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It's not a "common practice on blahaj". It's just how lemmy does instance bans.

I generally don't community ban people, I tend to instance ban them, because if they're breaking community rules, but not instance rules, it's up the community mods to deal with, and if they're breaking instance rules, they get an instance ban.

And when you instance ban someone, and choose to remove their content, that's what it looks like in a modlog. It's not because I've gone and selected a whole bunch of community bans. It's just how lemmy works

The reality I experience is the only one that matters to me. To an outside observer, all of them are as equally real and there is no true timeline.

In a story, there is no real, there is only outside observers...

Apologies, I copied and pasted the answer below from another reply I made elsewhere in this thread

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I'm not talking about about the possibility of real infinite dimensions. I'm talking about sci fi, and stories, which is the context of the OPs question.

In a "real" scenario, the experience that matters is the one I'm having, not the one other versions of me might be having.

But in a story, there is no "true" timeline, or a more "real" timeline. They're all being retold to us indirectly, and the choice of the version of the person retelling those experiences is arbitrary by the author. It doesn't matter what perspective the author chooses, because every other outcome also happened, the author just didn't tell us those stories.

I'm not talking about about the possibility of real infinite dimensions. I'm talking about sci fi, and stories, which is the context of the OPs question.

In a "real" scenario, the experience that matters is the one I'm having, not the one other versions of me might be having.

But in a story, there is no "true" timeline, or a more "real" timeline. They're all being retold to us indirectly, and the choice of the version of the person retelling those experiences is arbitrary by the author. It doesn't matter what perspective the author chooses, because every other outcome also happened, the author just didn't tell us those stories.

You've shown your kid that he's in charge of his own body, and shown him that you can be trusted if he approaches you with sensitive or embarassing topics.

What other people think is irrelevant, because your relationship with your kid will be forever better because you've shown him you can be trusted.

No es extrano. Mira esto https://gui.fediseer.com/instances/detail/mujico.org

I've got a question about how reitti calculates significant places/visits.

I was thinking of adjust gps logger so that it doesn't log points if they're within 10m of the last point it logged. That will clear up the data when I'm at home or work, so that there is less of a random squiggle of location data. It will record me arriving at home, and leaving home, but not much in between.

Will that impact how reitti calculates locations though? Is it looking at the number of points, or is it simply a matter of duration within a particular vicinity?

Was the vaginismus like involuntary contractions that created too much resistance for the dilator?

Not contractions, more like a permanent contraction. Well, semi permanent, as it resolved eventually. But until then, it was contracted tight 24/7

Has there been any thought about seeing the surgeon again or looking into rehabilitation, or is it easier to have moved on?

My surgeon retired, as did one of the others, leaving a single Australian surgeon with a long wait list, with no guarantees he could fix it, especially given it was another surgeons work. In theory though, I could get PPV with him, but still an uncertain outcome at the end of a long wait list.

In theory I'll do it one day, but the older I get, the less likely I'll bother

But I'm impressed by your healthy and adaptive mindset about it.

Heh. That's me with the benefit of time. When I was going through it, I didn't have a healthy adaptive mindset

My case was a bit more complicated than my previous post outlined. After a year or so of dilating, and having difficulties, I went back to my surgeon for a followup when I was supporting a friend who was having surgery with the same surgeon.

He had a look at things, and confirmed the presence of scarring causing the issue, but his examination also triggered something like vaginismus, and it became impossible for me to dilate with anything but the smallest dilator for a month or so after. By the time that issue resolved, I had lost more depth and girth from the lack of meaningful dilation. So I spent some time trying to regain what I had lost, but ultimately getting back to where I was before the vaginismus would have taken months, with no guarantees of success, but given that even full success was back to a starting point that wasn't working for me, it become really hard to keep dilating.

And then covid happened, and my surgeon cleared his lists and stopped taking bookings. I wasn't able to have penetrative sex anyway even before any of this happened, so at that point, I couldn't see the point in continuing.

It was a pretty big deal for me, and it left me feeling crushed. But, the way I looked at it was that even though I couldn't have the sex life I had hoped for, that was also true before I had bottom surgery, but bottom surgery left me feeling comfortable in my body in a way I'd never had access to before, so I was still better off than where I started, even if I didn't end up where I had hoped to.

Basically, after my healing was done, it just never got any better. No matter how much I dilated, the largest dilator was never comfortable, and with the effort it took to use that, nothing made out of flesh and blood instead of rigid plastic was going to stand a chance.

Because it was never comfortable, and I was never able to have penetrative sex, I ended up just giving up on dilation during the covid lockdowns.

I had a very different experience unfortunately. It turns out that I had quite a bit of internal scarring, so dilation was never pleasant for me. It wasn't hard to do, but it didn't feel comfortable. Sort of like stretching a piercing. It was tense and uncomfortable.

Still, despite that, it was a life changing experience, and I'd do it again every time if I had the choice!