But I am not excusing someone going down the path of misogyny but I also do not think it is useful or honest to ignore what has been happening in queer spaces. Some of us have been trying to raise the alarm for years and have been ignored.

This generally speaking is a place of understanding that how you feel does not change the material conditions. I have come here and pointed out the material conditions that have lead to this and yes THAT is understandable. Patriarchy isn't something that just happens because of some evil hormone, gene, or DNA. It happens through a complex society structure that enforces it. Trans men are not inherently more prone to patriarchy then anyone else. Given certain types of feminism likes to ignore the truth of women especially white women who uphold it themselves. (This has been studied to death).

I used brainworms as a short hand cause I didn't feel like typing a novel. But it is certainly not downplaying it. Pointing at a problem and saying "we should be aware of this and fix it" is not making excuses. I mean I don't really know how one could think I was making excuses after the edit I put.