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Why Therapy Fails Highly Analytical People
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forewarning: i did not watch the video and this comment is based on the title and thumbnail.
highly analytical people (from personal experience) who are in therapy are feeling things, a lot. maybe even more than neurotypical people. they have resorted to intellectualizing their feelings in an attempt to understand why they are feeling them, because often ND people struggle to clearly communicate the depths of what they experience and this leads to professionals either not understanding the severity of the issue(s), or simply dont have a framework to relate to their subject adequately.
i am audhd. the severe stress of trying to survive daily life while dealing with my unique issues has led to chronic burnout that manifests in anger outbursts among other thigs. when i tried getting help for this, i was handed a printout explaining the "anger volcano" and literally no other support was given. i have been to at least 5 traditional therapists and none of them have been able to help with this.
so of course i go online. i find groups, i discuss, i add to my personal knowledge library, and i use it to understand myself the best i can. i can't keep starting over with a new therapist, unload my traumas, and then finding out a month or two into care that my therapist is only able to accommodate people who may have "light trauma" (idk how else to say it).
I'm fairly NT (I think), without much trauma history, and my experience with therapy has been kind of similar. I think this video is probably worth a watch for you. It's basically arguing that intellectualising is a defence mechanism that prevents proper connection to feelings, and that focusing on the physical aspects of emotions is a way to counteract that. For me, it's not a solution, but it does provide a partial answer to why therapy hasn't worked a bunch of times before.
It’s a video about dialectical behavioral therapy for anyone who wants to go down that rabbit hole
Thanks - I don't know DBT at all really, and I didn't pick up on that from watching the video. I don't immediately see the link from skimming the wikipedia page for DBT, but I guess I'm focussing on the wrong thing to pick it up.
DBT is about the “wise mind” of you’re overly analytical you’re not using the wise mind, same with people who are overly emotional (which many overly analytical types actually are) integrating both logic/rationale and emotion into one experience is how you arrive at the wise mind, how you make those decisions is value based not emotion or logic based.
Interesting, thanks! Sounds like something I should look in to more
I think you're confusing feeling any feeling with what you need to feel. Your anger is likely what your other emotions are being filtered through.
You go on to prove the video's premise to be correct by going online, finding groups, discussing and adding to your knowledge.