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Chat, is it creepy to have a totally unjustified crush (hexbear.net)

submitted 1 month ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I'm not sure I should start this conversation and I've been rewriting this a lot lol. But I could use some relating and opinions from fellow internet leftists

Ok so, to keep it really simple: I happened to share a meal with somebody I really liked. I have interacted casually (no flirting) for about a dozen minutes total and we exchanged contact because of shared-interests (not dating)

Now my brain is fried

I'm thinking about her way too much and it gives be bad vibes, she probably has no idea and I can't imagine the sheer horror of realising that someone is thinking this much about you after so little interaction.

I want to be a well-behaved straight (kinda bi but that's beyond the point) guy, I'm trying to be an ally to the feminist cause, so, failing this spectacularly at behaving normally in relation to women disgust me. I know I can't remove the patriarchy from my body but I damn wish I could.

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I might have terminal romantic brain

I'd understand if I was an inexperienced teen but that's not the case. I had multiple, long, healthy relationships, and I still can't handle a crush ffs hypersus

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It's cool, man.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago

Right?! I feel we just had this discussion just the other day!

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I think it might be important to separate this from "romance"

Its not really romance, just obsession

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Patriarchal society do be romanticising actual obsession though. Lots of love stories are about obsessional creeps getting what they look for and they lived happily ever after

And I don't think I'm obsessed, it's still just a crush. I'm paniked by the fact that maybe it's not good to have a crush after having so few interactions with somebody but maybe that's just me