DakRalter

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[–] DakRalter 5 points 23 hours ago

Mate, come join us at the @[email protected] group on Mastodon. There are a lot of fellow autists who will be there to lend an ear if you need to vent or need some practical advice. I recommend the autistics.life instance. I have the same issue irl, people will expect me to be there when they need me, but now that I need someone on my side, they'll happily throw me under the bus. You're not alone, even if it's just a few randos online.

[–] DakRalter 1 points 4 days ago

Here in the UK I have never had to file taxes. It's all done as PAYE. Whatever software your employer uses will work out how much you owe via your tax code each pay packet and it's auto deducted. It's only self employed people (maybe other types of earner, I wouldn't know, I'm just a waged employee) who have to submit their tax forms. It's weird other countries aren't doing it this way.

[–] DakRalter 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

imitating the Nicole spam, but with Liz as the lettuce chick

I'm sure someone can make a funnier version.

[–] DakRalter 4 points 1 week ago

So basically Pork Markets?

[–] DakRalter 4 points 1 week ago

Dew it! The lettuce thing really triggers her, doesn't it!

Phil Moorhouse predicted it might just be a Discord channel, which would be hilarious if it turns out to be true.

Who would actually sign up for a Truss social media site? Apart from people joining just to spam her with lettuce memes. Do it, Liz. We need you to make this site! The future is in the balance and only YOU can save it, Liz, by making a social media site that we definitely won't spam with lettuce memes.

[–] DakRalter 2 points 1 week ago

That. Is. A. Disgrace!

[–] DakRalter 10 points 1 week ago

"Everytime I kidnap and assault an Uyghur woman, I do one push up."

[–] DakRalter 1 points 1 week ago

I just don't go to family functions!

[–] DakRalter 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

more Nicole spam

This was the username (already reported). The Nicole text was part of the image (green text on black) and the message body was the bitcoin IDs. I find targeting the Fediverse for this type of scam to be a bit pointless. I doubt there are many people on here who would fall for this sort of scam. The only advantage I can see to targeting the Fediverse is the inability to restrict private messages.

I got the message a few mins after logging on. Both times on Lemmy, I got the Nicole spam when online (I can't remember if that was the case on Mastodon). I don't know if that's coincidence.

[–] DakRalter 2 points 1 week ago

Thanks, man. There was another issue I was having whole curtain communities would get an API error. One of them was [email protected], which I could only access via web until a few days ago, but that seems to be working now. Just a heads up. I'll let you know if I come across other comms giving that error.

[–] DakRalter 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (13 children)

I got one just now as well. I suspect it might even be a different person using the Nicole spam as a cover?

Edit: does anyone know, are there any plans to allow users to disable DMs? It feels like it should be a basic privacy feature and would have stopped all this. Mastodon has the same issue (apparently there's an option to stop non followers DMing you, but I can't find it).

 

I don't know if I'm missing it, but I can't see an option to report accounts. I just got another Nicole spam, this time with a bunch of bitcoin links, but I could only find a block option via Connect, and had to logon via web to report the account. I looked on the three-dot menus both on the message and the profile, but I couldn't see a report.

 

There used to be a red and blue gradient background here. Now it's gone. I reset the theme, but it still shows white text on white background. Not that big of a deal as there's nothing there I need to read, but still mildly annoying. Also it means the switch user option isn't visible now.

Also is this how the surface colour setting is meant to work? I wanted the background colour in light mode to be an off-white so it's easier on the eyes, but there doesn't seem to be a way?

Thanks!

 

From https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=yDjlRu4CnjI

NomoSapienss: Park Tool company is the father I never had!

ParkTool: We're proud of you, son 💙

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This time, Jenny is done with his crap and walking away from a toxic relationship.

(Background iimage by DallE 3)

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Anxiety vs Overwhelm (neurodivergentinsights.com)
 

Warning: ranting.

Like many, I was fobbed of with an anxiety disorder NOS diagnosis. I assumed that what I felt was anxiety. Last autumn I got to the top of the waiting list for anxiety therapy.

And it was useless. It got to the point where it felt like the therapist was trying to push low self esteem onto me so she could cure me of it, and thereby cure my anxiety.

I tried to explain to her that my anxiety wasn't based on irrational thoughts, but experience. If I have to go somewhere I'm not familiar with, I will get overloaded with all the new input. I will struggle to process it because I need to be alone to process. The same applies to my feelings. I can't deal with them when I need to, because I can't identify them. So all this makes me scared because I know it will exhaust me or make me shut down. I just see this void when I don't have any reference images. The more I can fill in that picture, the less anxious I feel. Because I can process this in advance (eg using streetview to memorise a route and save landmarks so I can navigate).

No, she says. It's because you have low self esteem. Now write down some bad statements about yourself and say them out loud.

In my quest to educate her, I came across this article and it makes so much sense why CBT wasn't working. The anxiety diagnosis doesn't fit.

Even after asking her to learn about autistic anxiety, she didn't bother. So next session I gave her a printout of that article. Something told me she wouldn't bother to learn anything from it, so I discharged myself.

Is what you're feeling anxiety or overwhelm? Does the anxiety come because you know from your own experience that something will cause you to struggle? Is the feeling more akin to dread?

 

Someone on Mastodon shared this link with me, and I thought you might find it as interesting as I do.

I really hate the misconception of the spectrum. It enables nasty people like Ellen degeneres to justify being a bully (in case you missed it, she tried to get diagnosed autistic. When that didn't work, she said, well it's a spectrum so we're all a little autistic, so I'm not a bully). And enables others to dismiss our struggles, cos hey, we're all on the spectrum!

Back to the article, I feel like I'm a mix of the three examples. I can see some that match from each example. How about you? When I stop feeling so lazy, I might do my own custom one.

 

He is such a chill dude! Can you believe HE wanted MY autograph? I wish I could have thought of more things to ask him about. I'm still a noob at bike mechanics, and a slow learner, but he was so encouraging and kind, and a lot of fun!

He really is a mechanical hero!

 

 

It's bike spokes, I swear.

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