My therapist was very good at asking questions that made me really think about my actions and feelings and why I believed they were right or wrong and we discussed that. I found that helpful because some things I thought were definitely not healthy.

Well while your experience may speak to some people it's not what the video is about. The video is about people that try to analytically solve their own problems without facing the emotions attached to those problems. Basically using cognitive behavioral therapy on themselves to pretend like the problem is solved without the typical result of CBT which is more emotional than the step-by-step nature of the process.

I had therapists like this but then I finally found a therapist who just got really curious about why I felt that way, what else I felt, what I'd think of others who feel that way, etc etc just really digging quite well into the feeling with various angles etc and all the while trying to notice and point out when I seem to get overwhelmed or worked up about something. That kind of observation and exploration helped me greatly.

I'm fairly NT (I think), without much trauma history, and my experience with therapy has been kind of similar. I think this video is probably worth a watch for you. It's basically arguing that intellectualising is a defence mechanism that prevents proper connection to feelings, and that focusing on the physical aspects of emotions is a way to counteract that. For me, it's not a solution, but it does provide a partial answer to why therapy hasn't worked a bunch of times before.

I think you're confusing feeling any feeling with what you need to feel. Your anger is likely what your other emotions are being filtered through.

You go on to prove the video's premise to be correct by going online, finding groups, discussing and adding to your knowledge.

I didn't watch the video so idk if they gave advice but I can give you what I've personally found up help.

I ask myself how my body feels physically. And then I take the time to actually listen. Maybe my chest feels tight. Maybe I have that feeling where I want to escape my body. Maybe everything feels buzzy. Maybe my chest feels heavy or my body feels heavy. Sometimes my forearms feel sensitive.

Whatever the first feeling is, I just experience it for a bit. Just exist with it. Then I move on to the next when I feel I'm ready. It takes practice though. But eventually as you keep doing it, your brain starts doing it a bit more automatically. You just occasionally have to tell the analytical thoughts to shut the hell up, we talk only after feels.

CBT isn't a one size fits all approach that people think it is. Adding the "others have it worse" bit at the end is just bad form.

This works for me too. Being overly analytical about your feelings overlaps a lot with rumination which is like letting the cogs in your brain use up energy to go nowhere (and in my controversial opinion, depression is a core symptom of low energy not a standalone disorder). Practicing mindfulness with gratitude is more grounding to be able to feel your emotions and understand what your body is trying to tell you rather than "analyze" why your body isn't listening to your orders. Regarding the gratitude part, I prefer to do it in nature and feel lucky to be alive to experience its beauty.

I'm not sure that relates much to what's in the YouTube video