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New account but I've been using burner accounts and lurking since the sub got banned. I've been seeing all the standard liberal brainworms again for the first time since reddit-logo and everytime it's an account from another federation. I was tepidly against federation at first but this has been entertaining, like the old days of pigpoop people who wandered into the sub.

I gotta imagine this will only last another week before everyone defederates us, but let's enjoy it for now.

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[–] [email protected] 27 points 1 year ago (14 children)

I hope it's fine that I, as an external, come into your space and give my opinion here, this seems as good a thread as any.

I think what is is the general hostility here. I think I agree with a lot of the political opinions here, however this place seems to revere "dunking" on people. Sure, these people you're dunking on might not be intelligent, and sure, they might, with their (wilful) ignorance contribute to the destruction of our planet, but I just hate the hostility, open insults, etc. I think it accomplishes nothing except pushing people away, it's not changing anyone's minds.

Whatever good discussion may be found here, I just don't like to deal with the tone it's had in. I understand that it's probably some kind of coping mechanism to deal with this shitty situation we're all in, but I have different ways to cope and don't want this big pile of negativity.

Anyway, I wish everyone a nice poop.

[–] [email protected] 67 points 1 year ago (1 children)
  1. we don't owe anyone long, detailed explanations of why they're wrong. that info is available from any of hundreds or thousands of different sources, including in published books. if someone comes in and asks a question in good faith, they'll get a reading list. if someone just comes in and drops their opinion, though, we have no obligation to respect that.
  2. all of us, at different times, do give those long explanations. they're just exhausting to type up. no one can demand our time and energy. online debates don't change opinions. real explanations of the topics that get dunked on here require entire books to unpack the arguments and properly dismantle them. there's no shortcut for doing the homework and we're not going to pretend that there is.
  3. many of the opinions that get dunked on are thought terminating cliches that people don't reason themselves into -- they're repeating random propaganda they've imbibed passively. the best response is to make fun of these ideas, to break the notion that they're somehow inviolate truths, beyond questioning. that dunking led many people on the old sub -- people who wandered much as these new folks are, with opinions that vastly differ from our own -- to eventually do some reading and change their own minds. we can't change anyone's mind. they have to be open to having their minds changed and embark on that process in their own way, at their own pace.
  4. civility masks the abject horror of the world we live in. civility is the false peace -- it's a peace marked by masking of tension rather than any resolution of it. our world is not peaceful -- it merely pretends to be so by demanding those harmed mask their grievances. many of us here are from minority groups -- our grievances will be heard and no amount of tone policing is going to chnage that.
[–] [email protected] 41 points 1 year ago (1 children)

civility masks the abject horror of the world we live in. civility is the false peace -- it's a peace marked by masking of tension rather than any resolution of it. our world is not peaceful

Real mlk-yes energy.

but the white moderate who is more devoted to "order" than to justice; who prefers a negative peace which is the absence of tension to a positive peace which is the presence of justice; who constantly says "I agree with you in the goal you seek, but I can't agree with your methods of direct action;" who paternalistically feels he can set the timetable for another man's freedom; who lives by the myth of time and who constantly advises the Negro to wait until a "more convenient season."

Shallow understanding from people of goodwill is more frustrating than absolute misunderstanding from people of ill will. Lukewarm acceptance is much more bewildering than outright rejection."

[–] [email protected] 48 points 1 year ago

From what I've seen, most comrades engage in good faith from the beginning. The second we're accused of being Russia or China bots, or they start with the racist rhetoric like "Xinnie the Pooh", it's NBA jam time.

[–] [email protected] 48 points 1 year ago

That's fair, but the thing is... the strategy sort of worked for us the first time around. It worked so well that we got kicked off of Reddit despite being one of the largest and fastest growing communities, and we owe that growth to good old fashioned cyberbullying.

The important thing to remember is that nobody on hexbear punches down. If you come in with a bunch of dumbass takes then you're going to get dunked on, but nobody is going to misgender you or call you an autist as an insult while they do it. Most people who get called out on here deserve it, and if not, you can bet I'll be making an ass out of myself by defending that person until they inevitably say something that makes me regret it.

[–] [email protected] 42 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Love the gigantic PPB.

Just wanted to remark that a lot of us have learned our lesson about trying to put real effort into political discourse with Internet randos. doesn't matter if you put hours into tracking down all your sources and trying to make your arguments absolutely airtight, if the person on the other end just calls you a CCP shill, or an ignorant idealistic Westerner who didn't have to experience "real Communism," or a bot, etc. It just isn't worth the time to try to have an academic debate if the other person is obtuse, ideologically committed, ~~a teenager~~ basically a child, or posting from Langley (lol). Edit: unless you really can spare the time, obviously

Also, I think hexbears do a decent job of providing sources on average, you can't force someone to read/listen to them and engage with them in good faith, though. You know that thing about horses.

Well, happy poops to you too!

Edit: that was unfair to teenagers

[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 year ago

Also, there have to be reasonable limits on bullying, but it does work. im-vegan

[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Learned that quickly on lemmy.world

Made a long argument, typed it all out, provided multiple sources, and I just got called a troll and then the mod removed my comment

The irony though is my sources were all western sources too. I guess they just don't like real independent journalism

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Freeze peach at work in the marketplace of ideas!! shrek-pixel-despair

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Turns out the invisible hand of that particular marketlplace really loves car bombs

[–] [email protected] 32 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I think it accomplishes nothing except pushing people away, it's not changing anyone's minds.

Do you have scientific sources for that?

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 year ago

More importantly, is there any evidence that politeness and trying as best as possible to engage in good faith in every interaction leads to better outcomes? Is Posting Praxis?

Obviously not! We're all just screaming into the void for our own entertainment. If you wanted to make the world better you wouldn't waste your time on a federated reddit clone telling people they're being too rude.

[–] [email protected] 32 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

That’s an extremely mayo concern. You will take your dunking and you will like it crackkker

Bullying works

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I'm sorry but this comment doesn't meet our "Post"-based norms here. Please let me know if you'd like to know more.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 year ago

scientifically, bullying works

also thanks, i just had an amazing poop thanks to you party-blob

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Certainly doesn't help that our emoji don't size properly on other instances and are huuuge. Sorry about that.

And yeah I agree that posters here are often way too eager to be hostile. Sometimes just smelling disagreement will be enough to start a dogpile or get called a "treat defender" lmao.

Right now though it's because federation is new. Hopefully we chill out a bit before everyone defederates us lol.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

this place seems to revere "dunking" on people

nicholson-yes

You need to implement the carrot and the stick. Open minded people get the carrot. Closed? They get the stick. Maybe next time they'll get the carrot, but they aren't going to change if that's all they ever get and all they ever display is being closed to what you're trying to explain to them.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

I hope it's fine that I, as an external, come into your space and give my opinion here, this seems as good a thread as any

Sure! We could hardly demand other people stay out, just follow the rules for our instance and comms like you would for any other.

Whatever good discussion may be found here, I just don't like to deal with the tone it's had in.

This is fair, but others feel differently. I'll be nice to people who don't call me a bot for engaging in good faith but disagreeing.