Thank you for this.

And this further proves to me how we should create a world where struggling to survive is practically impossible for all people of peaceful will. The less tha tpeople are stuck worrying about just survival the more we can worry about things that actually will improve our collective mental healths like self-actualization and climate change, and the end to all these needless wars and genocides.

Im not even joking I simply said to my doctor that Im feeling 'self deletable' and I was given an appointment with a osychologist within the same week. Completely free. I was shocked at the expediency. I still talk to that psychologist about once a few months, not because she has a full schedule but because Im busy doing things. I could make numerous appointments with her per a month, like once a week, I have just chosen not to.

Im speaking from a point of privelege once again cause ease of acfess to mental health care clearly isnt available for everyone.

But this was about 7 or so years ago so I dont think much has changed.

But you said that these people dont need mental health care and now Im curous as to why you think that? I was stuck ina cycle of thinking when I was at had my most 'self-deleting' desires but the words of my psychologist broke the cycle to make me think in different ways about my self-deleting thoughts . I realised that my self-deletiony was a strange defense mechanism I created for myself and I was just relying on it cyclically to accept that Ill never have to do anything and if Im ever asked to do something that I must? Ill just delete myself.. (yes , it was a very strange defence mechanism . But it was what it was)

I feel that a lot of these people I speak of , older , biased to the point of self-destruction, selfish , and even generally sef-destructive, need that one or two intervention that breaks this cycle that theure stuck in. And in my opinion that people created this psychological cycle as a reaction to the cruel capitalistic world and people who have harmed them. basically I now see their cruelty was simply a DEFENSE MECHANISM they created as a reaction to the cruelty theyve experienced and now theyre stuck on this cycle of a defense mechanism cause they dont see any other method to use. I canexucse a younger person who thinks like this since most young people are impressionable and inexperienced. But for an older person? ...No.... You dont think the same of them?

ya youre right I should probably remove that.

I only used negative IQ because I remember seeing it from a meme and it stuck with me cause it was kind of funny lol

I do think the number is almost meaningless cause it only measures your comprehension of what the IQ test asks of you and not your comprehension of more complex things like different human connections and different things the human body can do when it comes to things like dancing , or reaction time or calisthenics for examples.

I remmember I used to have a racist coworker and I tried to be kind to him and help him understand that he cant keep saying and doing such things to his fellow coworkers cause they werent 'White Enough©®™' for his liking. ...Was it worth it?....No....Cause he got worse... Somehow

I got fired anyways so I have no idea how he is nowadays. Maybe he's turned around....hopefully...

Something that sticks with me are those people who reach middle age, like deep into their 40s or or even into their senior years, and theyre still cluelessly lost as to how to just be empathetic or to not call me or others racial or derogatory slurs. Ive been called slurs by far more people who Ive observed were probably older than 40 than I have been by people who were in their 20s or even their teens.

I can excuse a youngin who behaves in almost any way because we were all young and easily impressionable, right? Even I was once a young knucklehead .

But I feel that there is a certain age where your own tenacity should take over and you should be the one who makes the call on how you will behave and will react to different situatiins - and it should always be the more empathetic call . If youre past like 40 amd youre still out here calling people slurs or ghosting people when you have accepted to be their friend or ghosting people who you have agreed to date? then I dont know what to say to ' you other than I think you need a psychologist. Not nly for your safety but for also the rest of mankind's safety' . I feel there's a lot of people who need mental health assistance so they can break that cycle of conditioning themselves to be so cold and to break the cycle of trauma theyve experienced and not dole out their pain to others is all Im saying.

Well, rather than wondering about how they have lived this long and still haven’t learned, that can be flipped the other way around too: they’ve acted this way for 60 years already. The patterns of that behaviour are quite deeply engraved at that point and even more difficult to get rid of. Older people are called stubborn for a reason and there are sayings about that too such as “an old dog doesn’t learn new tricks.” However, as I said, it’s not to excuse that behaviour but rather just approach it from a different angle. When a person behaves that way asserting blame as if they could have acted otherwise is unproductive. The focus should in my opinion be in understanding that this behaviour is usually a symptom of some deeper issues. These people are in pain whether they know it or not.

Ah yes! Good ooint. It could just be that theyre conditioned to act or react in those ways to certain , or sometimes even all, stressors in their life . Like their oast trauma has been so thorough and long that theyve become conditioned in this way usually through no fault of their own. I dont think we should excuse toxic behaviours though I was watching this one Dave's Lemonade episode about a man who did something absoutely heinous but after hewas caught and convicted there was a 'secondary trial' for him that assessed whst in his life led to him becoming the type of man that he was....and....yup! His childhood and even his adulthood too surprisingly clearly explained how he became the way he became. Ill try to find thr video... Edit : Here it is: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Otz6Ydf9Avk

But again: stressed out, underslept, overworked and then tipped over by a minor inconvenience. The reasons behind this kind of behaviour are usually rather mundane

Good point. Well I guess I am speaking from a point of privelege here again cause usually when I feel this way I can take a moment , or even many moments, to just cool off , understand what is making me mad, understand ehat happened to me, and try to find ways to overcome it. Others may not have this luxury...

Now THIS is something I can agree with.

This centering we have done of capital and its accumulation and those who have taken a large amount of resources or political connection can defintely lead to humanity and humanism becoming a less important priority in the eyes of people.

Why cant we build societies where humanity , humanity's needs , our needs for social connections and our connection to our envirinments and the planet is at the centre of everything we plan and do?

well youre not wrong . I am DEFINITELY not a paragon of empathy . And yes I do have my biases, but almost all humans have some biases right?

But as for my 'abuse of others' ?... Wot? I swear Id never. I never want to hurt innocent people and further 'enshittify' the world that is already shitty.

I will admit thst the lack of mental health care provided by those in power most places makes me start to understand why this is such a recurring phenomena in many places .

Though I live i canada which pretty much has free mental health care and ONCE AGAIN most of the people Ive talked to here have either ghosted me for no reason which theyve stated, ignored me , or said mean words or done mean actions to me. This is the same regardless of the age of the person Ive talked to . I would assume that a person who was 40+ would have wised up as to how this is not a way to behave to other people who you have been talking to fr the last couple of weeks , months ...and yet...

I did and I have the 'blur nsfw' instructiom unchecked and the 'show nsfw' instruction checked. So 🤷🏿‍♂️

I feel like there were probably some couples wwhere one or both of them had too many differences in opinions or evn irreconcilable differences in their relationship and they just decided that having a baby would 'fix' their relationship ...when most of us know that it rarely works out like that.

So most of these relationships presented here eventually kept on getting worse and worse in their connectedness to each other and even to the new child in the relationship thus leading to breakdown of the relationship.

There may also be the problem of us living in a capitalistic socieity that makes it so that humans and human relationships (as in relationships with your spouse(s) and your child or children, are not centrered in most of socieities' institutiins and its economic superstructure (but instead the rich and those who can accumulate resources or have had accumulated resources are centered the most in society) so this leads to most people with kids experiencing a disdain for babymaking because they realize that the very societies that they make babies for will not give a damn about them or their children or about them.

Countries ALL over the planet have been experiencing a decrease in baby making since more forms of contraception become available in the 50s and 70s . Doesnt matter if its south korea , with is insanely low birth rate that is so low that the population of south korea will HAVE to shrink significantly in the next 100 years , or nigeria. which indeed has not experienced a negatige population growth and Nigeria actually has a higher total birth number than most of europe combined but has seen its increase in population on the decline as of recently. I feelthat most people who dont have kids nowadays are justifiably REBELLING agains the disgusting capitalistic systems and peoples that we live under that have removed humanity and human relationships from beeing the central point of all planning when it comes to whst we are told tl focus on and do. And also societies are increasingly normalizjng needless slaughter, and even genocide, of innocent families . The Iran, Iraq and Afghan and Vietnamese War were all uncalled for by most Iraqis, Afghanis, Vietnamese and the majority of people who died in those wars were innocent families that had no ill will to the people invading thwir country. That is exactly why I got snipped. I dont want to raise a child in a world where its seen as so normal to be a human who doesnt centre humanity or where needless slaughter of other humans is seen as 'normal'

im sorry member of the what ?