DakRalter

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[โ€“] DakRalter 2 points 9 hours ago

Don't watch it alone, it's actually mentally exhausting. I managed two alone, no more. Watch it with at least one other person so you can snark it as you watch. Fateful Findings was probably the worst. If you're not brave enough to face them alone, Kurtis Conner and Space Ice have snarks of the full films.

Also his films do get taken off YouTube for copyright. Internet archive has the full collection though.

[โ€“] DakRalter 1 points 9 hours ago

They've been talking about this since back when I used to work there (up to 2016) and still no progress? The worry I had was closing it to buses as well. For people just going there for a fun day out shopping, it's fine, just reschedule, but for those who work there, tube strikes will be an extra layer of fun when the nearest bus stop is a 20 minute walk away.

I still maintain that e-pedicabs should be a TfL thing.

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Voting bug (visual glitch) (self.lemmyconnect)
submitted 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago) by DakRalter to c/[email protected]
 

There seems to be a visual glitch, where upvoting also makes the downvote counter go up by one as well.

Edit: hopefully this link works: https://autistics.life/@SilverArrows/114474315964904870

[โ€“] DakRalter 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Excuse me, it's not piracy if it's Nintendo.

[โ€“] DakRalter 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

I can access catbox from the UK, no VPN. But videos hosted on it often won't show up on Connect(although they did until recently), so I have to view them via browser. I can see your images just fine.

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My oldest nephew was born in 2003 and I was still having to manually remove red eye using Paintshop Pro 7 from my mum's digital photos of him when was about 6 or 7.

[โ€“] DakRalter 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

my Tama collection

80s baby. I had to make do with the knockoffs (the green cat one was a nano pet clone that worked perfectly and the octopets one was really fun except it was always freezing), because the official ones were sold out forever. I've had the two TamaGos on pause since last year haha. Tamagotchi Angel has been rereleased, but it seems kinda boring.

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Mate, come join us at the @[email protected] group on Mastodon. There are a lot of fellow autists who will be there to lend an ear if you need to vent or need some practical advice. I recommend the autistics.life instance. I have the same issue irl, people will expect me to be there when they need me, but now that I need someone on my side, they'll happily throw me under the bus. You're not alone, even if it's just a few randos online.

[โ€“] DakRalter 1 points 2 weeks ago

Here in the UK I have never had to file taxes. It's all done as PAYE. Whatever software your employer uses will work out how much you owe via your tax code each pay packet and it's auto deducted. It's only self employed people (maybe other types of earner, I wouldn't know, I'm just a waged employee) who have to submit their tax forms. It's weird other countries aren't doing it this way.

 

I don't know if I'm missing it, but I can't see an option to report accounts. I just got another Nicole spam, this time with a bunch of bitcoin links, but I could only find a block option via Connect, and had to logon via web to report the account. I looked on the three-dot menus both on the message and the profile, but I couldn't see a report.

 

There used to be a red and blue gradient background here. Now it's gone. I reset the theme, but it still shows white text on white background. Not that big of a deal as there's nothing there I need to read, but still mildly annoying. Also it means the switch user option isn't visible now.

Also is this how the surface colour setting is meant to work? I wanted the background colour in light mode to be an off-white so it's easier on the eyes, but there doesn't seem to be a way?

Thanks!

 

From https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=yDjlRu4CnjI

NomoSapienss: Park Tool company is the father I never had!

ParkTool: We're proud of you, son ๐Ÿ’™

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submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by DakRalter to c/californiadreams
 

This time, Jenny is done with his crap and walking away from a toxic relationship.

(Background iimage by DallE 3)

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Anxiety vs Overwhelm (neurodivergentinsights.com)
 

Warning: ranting.

Like many, I was fobbed of with an anxiety disorder NOS diagnosis. I assumed that what I felt was anxiety. Last autumn I got to the top of the waiting list for anxiety therapy.

And it was useless. It got to the point where it felt like the therapist was trying to push low self esteem onto me so she could cure me of it, and thereby cure my anxiety.

I tried to explain to her that my anxiety wasn't based on irrational thoughts, but experience. If I have to go somewhere I'm not familiar with, I will get overloaded with all the new input. I will struggle to process it because I need to be alone to process. The same applies to my feelings. I can't deal with them when I need to, because I can't identify them. So all this makes me scared because I know it will exhaust me or make me shut down. I just see this void when I don't have any reference images. The more I can fill in that picture, the less anxious I feel. Because I can process this in advance (eg using streetview to memorise a route and save landmarks so I can navigate).

No, she says. It's because you have low self esteem. Now write down some bad statements about yourself and say them out loud.

In my quest to educate her, I came across this article and it makes so much sense why CBT wasn't working. The anxiety diagnosis doesn't fit.

Even after asking her to learn about autistic anxiety, she didn't bother. So next session I gave her a printout of that article. Something told me she wouldn't bother to learn anything from it, so I discharged myself.

Is what you're feeling anxiety or overwhelm? Does the anxiety come because you know from your own experience that something will cause you to struggle? Is the feeling more akin to dread?

 

Someone on Mastodon shared this link with me, and I thought you might find it as interesting as I do.

I really hate the misconception of the spectrum. It enables nasty people like Ellen degeneres to justify being a bully (in case you missed it, she tried to get diagnosed autistic. When that didn't work, she said, well it's a spectrum so we're all a little autistic, so I'm not a bully). And enables others to dismiss our struggles, cos hey, we're all on the spectrum!

Back to the article, I feel like I'm a mix of the three examples. I can see some that match from each example. How about you? When I stop feeling so lazy, I might do my own custom one.

 

He is such a chill dude! Can you believe HE wanted MY autograph? I wish I could have thought of more things to ask him about. I'm still a noob at bike mechanics, and a slow learner, but he was so encouraging and kind, and a lot of fun!

He really is a mechanical hero!

 

 

It's bike spokes, I swear.

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