yeah well it finally happened, i got lazy. if my nails are painted, the first thing i do when getting home is clean em off... but last night i was tired and figured i could just do it in the morning. well, of course that backfired immediately - first thing that happens when i leave my room this morning is my dad seeing me heading into the bathroom with bright blue sparkly nails and a bag of cosmetics. he didn't say anything immediately, but has been weirdly sigh-y all day, and just now stuck his head in my room saying he "wants to chat" later today (extremely out-of-character) while being extremely cryptic and evasive about what exactly he wants to talk about.

(for context, although i live in switzerland, my parents are hardcore USA-an tradcaths (the kind who hate the "woke" pope). my dad has voted for trump the last 3 consecutive US elections and will do so again, has trump merch proudly on display in his room, immediately started voting for the far-right immigrant party as soon as he got his swiss citizenship, regularly goes on unprovoked angry diatribes about how much gay people disgust him, etc. you get the picture; he's pretty much the stereotype of the "far right religious nutjob". my mom is almost aggressively unopinionated about most things, and certainly doesn't make any effort to rein my dad ever)

anyway, i'm looking forward to talking with him this evening, i'm sure it'll be great fun! ಠ_ಠ

update: have managed to defer talk until "later"; we'll see where this goes (but i am prepping for a quick exit if necessary). will update again if anything interesting happens

i've noticed a number of accounts which were fairly active in this community suddenly go dark recently:

1. @kivihiili@lemmy.blahaj.zone deleted their account about 6 days ago
2. @katiecakes@lemmy.blahaj.zone deleted her account about 7 hours ago (less than a day after a friendly back-and-forth comment chain with me)
3. @applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone deleted pretty much her entire post/comment history from the past six months at some point within the last 24 hours, consisting mostly of posts and comments here and on !trans_joy@lemmy.blahaj.zone.
4. @erinmeow@piefed.blahaj.zone seems to have also wiped most of her comments and posts at some point in the last 6 days
5. @NerdyNeko90@lemmy.blahaj.zone deleted all her posts and comments

these are only the ones i've noticed, perhaps there are even more?

i was willing to accept a possible coincidence with the first two, but three fairly active accounts going dark in a week, two of which on the same day, is setting off alarm bells. does anyone know if these people are alright, and what the heck is going on?

(if you'd rather not disclose it publicly, please shoot me a DM on lemmy, @daporkchop:daporkchop.net on matrix, daporkchop_ on discord or daporkchop_.42 on signal)

UPDATE (2026.10.16 06:30 UTC): @applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone has confirmed that she's going through some shit but is still with us, her account purge appears to be unrelated to the others
UPDATE (2026.10.16 09:52 UTC): added #4 (@erinmeow@piefed.blahaj.zone)
UPDATE (2026.10.17 14:06 UTC): @kivihiili@lemmy.blahaj.zone have confirmed that they're safe, and have essentially decided to move on from lemmy to go touch grass. honestly? good for them :3
UPDATE (2026.10.20 20:59 UTC): added #5 (@NerdyNeko90@lemmy.blahaj.zone)
UPDATE (2026.10.20 21:00 UTC): @NerdyNeko90@lemmy.blahaj.zone has confirmed that she deleted her posts/comments intentionally and appears to be doing okay now

what if TotallynotJessica was actually Miisha the whole time?

adapted from this meme using gimp

the GNU/Linux distribution for lesbians™

the computer itself is on my rack, which is on the other side of the wall. i ended up drilling a hole through the wall and running 20m long USB and DisplayPort cables through it, then there's a DisplayPort MST hub which splits it up to drive the three separate monitors and a whole bunch of USB hubs for all the peripherals. adds a bit of complexity, but it's worth it because the fans are so damn loud, and it's also more fun :3

the huge tree of USB hubs

i love sweaters so much they're so cozy! this one is fuzzy inside :3

just got home from a friend's house, she was hosting a little party to celebrate her first E dose :3

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/53618171

i'm on vacation rn and don't have my regular conditioner (got thrown away by security smh), so i grabbed a bottle at a supermarket only to notice in the shower that this conditioner contains silicone. "surely it can't make that much of a difference!", i thought, and sure enough my hair looked pretty normal... until it dried:

how it started (mild nsfw: bra)

how it's going

i look like a fuckin bomb went off on my head, this is what i get for deviating from the Curly Girl bible for one day smh

that said, my hair has finally reached the length where it properly catches the wind and gets pulled back and let me just say it feels absolutely glorious

i also added a few stickers on the inside

wonder how much longer i can keep this charade going, my face has unmistakably been getting more fem the past 2-ish months

that said, i kinda don't even mind presenting masc that much anymore, mainly 'cause i'm pretty sure i look a hell of a lot cuter these days regardless of which gender people are reading me as :3

i don't think there's any real purpose to this post, i just kinda wanted to balance out my past selfies. 90% of the time i'm dressed like this, it feels more honest (?) to show the "normal" side, idk ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Shot using a Fairphone 3 with a broken Fairphone 3+ camera module

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