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Neurotypicals - Is it rude to share a similar story after you share something that might be emotional or traumatic? (hexbear.net)

submitted 1 week ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I keep hearing that this is frowned upon, but I cannot help it. After I share, I circle back and explain how and why I connected the two stories to try to recenter the other person. Is this annoying? How do you want ND people to respond in that case?

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

CW death of parent and dog

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ok so im autistic and i have had this issue with another autistic person. i would talk about my dead mom and then for like the next 20-30 minutes she would talk about her dead dog. this made me feel bad because i do not think the lost of a dog is comparable to the loss of a parent. i also did not like that it felt like for every one minute of talking about my mom she would spend five munites on her dog, i didnt feel i had the space to get into my feelings without having to then comfort her instead. to the point i would simply stop bringing up my mom at all around tihs person because it was emotionally draining. now if im talking about my dead mom and someone else talks about losing their parent that very diffrent in my mind and is in fact a comfort.