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i've had women come over to my place and do this. and then tell me it made them uncomfortable because men are not supposed to be able to cook, clean, let alone decorate.
An example of women perpetuating toxic masculinity
no, when they do that they are just 'expressing a preference for a manly man'.
and if you tell them how problematic (and self-defeating usually) their ideas are, they tell you how you just hate all women and you have no right to criticize their 'preferences' and clearly you are insecure and pathetic.
this same technique is also used to justify rabid racism against non-white men all the time. It's always amazed me how women hide behind the 'patriarchy' and their 'oppression' only to rapidly perpetuate the rapidly racist and sexist nonsense they happen to believe in. I've also been on some date with women of color who do this, it's not like restricted to white women.
What I will say is the women who do do this... are typically privileged and wealthy types whose main dispute with life is they are NOT privileged and wealthy enough... and that it's an evil and oppressive society of awful men that is preventing them form making an extra 50-100K on their already 300K salary.
You’re just describing shitty people in general.
Birds of a feather, as they say.
keep being you and i promise theres women out there to appreciate it
the women who appreciate it are not attracted to me sexually. or they are already married. i have had plenty of female friends who admire my home and my cooking. but i've never been in a sexual relationship with a lady who saw it as a positive, only as a threat.
the issue with dating that people really struggle to be honest about, is most of us have limited options in potential partners, and it's either accept what's available, or date nobody. i know exactly who would work for me to date, but sadly none of those women find me attractive, and the one who do find me attractive, are the ones who i have absolutely nothing in common with, and who think my lifestyle choices and values make me a closeted homosexual.
and yeah i'd rather be alone than be in another relationship with someone who constantly makes jokes about how i'm secretly gay and i'm going to leave her for a man, or what a pussy I am for being human and being upset over events like the death of my parents. but that's the type of woman who finds me attractive and wants to date me.
i have seen your comments about dating in the past and i gotta say you seem like the problem. some of the things you have said are straight up misogynist. sorry if i dont believe this is the norm
Right, it's me that hates women, and it's not you that's sexist and making sexist generalizations based on a total lack of personal experience with men, which you do not regard as human beings, no doubt.
you know who also tells me I hate all women? every shitty abusive girlfriend I have rejected or stood up to.
and what's funny, is the women i meet who weren't that way, don't tend to call me misogynist when I reject or refute them.
What a pathetic fuckin tactic. Starting to see like you're exaggerating and much more of the problem than you're willing to admit.
As a man with successful and healthy relationships who has read a lot of your bullshit throughout a lot of these kinds of threads, you are 100% the problem person in your life and relationships.
Stop blaming other people for your shitty behavior. You’re the one behind the wheel.
you know nothing about me lmao but thanks for proving my point.
you know nothing about me, how is your belief about me legitimate, by your own logic then?
all you really know is i said words you don't like. you self-reported as never dating men, so I find it kind of ironic that you seem to think you know anything about being in relationships with them.
are you sure I hate women, or is it more that you just hate men, because you don't see them as people, as you have no personal experience in intimate relationships with them?
i never said i havent dated men, i said i am not attracted to them. i am still good friends with my only serious exboyfriend who kept his space neat and clean, helps raise his sisters children, takes care of his elderly parents, and is confident enough in his sexuality not to be enraged at being perceived as gay (he isnt) for doing the things he enjoys.
i never said you hate all women, i said your comment history is misogynist, which it is. i am free to form opinions about you based on your own words, like the thread where you were bitching about the women you date want fancy date nights, amd when you were told to maybe try dating within your league, you said you werent interested in poor women. lol all of these crashout responses are giving insecure manchild.
You are the type of woman I date. The rules apply to me, but not to you. Your judgements of me are truthful and accurate and correct, but mine of you are false and fake and stupid and wrong.
And I just laugh at the irony of how smug and condescending and arrogant you are here, but you don't see yourself that way at all. I'm just a dumb stupid guy who should just listen to you and my life would be magically perfect... and if I don't agree with that, then I'm a insecure manchild. Becuase if I was a secure and confident guy, I'd never challenge you or disagree with you, because you are clearly perfect or something.
And I think it's complete bullshit. All I see is someone who twists my word and stories to fill in their weird sexist gender assumptions because it makes them feel big to shit on random internet people and offer 'advice' where none was asked for or wanted.
and for the record, I've love to date a 'poor' woman. They don't exist in my city or my state, because the cost of living is highest in the USA. Poor people literally cannot afford to live here. I would like to date someone who is roughly my financial equal, but I understand that in 2026 that's 'misogyny', or so I have been inform repeatedly both on the internet and IRL by many women, because any expectation of financial equality between men adn women is considered a hostile act or something now, though 20 years ago it was considered pretty normal.
I was going to leave a comment trying to reason with you, but upon rereading your comments, you honestly just sound like an incel who is incapable of self reflection. Keep grasping at straws and maybe one day you'll find one to make you happy.
right, you are so reasonable that your comment to me is to just insult me.
did it occur to you that 'reasoning' in the form of lecturing other people via your unsolicited advice about their life, based on some random internet comments they make, doesn't make you at all a helpful useful or good human being? and in fact, probably the opposite?
seriously, think about this. If I went into your post history, and started making judgements and conclusions about you, and started lecturing you about how 'faulty' you were as a person and how 'unhappy' you were. what would you think that? would you be happy and grateful and go 'wow thanks random stranger from the internet, gosh golly gee, you sure told me and now i will listen to your random, generic, ignorant advice about my life and it will magically be happy and wonderful'
No. But your 'empathy' here is only for your own egotistical delusion that you know better than me how my life is and ought to be. and your conclusion that my commentary on gender issues i have experienced means I am 'unhappy' and 'incapable of self reflection'. oh really, and what you know the magic secret to happiness and self-reflection?
what is self reflection to you really, other than agreement with your experiences, your beliefs, your life. Does it ever occur to you that other people exist who share none of those things with you? or is that 'problematic' for you, and you feel the need to browbeat, harass, and demand that such other people not exist, or at least not express those differences you find so 'offensive'.