I have a decent amount of money saved up, and I think I might be able to get away with making a break for outside my parents basement and my yeehaw hometown. I figure that I’m not going to get any younger now’s my chance to make some experiences in my 20s and do a hell of a lot of catching up.
For opsec reasons, I won’t say where I hope to move to but it’s going to be a HCOL area. Yeah, seems dumb but worth it if it means being surrounded by like-minded people and people who wouldn’t want me dead. As I’m going about this process I have a bunch of questions to help bring this goal into reality and help me stay successful in starting my life in earnest.
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What are some things to look out for when looking for an apartment?
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What are some important things that are rarely mentioned in “first apartment lists” to help with quality of life?
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How do I find roommates? While I would probably be my happiest in a studio, I think there’s an advantage to roommates in both housing costs and holding me accountable to not being a total slob.
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How do I build a support system literally from the ground up? Or would I be in a more advantageous place if I looked at places where I had at least a friend or family member near the city? How do I make friends, and n*twork (I hate that term) to help with job prospects?
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What can I do to better help myself get noticed for the better by employers? The reason I am in this mess in the first place of wasting most of my 20s is both depression and the fact employers ignore me. The job market is saturated and I still want to do this anways. Are there some skills I can learn and if so, how do I prove it?
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What are some HCOL survival tips? Yeah, I get it, I’m going from zero to one hundred here but I’m hoping to rely more on public transit so cars aren’t an issue, but what else can I do? I will gladly be broke in a place with actual things to do.
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Are there any pointers I haven’t touched up on that you think might be helpful?
Thank you so much, this is a bit nerve wracking but I think I’ll feel better by hearing very human responses from people of varying age groups.
EDIT: Yeah, the “move out with no job lined up” was dumb and I should have known better. Changed to a better question.
echoing others, do not move without a job lined up.
Yeah in hindsight, that was dumb and a byproduct of hopium.
its ok to have hopium, just dont let it drive you to isolate yourself in a place where you have no one to help you. thats how you end up homeless.
i moved away a few years ago and had like 40 bucks in my bank account to get away from my family and it was 100% worth it. i also had a job lined up that paid rent and got the bills at the time, otherwise i would have stayed w my parents even if it wouldve made me tear my hair out