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[–] [email protected] 32 points 1 month ago (3 children)

I think it's very funny that as a small child I was like the textbook example of autism and yet nobody suspected I was autistic, probably because I was not a boy lol. Just goes to show how gender interacts with the medical field I guess.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 month ago (3 children)

If it is any consolation, I am clearly autistic and was a ‘boy’ and nobody suspected it either!

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I’m pretty sure my parents knew something, but never told me.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

When I came out trans mine told me they had no idea.. and well they never got asked if they suspected I was autistic either because I had disowned my family before realising myself, I know the answer they'd have given me tho

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 month ago

Mine told me if they had taken me to another doctor I'd probably have been diagnosed.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Same, I told my parents I suspect I am yesterday, expecting them to do the refrain of "you're just too smart for everyone else" like they used to when i was young but ...

less relevant to the threadThey listened, and were surprisingly supportive. Now they think if I have it that I got it from my dad's side since his brother and sister in retrospect are pretty classic cases and are really struggling, even at an advanced age.

The only criticism was that my mom thought it could be PTSD from an extremely young age (I was born with some birth defects that needed extensive surgery when I was young) and all I could do was shrug. I heard trauma from the first couple of years can lead to a form of acquired autism. I told her if that's true the distinction is academic, and that I'm choosing to see it, if its true, as a positive thing, as its shaped who I am and given me so much (even if it has been difficult too).

Unmasking Autism has been such a good read, and I found the exercises really helpful.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago

Wow, I'm really glad they took it so well!

The PTSD comparison compels me to share this post by ReadFanon on the nd comm. Maybe you've already seen it, but I found it quite helpful to realise I'm probably struggling with both and untangle which is which a little bit.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

When I was in high school, I had a friend ask. I think a lot of people just assumed I was. When I mentioned it to my mom, she was like "could you get more financial aid/scholarships if you get a diagnosis?" Idk about childhood.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago

Relatable, I'm clearly autistic. I was also made an example of for acting out because of sensory issues and such. I knew I wasn't cis and acting out on that got similar results..

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 month ago

john-agony oh man I almost wanna ask my dad if he suspected but also aaaaarhrhthgjdjfngng I never wanna fucking talk to my family about funnybrain aaaaaa