That makes me think of how much it annoys me when things are really messy and disorganized in our house, which is very often.
It's like there's no indexing. Where is thing X that somebody else used last? Time to start a fresh empty-cache brute force search of the whole space!
I find the balance. They are less than a half hour drive away and we don't see them all that often.
My kid has grandparents and cousins he likes. Fortunately at most of the get-togethers at grandma's house, we tend to separate into two floors of the house. So I get to hang with my nieces and nephews and spend most of the time with walls between me and the old miserable people.