▲ 600 ▼ TIL You can leagally drop your baby off at the fire station in all 50 states (en.wikipedia.org) submitted 6 months ago by so_pitted_wabam@lemmy.zip to c/til@lemmy.world 209 comments fedilink hide all child comments Pretty wild! All states give you at least 30 days to dump your baby, no strings attached. Some states give you 60 days! I feel like more people should know about this! It seems like a highly under utilized ability.
[–] FooBarrington@lemmy.world 46 points 6 months ago (1 child) Grieving for a partner definitely doesn't make it easier to raise your children?! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 15 points 6 months ago And I've not met many men with 10 kids who are super into doing the whole "dividing the labor of parenting evenly" thing, and I went to catholic schools, I knew some big families. And even if he had been the type to do that, you aren't winding up being the breadwinner for a family with 10 kids and having both low stress finances and a low stress job. So adding in lots of extra home duties and possibly reduced financial capabilities and mourning will probably wreck you. That said, I've never met a family that large where the parents kept actually parenting beyond number 3 or 4. Some of the most horrifically parentified people I ever met were middle daughters of large families. Also the kids are struggling too, and each of them is likely to have taken some lasting psychic damage from being abandoned by their dad, even temporarily, shortly after their mom died. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 15 points 6 months ago And I've not met many men with 10 kids who are super into doing the whole "dividing the labor of parenting evenly" thing, and I went to catholic schools, I knew some big families. And even if he had been the type to do that, you aren't winding up being the breadwinner for a family with 10 kids and having both low stress finances and a low stress job. So adding in lots of extra home duties and possibly reduced financial capabilities and mourning will probably wreck you. That said, I've never met a family that large where the parents kept actually parenting beyond number 3 or 4. Some of the most horrifically parentified people I ever met were middle daughters of large families. Also the kids are struggling too, and each of them is likely to have taken some lasting psychic damage from being abandoned by their dad, even temporarily, shortly after their mom died. permalink fedilink source parent