My partner and I got together long after I had transitioned, so this doesn't apply, but honestly, I'd find it really upsetting if someone viewed my own experience through that lens.

The way I put it is that the person I was before I transitioned wasn't a full person. I was hiding/repressing part of who I was. But the part that I wasn't hiding was still me. Post transition me is a full person. I'm still the me I used to be, but I'm also more than and different to who I was then.

Noooo my wife very much views me as the same person. Just less hidden and more accessible. This has always been part of who I am, it's just now we know what to call it and I'm doing something about it. It certainly takes her a while to adjust to new developments but I think that's to be expected. We still have some pre-transition pictures around still.

Ship of Theseus

I've been out as trans for so long that most of my memorable accomplishments were either before wrong puberty (so I was just a almost-genderless child) or after I started social transition (way before hrt). In between, was a few years of middle school and high school which were only memorable because of excessive amounts of homework that got me to learn more programming and try on programming socks.

I don't have anyone, but I see myself both as a new person and as a more complete version of the me I always was, depending on the context, which is confusing.

Maybe it's only cause i'm not that far into my transition yet, but i kind of flip-flop back and forth on this depending on the context. Like, I generally think of pre-transition me as "myself but less developed", but sometimes I do find myself going "Why did [deadname] do this? Wtf was he thinking?" if I'm regretting a poor past decision or whatever.

I would think while your change has been positive and you consider the prior an asshole, they're still inseparable. But so are light and dark. Warm and hot. Yin Yang. To thy own self be true. You wouldn't be here without the prior... There's nothing wrong with who you were, necessarily. You've nevertheless changed. It's like the ship of Theseus. Replace enough boards and when exactly does a ship become a 'new' one? It's subjective. Yet the spirit carries on.

It's so great you've grown, changed, found a new you. Perhaps the old ship has sailed. Be the new you. Or simply just be you, and be here now.