Fuck this.

Let's be real bare bones about this.

In Tennessee, 2 million people voted for Trump.

1 million voted for Harris.

The vibe is, "Those 1 million people can't fix their situation so they should be just as fucked as the other 2."

And that's wrong. It's wrong to condemn whole swaths of humanity based on where they live, but even if you're dick enough to say "FAFO" when real humans suffer, you shouldn't be willing to throw your own allies under the bus based on arbitrary lines on the ground.

And I'm a first responder, don't talk to me about compassion fatigue, it's not an excuse not to help someone who needs it.

A male friend of mine who confides in me was complaining to me about how there are these 'feminists' talking about 'toxic masculinity.' Apparently he viewed some video where a guy was intentionally conflating masculinity with toxic masculinity. I didn't know that at the time, I was just shocked, because he's the biggest victim of toxic masculinity I know. When I said that, he asked me to explain, and I pointed to the fact that his father burned his sketchbooks (this was the 70s) because art is "for girls." Which is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard.

When I explained that toxic masculinity is that, the emphasis to conform to some harmful version of masculinity, he turned on a dime so fast in rage at the asshole who conflated the two.

The thing that hurts my feelings most is when men are taught to forward toxic masculinity that harms them. When they're forged into links in a chain that they would never wield if they knew better.

"I'm scared," says Ralph.

But I am an author, and take control of this story. Ralph does not understand fear. His existence was short, his history nonexistent, his understanding of the world and his place within it unreal, characterized by the agony of going from non-being, to screaming awareness all in an instant.

The author has returned Ralph to the imaginary realm from which he sprang, freeing him, and any unwitting victims who witnessed his short, confusing reality.

Truly, the only monster here was the first narrator, a casual god who created Ralph only to serve as an instrument of suffering.

Statistically, the US is fat, so drawing fat people isn't inherently fat shaming.

This is a joke about how my generation is old. We just also happen to be mostly fat people.

My fiance and I.

I really feel like there should be a dating app for ADHD people. I didn't know how good I could have it until I got with someone who never condemns me for my behaviors because, "Uh, I do that too? Why would I be mad?"

Glad you mentioned 'next of kin.' This is the important answer. If you're married, you can do all that important legal stuff- make medical decisions if your partner is unconscious or indisposed, get the death certificate if that happens and give it to all the people who will need it.

Say your partner is in a car accident and you go to the hospital. There's no marriage, no forms, no nothing to indicate you're at all related to this person. You're just some dude or lady, showing up at some dude or lady's bedside. You can't make the decisions for this person. Even if, say, they have a horrible narcissistic mother they're estranged from- that mother, just by being the mother, can get all the authority to make decisions your unconscious partner would hate!

(Drawing from my own life. Fuck my mother.)

You can't even call the hospital and get information on them. If they aren't awake to indicate a release of information, the hospital can't let you see them, can't tell you anything.

This is just the first example that came to mind. The purpose of marriage is, it's a legal way to indicate that you're the most important person in the life of the person you marry. (And yes, depending on where you are and laws in your state or country or whatever, domestic partnership and other stuff can grant that, too.)

I know this flies in the face of what everyone else seems to be saying, but fuck it.

I don't know of an acronym, but my reaction is that even if they overreacted, your insanely aggressive response makes me think it's right to leave it in place. I get that you're saying that you're just angry because you like blahaj, but up and down this thread your bitching is so antagonistic... Like, calling it narcissistic, referring to people who care "too much" about their pronouns as having main character syndrome? This is not the behavior of a friend, or an ally, and it's not one I'd love in a member of my community.

Being queer and neurodivergent is not an excuse to be an asshole. As someone who identifies as both queer and neurodivergent, let me say I wouldn't unban you for this. Whether the initial ban was right or wrong!

I went through real shit in the 90s for being queer. I wasn't even diagnosed as neurodivergent (despite a disgusting amount of evidence since I was a child, because "girls don't get ADHD") until my goddamned 30s. That doesn't mean that just because other people are suffering differently, their suffering doesn't matter, and screaming about it makes you look like an abusive fuck. People don't have to suffer "enough" for your definition to deserve respect. Jesus.

I get that this could be stepping on your trauma, and nobody loves being excluded, but this reaction ain't it.

I submit to you that they should fave the horrible fate being forced on others, and every time they suffer it should be live-broadcast online to others who think like them.

you could have done more

Aaaaaagh!!! Leave me alone! I got so much done yesterday and all I get is guilt that I went to bed before I was done?!

Fun fact; I caught a 30 day ban once off /r/politics for a comment that was explicitly that quote by JFK, attributed to him. "Promoting violence."