no, when they do that they are just 'expressing a preference for a manly man'.

and if you tell them how problematic (and self-defeating usually) their ideas are, they tell you how you just hate all women and you have no right to criticize their 'preferences' and clearly you are insecure and pathetic.

this same technique is also used to justify rabid racism against non-white men all the time. It's always amazed me how women hide behind the 'patriarchy' and their 'oppression' only to rapidly perpetuate the rapidly racist and sexist nonsense they happen to believe in. I've also been on some date with women of color who do this, it's not like restricted to white women.

What I will say is the women who do do this... are typically privileged and wealthy types whose main dispute with life is they are NOT privileged and wealthy enough... and that it's an evil and oppressive society of awful men that is preventing them form making an extra 50-100K on their already 300K salary.