the women who appreciate it are not attracted to me sexually. or they are already married. i have had plenty of female friends who admire my home and my cooking. but i've never been in a sexual relationship with a lady who saw it as a positive, only as a threat.
the issue with dating that people really struggle to be honest about, is most of us have limited options in potential partners, and it's either accept what's available, or date nobody. i know exactly who would work for me to date, but sadly none of those women find me attractive, and the one who do find me attractive, are the ones who i have absolutely nothing in common with, and who think my lifestyle choices and values make me a closeted homosexual.
and yeah i'd rather be alone than be in another relationship with someone who constantly makes jokes about how i'm secretly gay and i'm going to leave her for a man, or what a pussy I am for being human and being upset over events like the death of my parents. but that's the type of woman who finds me attractive and wants to date me.