Okay so.
My understanding of the apartment hunt was that I was buying a home for myself. Part of it is my savings, part of it a homeloan scheme, part my parents chipping in. The condition of my parents contributing is that any apartment I buy has to have a second bedroom, second bathroom and car space - a guest suite, effectively, for them to use when they come from Mornington into town.
One of the options we looked at yesterday was a converted hotel space - two suites that have been turned into a single apartment. Because it WAS two rooms, it has two front doors.
"Oh, great. Total privacy. We can even lock our side when we're not here"
Hang on, that means I'm locked out of about 40% of my home on a daily basis
"But that's ours. Why would you ever go in there?"
Because it's part of my home. The suite is yours when you need it, for as long as you like...but I'd quite like to have, like, a chair and some shelves in there as well as your bed so it's not completely wasted space for the 75% of the year you're not here? Maybe one of my pictures goes on that wall? I'd like to be able to stash my yoga mat and Christmas shit in that wardrobe?
Apparently that's not the deal. It's not "the guest room in my home", it's their private space in the city that they don't want me to enter even when they're not here. They thought I understood that expectation going in.
We've been looking at city apartments. Making two rooms functionally useless/invisible to me because they're not actually mine to access feels like...a bigger deal in an apartment compared to having an unused bedroom and guest bathroom in a big house.
I'm...weirdly upset by this. I'm happy to host - gladly, and I'll get a second TV and the nice sheets/towels they like so they can be entirely comfortable in that guest suite - but I honestly thought that it would be a guest room I could at least sit in when they didn't need it.
Am I overreacting?
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