▲ 600 ▼ TIL You can leagally drop your baby off at the fire station in all 50 states (en.wikipedia.org) submitted 6 months ago by so_pitted_wabam@lemmy.zip to c/til@lemmy.world 209 comments fedilink hide all child comments Pretty wild! All states give you at least 30 days to dump your baby, no strings attached. Some states give you 60 days! I feel like more people should know about this! It seems like a highly under utilized ability.
[–] YellowParenti@lemmy.wtf 166 points 6 months ago (5 children) Nebraska had no age limit for a bit. Guy dropped off 9 of his 10 kids(1 was 18) cause he felt overwhelmed after his wife died a year earlier. permalink fedilink source hideshow 10 child comments replies: [–] Asetru@feddit.org 138 points 6 months ago (1 child) "I think there's a misperception that we just inadvertently left an age cap out. But the reality was we wanted to save lives of older kids who might be at risk," said Amanda McGill Johnson, a Nebraska state senator at the time. That actually kind of makes sense? I mean, dropping off teens is excessive, but maybe it highlights an issue? Overwhelmed parents of teenagers isn't something I had on my list of people that need more help, at least. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 22 points 6 months ago (1 child) That is surprisingly kind for a Nebraskan legislator. Isn't NE one of the states where they'd rather let women die than abort a fetus? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] JasonDJ@lemmy.zip 6 points 6 months ago* No, they'd rather let the mother die and get a free child prostitute out of her than to abort a fetus. permalink fedilink source parent [–] ramenshaman@lemmy.world 52 points 6 months ago 10 kids jfc permalink fedilink source parent [–] Carighan@piefed.world 42 points 6 months ago (3 children) I'm more concerned how he had ten kids and then felt overwhelmed when his wife left him. Like what the fuck?! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] FooBarrington@lemmy.world 46 points 6 months ago (1 child) Grieving for a partner definitely doesn't make it easier to raise your children?! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 15 points 6 months ago And I've not met many men with 10 kids who are super into doing the whole "dividing the labor of parenting evenly" thing, and I went to catholic schools, I knew some big families. And even if he had been the type to do that, you aren't winding up being the breadwinner for a family with 10 kids and having both low stress finances and a low stress job. So adding in lots of extra home duties and possibly reduced financial capabilities and mourning will probably wreck you. That said, I've never met a family that large where the parents kept actually parenting beyond number 3 or 4. Some of the most horrifically parentified people I ever met were middle daughters of large families. Also the kids are struggling too, and each of them is likely to have taken some lasting psychic damage from being abandoned by their dad, even temporarily, shortly after their mom died. permalink fedilink source parent [–] Rubanski@discuss.tchncs.de 22 points 6 months ago (1 child) Because he didn't do Jack raising them probably permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] snooggums@piefed.world 36 points 6 months ago (2 children) Or doubling the responsibilities was too much. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] some_kind_of_guy@lemmy.world 7 points 6 months ago Double it and pass it to the next person permalink fedilink source parent [–] Rubanski@discuss.tchncs.de -2 points 6 months ago (1 child) If doubling was to much, it would have been enough to "only" drop 4-5 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] snooggums@piefed.world 18 points 6 months ago (1 child) As long as we are doing hypothetical, he may have been working long hours to pay for all the costs while she was stay at home. When she died, working all the time and trying to care for kids and grieving is going to be massively stressful. Bot to mention the aunt for 7 of the kids decided to have a custody battle so lots and lots of possible things leading to being overwhelmed. But you clearly assume he is a deadbeat because he's a man. Have fun with that. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Rubanski@discuss.tchncs.de -10 points 6 months ago (1 child) What has him being a man to do with all that permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] snooggums@piefed.world 13 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 child) Because he didn’t do Jack raising them probably Would you have assumed the same lack of parenting if the father had died and the mother dropped off the kids? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Rubanski@discuss.tchncs.de -6 points 6 months ago (1 child) I don't think there is enough background story to think the mother would have been a much better parent, giving up ALL children permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 6 months ago (1 child) The fact that you can claim you need more information if it was a gender reversal, is exactly what they were pointing out. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Not exactly. They're basically saying that both genders would be bad parents by default for giving up all of their kids unless there was evidence of a compelling reason to think otherwise. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Zoot@reddthat.com 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Id like to see ANYONE be able to manage 10 children alone, during a custody battle, and still needing to work/provide for all 11 of you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 point 6 months ago I'm not agreeing with their point, just clarifying what they were saying. permalink fedilink source parent [–] HobbitFoot 20 points 6 months ago Died, not left. And likely yeah, someone would get overwhelmed doing two peoples' jobs. permalink fedilink source parent [–] B0rax@feddit.org 17 points 6 months ago I guess it highlights why there should be no age limit… the response to introduce an age limit of 30 days certainly is not the right one. permalink fedilink source parent [–] so_pitted_wabam@lemmy.zip [S] 10 points 6 months ago Wtf! That is insane 🤣 good read! permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Asetru@feddit.org 138 points 6 months ago (1 child) "I think there's a misperception that we just inadvertently left an age cap out. But the reality was we wanted to save lives of older kids who might be at risk," said Amanda McGill Johnson, a Nebraska state senator at the time. That actually kind of makes sense? I mean, dropping off teens is excessive, but maybe it highlights an issue? Overwhelmed parents of teenagers isn't something I had on my list of people that need more help, at least. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 22 points 6 months ago (1 child) That is surprisingly kind for a Nebraskan legislator. Isn't NE one of the states where they'd rather let women die than abort a fetus? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] JasonDJ@lemmy.zip 6 points 6 months ago* No, they'd rather let the mother die and get a free child prostitute out of her than to abort a fetus. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 22 points 6 months ago (1 child) That is surprisingly kind for a Nebraskan legislator. Isn't NE one of the states where they'd rather let women die than abort a fetus? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] JasonDJ@lemmy.zip 6 points 6 months ago* No, they'd rather let the mother die and get a free child prostitute out of her than to abort a fetus. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] JasonDJ@lemmy.zip 6 points 6 months ago* No, they'd rather let the mother die and get a free child prostitute out of her than to abort a fetus. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Carighan@piefed.world 42 points 6 months ago (3 children) I'm more concerned how he had ten kids and then felt overwhelmed when his wife left him. Like what the fuck?! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] FooBarrington@lemmy.world 46 points 6 months ago (1 child) Grieving for a partner definitely doesn't make it easier to raise your children?! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 15 points 6 months ago And I've not met many men with 10 kids who are super into doing the whole "dividing the labor of parenting evenly" thing, and I went to catholic schools, I knew some big families. And even if he had been the type to do that, you aren't winding up being the breadwinner for a family with 10 kids and having both low stress finances and a low stress job. So adding in lots of extra home duties and possibly reduced financial capabilities and mourning will probably wreck you. That said, I've never met a family that large where the parents kept actually parenting beyond number 3 or 4. Some of the most horrifically parentified people I ever met were middle daughters of large families. Also the kids are struggling too, and each of them is likely to have taken some lasting psychic damage from being abandoned by their dad, even temporarily, shortly after their mom died. permalink fedilink source parent [–] Rubanski@discuss.tchncs.de 22 points 6 months ago (1 child) Because he didn't do Jack raising them probably permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] snooggums@piefed.world 36 points 6 months ago (2 children) Or doubling the responsibilities was too much. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] some_kind_of_guy@lemmy.world 7 points 6 months ago Double it and pass it to the next person permalink fedilink source parent [–] Rubanski@discuss.tchncs.de -2 points 6 months ago (1 child) If doubling was to much, it would have been enough to "only" drop 4-5 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] snooggums@piefed.world 18 points 6 months ago (1 child) As long as we are doing hypothetical, he may have been working long hours to pay for all the costs while she was stay at home. When she died, working all the time and trying to care for kids and grieving is going to be massively stressful. Bot to mention the aunt for 7 of the kids decided to have a custody battle so lots and lots of possible things leading to being overwhelmed. But you clearly assume he is a deadbeat because he's a man. Have fun with that. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Rubanski@discuss.tchncs.de -10 points 6 months ago (1 child) What has him being a man to do with all that permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] snooggums@piefed.world 13 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 child) Because he didn’t do Jack raising them probably Would you have assumed the same lack of parenting if the father had died and the mother dropped off the kids? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Rubanski@discuss.tchncs.de -6 points 6 months ago (1 child) I don't think there is enough background story to think the mother would have been a much better parent, giving up ALL children permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 6 months ago (1 child) The fact that you can claim you need more information if it was a gender reversal, is exactly what they were pointing out. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Not exactly. They're basically saying that both genders would be bad parents by default for giving up all of their kids unless there was evidence of a compelling reason to think otherwise. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Zoot@reddthat.com 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Id like to see ANYONE be able to manage 10 children alone, during a custody battle, and still needing to work/provide for all 11 of you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 point 6 months ago I'm not agreeing with their point, just clarifying what they were saying. permalink fedilink source parent [–] HobbitFoot 20 points 6 months ago Died, not left. And likely yeah, someone would get overwhelmed doing two peoples' jobs. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] FooBarrington@lemmy.world 46 points 6 months ago (1 child) Grieving for a partner definitely doesn't make it easier to raise your children?! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 15 points 6 months ago And I've not met many men with 10 kids who are super into doing the whole "dividing the labor of parenting evenly" thing, and I went to catholic schools, I knew some big families. And even if he had been the type to do that, you aren't winding up being the breadwinner for a family with 10 kids and having both low stress finances and a low stress job. So adding in lots of extra home duties and possibly reduced financial capabilities and mourning will probably wreck you. That said, I've never met a family that large where the parents kept actually parenting beyond number 3 or 4. Some of the most horrifically parentified people I ever met were middle daughters of large families. Also the kids are struggling too, and each of them is likely to have taken some lasting psychic damage from being abandoned by their dad, even temporarily, shortly after their mom died. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 15 points 6 months ago And I've not met many men with 10 kids who are super into doing the whole "dividing the labor of parenting evenly" thing, and I went to catholic schools, I knew some big families. And even if he had been the type to do that, you aren't winding up being the breadwinner for a family with 10 kids and having both low stress finances and a low stress job. So adding in lots of extra home duties and possibly reduced financial capabilities and mourning will probably wreck you. That said, I've never met a family that large where the parents kept actually parenting beyond number 3 or 4. Some of the most horrifically parentified people I ever met were middle daughters of large families. Also the kids are struggling too, and each of them is likely to have taken some lasting psychic damage from being abandoned by their dad, even temporarily, shortly after their mom died. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Rubanski@discuss.tchncs.de 22 points 6 months ago (1 child) Because he didn't do Jack raising them probably permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] snooggums@piefed.world 36 points 6 months ago (2 children) Or doubling the responsibilities was too much. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] some_kind_of_guy@lemmy.world 7 points 6 months ago Double it and pass it to the next person permalink fedilink source parent [–] Rubanski@discuss.tchncs.de -2 points 6 months ago (1 child) If doubling was to much, it would have been enough to "only" drop 4-5 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] snooggums@piefed.world 18 points 6 months ago (1 child) As long as we are doing hypothetical, he may have been working long hours to pay for all the costs while she was stay at home. When she died, working all the time and trying to care for kids and grieving is going to be massively stressful. Bot to mention the aunt for 7 of the kids decided to have a custody battle so lots and lots of possible things leading to being overwhelmed. But you clearly assume he is a deadbeat because he's a man. Have fun with that. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Rubanski@discuss.tchncs.de -10 points 6 months ago (1 child) What has him being a man to do with all that permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] snooggums@piefed.world 13 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 child) Because he didn’t do Jack raising them probably Would you have assumed the same lack of parenting if the father had died and the mother dropped off the kids? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Rubanski@discuss.tchncs.de -6 points 6 months ago (1 child) I don't think there is enough background story to think the mother would have been a much better parent, giving up ALL children permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 6 months ago (1 child) The fact that you can claim you need more information if it was a gender reversal, is exactly what they were pointing out. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Not exactly. They're basically saying that both genders would be bad parents by default for giving up all of their kids unless there was evidence of a compelling reason to think otherwise. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Zoot@reddthat.com 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Id like to see ANYONE be able to manage 10 children alone, during a custody battle, and still needing to work/provide for all 11 of you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 point 6 months ago I'm not agreeing with their point, just clarifying what they were saying. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] snooggums@piefed.world 36 points 6 months ago (2 children) Or doubling the responsibilities was too much. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] some_kind_of_guy@lemmy.world 7 points 6 months ago Double it and pass it to the next person permalink fedilink source parent [–] Rubanski@discuss.tchncs.de -2 points 6 months ago (1 child) If doubling was to much, it would have been enough to "only" drop 4-5 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] snooggums@piefed.world 18 points 6 months ago (1 child) As long as we are doing hypothetical, he may have been working long hours to pay for all the costs while she was stay at home. When she died, working all the time and trying to care for kids and grieving is going to be massively stressful. Bot to mention the aunt for 7 of the kids decided to have a custody battle so lots and lots of possible things leading to being overwhelmed. But you clearly assume he is a deadbeat because he's a man. Have fun with that. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Rubanski@discuss.tchncs.de -10 points 6 months ago (1 child) What has him being a man to do with all that permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] snooggums@piefed.world 13 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 child) Because he didn’t do Jack raising them probably Would you have assumed the same lack of parenting if the father had died and the mother dropped off the kids? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Rubanski@discuss.tchncs.de -6 points 6 months ago (1 child) I don't think there is enough background story to think the mother would have been a much better parent, giving up ALL children permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 6 months ago (1 child) The fact that you can claim you need more information if it was a gender reversal, is exactly what they were pointing out. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Not exactly. They're basically saying that both genders would be bad parents by default for giving up all of their kids unless there was evidence of a compelling reason to think otherwise. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Zoot@reddthat.com 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Id like to see ANYONE be able to manage 10 children alone, during a custody battle, and still needing to work/provide for all 11 of you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 point 6 months ago I'm not agreeing with their point, just clarifying what they were saying. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] some_kind_of_guy@lemmy.world 7 points 6 months ago Double it and pass it to the next person permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Rubanski@discuss.tchncs.de -2 points 6 months ago (1 child) If doubling was to much, it would have been enough to "only" drop 4-5 permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] snooggums@piefed.world 18 points 6 months ago (1 child) As long as we are doing hypothetical, he may have been working long hours to pay for all the costs while she was stay at home. When she died, working all the time and trying to care for kids and grieving is going to be massively stressful. Bot to mention the aunt for 7 of the kids decided to have a custody battle so lots and lots of possible things leading to being overwhelmed. But you clearly assume he is a deadbeat because he's a man. Have fun with that. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Rubanski@discuss.tchncs.de -10 points 6 months ago (1 child) What has him being a man to do with all that permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] snooggums@piefed.world 13 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 child) Because he didn’t do Jack raising them probably Would you have assumed the same lack of parenting if the father had died and the mother dropped off the kids? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Rubanski@discuss.tchncs.de -6 points 6 months ago (1 child) I don't think there is enough background story to think the mother would have been a much better parent, giving up ALL children permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 6 months ago (1 child) The fact that you can claim you need more information if it was a gender reversal, is exactly what they were pointing out. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Not exactly. They're basically saying that both genders would be bad parents by default for giving up all of their kids unless there was evidence of a compelling reason to think otherwise. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Zoot@reddthat.com 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Id like to see ANYONE be able to manage 10 children alone, during a custody battle, and still needing to work/provide for all 11 of you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 point 6 months ago I'm not agreeing with their point, just clarifying what they were saying. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] snooggums@piefed.world 18 points 6 months ago (1 child) As long as we are doing hypothetical, he may have been working long hours to pay for all the costs while she was stay at home. When she died, working all the time and trying to care for kids and grieving is going to be massively stressful. Bot to mention the aunt for 7 of the kids decided to have a custody battle so lots and lots of possible things leading to being overwhelmed. But you clearly assume he is a deadbeat because he's a man. Have fun with that. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Rubanski@discuss.tchncs.de -10 points 6 months ago (1 child) What has him being a man to do with all that permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] snooggums@piefed.world 13 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 child) Because he didn’t do Jack raising them probably Would you have assumed the same lack of parenting if the father had died and the mother dropped off the kids? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Rubanski@discuss.tchncs.de -6 points 6 months ago (1 child) I don't think there is enough background story to think the mother would have been a much better parent, giving up ALL children permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 6 months ago (1 child) The fact that you can claim you need more information if it was a gender reversal, is exactly what they were pointing out. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Not exactly. They're basically saying that both genders would be bad parents by default for giving up all of their kids unless there was evidence of a compelling reason to think otherwise. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Zoot@reddthat.com 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Id like to see ANYONE be able to manage 10 children alone, during a custody battle, and still needing to work/provide for all 11 of you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 point 6 months ago I'm not agreeing with their point, just clarifying what they were saying. permalink fedilink source parent
[+] Rubanski@discuss.tchncs.de -10 points 6 months ago (1 child) What has him being a man to do with all that permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] snooggums@piefed.world 13 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 child) Because he didn’t do Jack raising them probably Would you have assumed the same lack of parenting if the father had died and the mother dropped off the kids? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Rubanski@discuss.tchncs.de -6 points 6 months ago (1 child) I don't think there is enough background story to think the mother would have been a much better parent, giving up ALL children permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 6 months ago (1 child) The fact that you can claim you need more information if it was a gender reversal, is exactly what they were pointing out. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Not exactly. They're basically saying that both genders would be bad parents by default for giving up all of their kids unless there was evidence of a compelling reason to think otherwise. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Zoot@reddthat.com 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Id like to see ANYONE be able to manage 10 children alone, during a custody battle, and still needing to work/provide for all 11 of you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 point 6 months ago I'm not agreeing with their point, just clarifying what they were saying. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] snooggums@piefed.world 13 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 child) Because he didn’t do Jack raising them probably Would you have assumed the same lack of parenting if the father had died and the mother dropped off the kids? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Rubanski@discuss.tchncs.de -6 points 6 months ago (1 child) I don't think there is enough background story to think the mother would have been a much better parent, giving up ALL children permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 6 months ago (1 child) The fact that you can claim you need more information if it was a gender reversal, is exactly what they were pointing out. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Not exactly. They're basically saying that both genders would be bad parents by default for giving up all of their kids unless there was evidence of a compelling reason to think otherwise. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Zoot@reddthat.com 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Id like to see ANYONE be able to manage 10 children alone, during a custody battle, and still needing to work/provide for all 11 of you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 point 6 months ago I'm not agreeing with their point, just clarifying what they were saying. permalink fedilink source parent
[+] Rubanski@discuss.tchncs.de -6 points 6 months ago (1 child) I don't think there is enough background story to think the mother would have been a much better parent, giving up ALL children permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 6 months ago (1 child) The fact that you can claim you need more information if it was a gender reversal, is exactly what they were pointing out. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Not exactly. They're basically saying that both genders would be bad parents by default for giving up all of their kids unless there was evidence of a compelling reason to think otherwise. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Zoot@reddthat.com 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Id like to see ANYONE be able to manage 10 children alone, during a custody battle, and still needing to work/provide for all 11 of you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 point 6 months ago I'm not agreeing with their point, just clarifying what they were saying. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 6 months ago (1 child) The fact that you can claim you need more information if it was a gender reversal, is exactly what they were pointing out. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Not exactly. They're basically saying that both genders would be bad parents by default for giving up all of their kids unless there was evidence of a compelling reason to think otherwise. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Zoot@reddthat.com 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Id like to see ANYONE be able to manage 10 children alone, during a custody battle, and still needing to work/provide for all 11 of you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 point 6 months ago I'm not agreeing with their point, just clarifying what they were saying. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 point 6 months ago* (1 child) Not exactly. They're basically saying that both genders would be bad parents by default for giving up all of their kids unless there was evidence of a compelling reason to think otherwise. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Zoot@reddthat.com 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Id like to see ANYONE be able to manage 10 children alone, during a custody battle, and still needing to work/provide for all 11 of you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 point 6 months ago I'm not agreeing with their point, just clarifying what they were saying. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Zoot@reddthat.com 1 point 6 months ago (1 child) Id like to see ANYONE be able to manage 10 children alone, during a custody battle, and still needing to work/provide for all 11 of you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 point 6 months ago I'm not agreeing with their point, just clarifying what they were saying. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 point 6 months ago I'm not agreeing with their point, just clarifying what they were saying. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] HobbitFoot 20 points 6 months ago Died, not left. And likely yeah, someone would get overwhelmed doing two peoples' jobs. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] B0rax@feddit.org 17 points 6 months ago I guess it highlights why there should be no age limit… the response to introduce an age limit of 30 days certainly is not the right one. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] so_pitted_wabam@lemmy.zip [S] 10 points 6 months ago Wtf! That is insane 🤣 good read! permalink fedilink source parent