[-] DakRalter 2 points 3 days ago

No, you're right. It is so emergency services prioritise cars with the sign.

[-] DakRalter 5 points 3 days ago

Is it stealing if I buy a second hand book? I'm still getting to enjoy the work without paying the author (even if the original person paid). Multiple people can own a physical copy at different times (with the author only getting paid once).

Just like downloads. I don't feel bad about downloading stuff that's out of print. No one is making money from it now anyway, so what harm. If anything, digital copies help to stop these books being lost.

[-] DakRalter 1 points 3 days ago

I've been in a similar situation. It seems it's the only type of person I seem to attract. They pursue me, only when I eventually reciprocate they freak out, and self-sabotage ensues. In my case, the only thing was to walk away, because they were dragging me down with them. Some people can get past the trust issues (I have my own issues that I've been working through), but others can't. So I don't actually have any advice, sorry.

[-] DakRalter 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

It reminds me of something our former chief clown once did:

https://schoolsweek.co.uk/noticeboard-firm-boss-slides-were-taken-out-of-context-and-arent-pro-boris-propaganda/

Edit: apparently he wasn't behind it, but I can see something like this officially happening if MAGA UK (Farridge) gets in. Except you'll get a load of racism and xenophobia added in too.

[-] DakRalter 7 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Google maps showing 22 min walk between the sites

I was hoping for a gnome wonderland but it's just a campsite with garden gnomes :(

You could get a fun park in on the same day though.

[-] DakRalter 1 points 6 days ago

That's the John Finnemore horsebox sketch!

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=e3TgxXp5nEI

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I only just found out.

A bike-friendly city is a people-friendly city.

Happy cycling!

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There seems to be a visual glitch, where upvoting also makes the downvote counter go up by one as well.

Edit: hopefully this link works: https://autistics.life/@SilverArrows/114474315964904870

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I don't know if I'm missing it, but I can't see an option to report accounts. I just got another Nicole spam, this time with a bunch of bitcoin links, but I could only find a block option via Connect, and had to logon via web to report the account. I looked on the three-dot menus both on the message and the profile, but I couldn't see a report.

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There used to be a red and blue gradient background here. Now it's gone. I reset the theme, but it still shows white text on white background. Not that big of a deal as there's nothing there I need to read, but still mildly annoying. Also it means the switch user option isn't visible now.

Also is this how the surface colour setting is meant to work? I wanted the background colour in light mode to be an off-white so it's easier on the eyes, but there doesn't seem to be a way?

Thanks!

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From https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=yDjlRu4CnjI

NomoSapienss: Park Tool company is the father I never had!

ParkTool: We're proud of you, son 💙

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This time, Jenny is done with his crap and walking away from a toxic relationship.

(Background iimage by DallE 3)

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Warning: ranting.

Like many, I was fobbed of with an anxiety disorder NOS diagnosis. I assumed that what I felt was anxiety. Last autumn I got to the top of the waiting list for anxiety therapy.

And it was useless. It got to the point where it felt like the therapist was trying to push low self esteem onto me so she could cure me of it, and thereby cure my anxiety.

I tried to explain to her that my anxiety wasn't based on irrational thoughts, but experience. If I have to go somewhere I'm not familiar with, I will get overloaded with all the new input. I will struggle to process it because I need to be alone to process. The same applies to my feelings. I can't deal with them when I need to, because I can't identify them. So all this makes me scared because I know it will exhaust me or make me shut down. I just see this void when I don't have any reference images. The more I can fill in that picture, the less anxious I feel. Because I can process this in advance (eg using streetview to memorise a route and save landmarks so I can navigate).

No, she says. It's because you have low self esteem. Now write down some bad statements about yourself and say them out loud.

In my quest to educate her, I came across this article and it makes so much sense why CBT wasn't working. The anxiety diagnosis doesn't fit.

Even after asking her to learn about autistic anxiety, she didn't bother. So next session I gave her a printout of that article. Something told me she wouldn't bother to learn anything from it, so I discharged myself.

Is what you're feeling anxiety or overwhelm? Does the anxiety come because you know from your own experience that something will cause you to struggle? Is the feeling more akin to dread?

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Someone on Mastodon shared this link with me, and I thought you might find it as interesting as I do.

I really hate the misconception of the spectrum. It enables nasty people like Ellen degeneres to justify being a bully (in case you missed it, she tried to get diagnosed autistic. When that didn't work, she said, well it's a spectrum so we're all a little autistic, so I'm not a bully). And enables others to dismiss our struggles, cos hey, we're all on the spectrum!

Back to the article, I feel like I'm a mix of the three examples. I can see some that match from each example. How about you? When I stop feeling so lazy, I might do my own custom one.

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He is such a chill dude! Can you believe HE wanted MY autograph? I wish I could have thought of more things to ask him about. I'm still a noob at bike mechanics, and a slow learner, but he was so encouraging and kind, and a lot of fun!

He really is a mechanical hero!

[-] DakRalter 72 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

The high ground was just a ruse. Obi Wan has the advantage on the low ground. Vs Maul and Grievous, he attacked from below. Taunting Anakin about the high ground was just to make Anakin try to get the high ground so Obi Wan could attack from below. Which he did.

Attacking from the low ground in melee combat is advantageous as you can just go for the ankles, as my niece figured out very early on when we used to play lightsaber battles. She'd insist I stand on the bed, and she'd slice off my ankles, it's over, Auntikin, I have the low ground, haha.

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[-] DakRalter 57 points 6 months ago

My therapist actually has blue hair though...

[-] DakRalter 60 points 7 months ago

Where Rupert Murdoch? I'd put him as even worse than Bezos.

[-] DakRalter 75 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Why are union subs so high in the US? As a part time worker I pay under a tenner a month, but even as a full time worker, I'd be paying £16.

[-] DakRalter 60 points 2 years ago

This is hilarious! The mods are being compensated for their time with shiny gold stars!

This would be fine for small independent forums that don't really make a profit, but for spezzit? More fool them.

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