right, you are so reasonable that your comment to me is to just insult me.

did it occur to you that 'reasoning' in the form of lecturing other people via your unsolicited advice about their life, based on some random internet comments they make, doesn't make you at all a helpful useful or good human being? and in fact, probably the opposite?

seriously, think about this. If I went into your post history, and started making judgements and conclusions about you, and started lecturing you about how 'faulty' you were as a person and how 'unhappy' you were. what would you think that? would you be happy and grateful and go 'wow thanks random stranger from the internet, gosh golly gee, you sure told me and now i will listen to your random, generic, ignorant advice about my life and it will magically be happy and wonderful'

No. But your 'empathy' here is only for your own egotistical delusion that you know better than me how my life is and ought to be. and your conclusion that my commentary on gender issues i have experienced means I am 'unhappy' and 'incapable of self reflection'. oh really, and what you know the magic secret to happiness and self-reflection?

what is self reflection to you really, other than agreement with your experiences, your beliefs, your life. Does it ever occur to you that other people exist who share none of those things with you? or is that 'problematic' for you, and you feel the need to browbeat, harass, and demand that such other people not exist, or at least not express those differences you find so 'offensive'.