[-] Kayday@lemmy.world 6 points 9 hours ago

My wife and I are one and done, very happy. We both really liked our potential daughter's name and decided I should use it :)

[-] Kayday@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

Very nice! I put it down when I got stuck on the fire giant years ago and just never got around to coming back. Maybe someday.

[-] Kayday@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

My comfortable pitch range is very narrow, so I have a hard time sounding super enthusiastic. Not sure if training like a singer would to boost their range is what I need, but that's my idea.

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submitted 2 days ago by Kayday@lemmy.world to c/lgbt@lemmy.world

Hello there! My wife and I are a trans + cis lesbian couple. Our son (2) has always known us as his moms, and uses "she" for both of us. Lately, he's heard a lot of talk about other kid's moms and dads at daycare, and has started trying to use that same language at home.

That isn't preferred of course; we do our best to remind him that he has two moms, but being a toddler he's noticed that he gets extra attention when he uses that word, so that's fun!

I'm not too worried about how we'll handle that, it's just going to take time. What I'm wondering is if this is something cis gay/lesbian couples experience? Like, your child becomes aware of the categories of "mom" and "dad", and tries to fit both parents into those categories? I'd like to think that it can happen to cis queer couples as well, but it could also just be since I am trans.

[-] Kayday@lemmy.world 5 points 3 days ago

In the electronics resale shop I used to work in, we would wash keyboards in a dishwasher and then hang them up to dry like this.

[-] Kayday@lemmy.world 1 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

I've never been across the border. I assume that if I cross from the US, I will be interacting with Canadian border patrol, not US border patrol?

[-] Kayday@lemmy.world 15 points 6 days ago

God damn I don't think I can take any more bad news today

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[-] Kayday@lemmy.world 71 points 1 month ago

Brother, share some of your oats with me

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submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by Kayday@lemmy.world to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

I'm around 9 months of feminizing HRT, and maintain the opinion that it is one of the best decisions I've made. I know that a lot of long term changes won't kick in until the 2-3 year mark at least, and it can take 5 or more years before strength is comparable to a cis woman.

Yesterday I took some milestone pictures, and it was the first time I've seen my back since before starting hormones. Holy dysphoria Batman. Genuinely the most acute dysphoria I've experienced. I have had a day to cry, nap, and evaluate, and am back to trusting the process, but damn I want these lats to go away.

I powerlifted in my past life as a way to try and run away from the woman I wanted to become, but haven't done any upper body strength training in over 3 years. I'd have great genes if I wasn't trans ;-;

[-] Kayday@lemmy.world 118 points 3 months ago

Same as the Terraria devs, yeah.
Glad he's found a passion project that makes him happy!

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submitted 4 months ago by Kayday@lemmy.world to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

I'm currently in the process of obtaining the two different mental health referrals my insurance asks for before they will cover my orchiectomy. My doctor set me up with a therapist who can be my first referral, and she's great; very kind, and understanding of my situation. I am getting antsy though.

At the start of our first session, she asked what my goal in seeing her was, to which I responded politely but bluntly, "I just need a referral for my insurance to get bottom surgery." She took that graciously, I think. We have now completed two sessions of therapy and I am wondering how many are necessary for her to just give the referral already...

The plan is to ask her in our next session how long before she can give the referral. I haven't been given an expectation from her so far, which is a little concerning. I don't want to just get roped into paying for extra sessions.

I had (naively?) hoped back in October that I could start the process and get surgery scheduled for January at the latest, but since I'm still working on the first of two referrals, that seems unlikely.

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submitted 4 months ago by Kayday@lemmy.world to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

[seeking input from people who use female restrooms]

Hello! I have been using women's restrooms for some time now. Tonight however, will be the first time that I will be going out with some girlfriends where public toilets will be involved. Everyone I am going with knows that I am trans, and is supportive. My questions/concerns are:

  • If I get up to use the bathroom, should I ask anyone if they would like to come with?
  • If another woman gets up, should I offer to go with?
  • If we are using the restroom at the same time, and I finish first, should I wait for them? If so, inside, or outside?

I'm mostly just wanting to act "normal," and don't want to unknowingly perform any social faux pas. Thanks!

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submitted 5 months ago by Kayday@lemmy.world to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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I've been on HRT for 6 months, with 5mg weekly injections for the last 3 of those months.
3 months ago, my E was 22 pg/ml, now it is 333 pg/ml.
Doctor says that is too high and is going to to reduce me to a "maintenance dose". Just wanted to check with other people if this is consistent with their experiences. Thanks!

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submitted 5 months ago by Kayday@lemmy.world to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

[Asking MtF people who have had genital surgery, ideally in Chicago]

Hello! I started talking to my doctor yesterday about finding a surgeon for a bilateral orchiectomy. We both agreed Chicago would probably be a practical place to find someone experienced in the procedure.

I found two doctors: Dr. Loren Schechter, MD, and Dr. Traci P. Beck, MD. Both have come up in my searching, but I wanted to check if anyone in the community has advice / recommendations for who to go to.

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submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by Kayday@lemmy.world to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

Trying hard to trust the process, and while I have seen other expected changes in skin, hair, and mood, I am getting anxious that nothing is happening under my shirt. I had some minor sensitivity within the first two weeks, but never anything painful.

This Friday will be 6 weeks on HRT. 2mg Est, 4mg Prog, 200mg Spiro daily.

Edit: thanks for talking me off the cliff everyone, I'm much less anxious now ๐Ÿ˜…

[-] Kayday@lemmy.world 59 points 1 year ago

So the implication, not letter, of the 2nd ammendment gives US citizens the right to shoot cops if they are acting as an extension of a tyrannical state. I wonder if there is a case to be made that this executive order infringes on the constitution.
Of course, I don't expect any 2A stans to care.

[-] Kayday@lemmy.world 76 points 1 year ago

"The rule in question, known as Bredt's rule in textbooks, was reported in 1924. It states that molecules cannot have a carbon-carbon double bond at the ring junction of a bridged bicyclic molecule, also known as the "bridgehead" position. The double bond on these structures would have distorted, twisted geometrical shapes that deviate from the rigid geometry of alkenes taught in textbooks.
...A paper published by UCLA scientists in the journal Science has invalidated that idea. They show how to make several kinds of molecules that violate Bredt's rule, called anti-Bredt olefins, or ABOs, allowing chemists to find practical ways to make and use them in reactions."

[-] Kayday@lemmy.world 63 points 1 year ago

We're trying ๐Ÿ˜ญ

[-] Kayday@lemmy.world 90 points 2 years ago

To be fair, you have to have a very high IQ to understand cropped memes. The humour is extremely subtle, and without a solid grasp of memetics and linguistics most of the jokes will go over a typical reader's head. There's also the high contrast color pallette, which is deftly woven into the message. Lemmy users understand this stuff; they have the intellectual capacity to truly appreciate the depths of these jokes, to realise that they're not just funny- they say something deep about LIFE. As a consequence people who dislike cropped memes truly ARE idiots- of course they wouldn't appreciate, for instance, the humour in longing for the bottom half of the text, "Join our Discord". I'm smirking right now just imagining one of those addlepated simpletons scratching their heads in confusion as the meme's genius wit unfolds itself on their smartphone screens. What fools..

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