My wife used to be a cosmologist, she did very well for herself but it was hard on her health doing it professionally for so long.

When we moved away, instead of building new clientele from scratch, which is hard. She took the opportunity to change careers into finance.

She still does hair on the side, for friends and family.

But we had to make a rule now that it's family only, because honestly that's like 15 heads, counting only the family geographically close enough to make it viable, and that keeps her busy enough as it is.

She does it for free, out of love, and obligation. Though most the family is pretty good about insisting they pay her the market rate, and being very thankful. She's a great cosmologist.

She'd like to add in a couple friends here and there, again she likes to be helpful, but it quickly snowballs into more and more demands with less and less appreciation, even with close friends. And with less close friends, or just acquaintances, people start getting really offended when she legitimately has to turn them down.

They refuse to understand she's busy enough as it is, and even if they're paying top dollar(which they never do), she doesn't want to do a side hustle that big. She just wants to do family, and some select friends.

So now we have a rule, family only. Period. Only her best, oldest friends, basically family, does she do their hair.

Everyone else, even if she wouldn't mind doing some of them occasionally, get a blanket no. Family only. Because people can't be chill.

That stops most people from being offended, and takes pressure off her having to explain the nuance.

She doesn't have to explain why friend B can have hair done, but not them. Because friend B isn't getting it either. Nobody is. Family only.