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[–] 77 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Jesus fucking Christ. Men we can do better, wtf.

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  • [–] [S] 20 points 2 months ago (1 child)

    It’s actually so bad… Also why do you still have 1 vote after my upvote? Are there salty men in here?

    Assuming I’m not talking to the void, if you feel attacked by a critique of men in general then you remain a part of the problem. ALL men have to engage in self critique because ALL men (and people in general) have been socialized to think of women in harmful ways. It’s not a moral failing, but it is your responsibility to learn. Anything less is laziness.

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  • [–] 50 points 2 months ago (42 children)

    Yup, I’m a trans woman and have dealt with this shit. I now hide under a giant hat, and try not to stand out too much.

    Fuckin’ creeps, everywhere.

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  • [–] [S] 12 points 2 months ago (7 children)

    Why do you already have a downvote? Is that a common thing on lemmy, or is it just because anti-feminism is a core personality trait for so many men?

    It’s actually quite upsetting. Good luck out there girlie.

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  • [–] 18 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

    Just a heads-up, regardless of the reason (might even have been accidental) it's not a very healthy thing to be looking this deeply into upvotes or downvotes. Some twerps are always going to downvote the most agreeable statement, or upvote the most eggregious one. Trying to jump into conclusions about why that one person might have downvoted the post is a futile waste of time that might very well make you reach conclusions that are just not grounded in reality and further dwindle your faith in humanity for no reason at all...

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  • [–] 11 points 2 months ago (4 children)

    Given that they only have 2 downvotes, I'd say that's just Lemmy being Lemmy. On other less confrontational topics, I usually will say some mundane comment, and still get like 1-3 downvotes. And it scales too. If you have 10 upvotes, you might get 1 downvote. But if you have 50 upvotes you might have 3 downvotes.

    One time I just said "FUCK ICE!!!" and got over 100 upvotes, and 3 downvotes. So I wouldn't take these downvotes too seriously. Some people just have no life.

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  • [–] 10 points 2 months ago

    It could be representative of the UI and accidental voting. I’ve accidentally up/down voted something before when I tried to “navigate back”. I’m sure there have been some I didn’t catch to that would make me feel horrible to know I responded to something so blatantly incorrectly.

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  • [+] 8 points 2 months ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (13 children)
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    [–] 34 points 2 months ago

    What's really wild is just the wide range of threat levels one may encounter. Some of those guys seemed like they were just odd and pretty non-threatening, while others immediately go for physical contact even after being told "no". A woman has no idea what to expect when a man approaches her; is he just going to say something weird and walk away to never be heard from again, or is he going to attack her if she rejects him? There's a huge margin of danger for every encounter. And then guys who have never had to keep their guard up a day in their lives wonder why women on the street seem so cold to them.

    I'm very much of the opinion that more women should carry.

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  • [–] 22 points 2 months ago

    You can tell that much of the userbase came from reddit when you look at this comment section and people's down votes 😅

    Lotta folks on this site need to unpack some things about how they see women. I see sexism on lemmy more often than any other form of bigotry or chauvinism

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  • [–] [S] 6 points 2 months ago (3 children)

    Oh, thank you. Can I embed videos directly into posts?

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    [–] 13 points 2 months ago

    Makes me want to throw up

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  • [–] 12 points 2 months ago

    This made me very thankful to have the father I have. Every one of these asshole deserves to get hit by a fucking bus.

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  • [–] 8 points 2 months ago* (20 children)

    I’ve never witnessed this happening. I don’t mean it doesn’t happen, but I’ve never seen it in my travel. Is it a cultural thing in some areas? Off peak hours? It’s gross.

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  • [–] [S] 16 points 2 months ago (15 children)

    I’m assuming you’re a man? No shade, I am too. It’s something that is hard for us to notice until you look for it (or watch a clip compilation). Women experience it every day for their whole lives, so they sense these things naturally. The sad thing is, it’s less that they have to “look for it” like us and more that every social interaction with men is marked by these gross dynamics.

    In essence, this video is composed of (not-so) extreme examples of a very mundane social phenomenon.

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  • [–] 8 points 2 months ago (3 children)

    Thank you for posting this and for your comments. It’s a refreshing take on this site.

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  • [–] [S] 7 points 2 months ago (2 children)

    Aww, thanks! That’s really encouraging. It’s kind of an obligation considering the state of things. I’m glad it’s appreciated by others.

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  • [–] 4 points 2 months ago* (10 children)

    Also a man 🖐️ also never seen this happening IRL 🖐️ Also on board with the reason probably being that I don't look for it, I'm not on the receiving end, etc etc. Also probably because I don't get out much, and when I do I focus on my wife and/or kids, depending who I'm out with.

    I have also heard that basically all women experience creeps like this at least once in their lives, if not regularly.

    But is it really true that "women experience it every day for their whole lives"? I find it hard to believe, even in a big city. 🤯

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  • [–] 10 points 2 months ago (1 child)

    It happens every day, though maybe not every day to the same woman.

    When I lived in a bigger city, I would get comments almost every time I commuted, which was daily. “You’d look prettier if you smiled” was a common phrase thrown out.

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  • [–] 4 points 2 months ago

    My god. First of all, sorry on behalf of those men, although not to help those men say sorry, but for your sake.

    Secondly, wtf. W. T. F.

    Is that your job, to look prettier on your commute? Like, what? Gosh. This is probably small potatoes to you by now but it's rage fuel for me. The gall that people have to think they're entitled to leave an open opinion on what you "should do" in order to please them. Disgusting.

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  • [–] 13 points 2 months ago

    I have, multiple times. It’s not something that happens in any particular place more than others. It’s wildly uncomfortable, and people, especially men are even more wildly dismissive of these events.

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    [–] 6 points 2 months ago*

    Normalize pepper spraying people for this shit

    Except for the guy that looked like "please stop having your hair touch me, random disgusting stranger in public"

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  • [–] 5 points 2 months ago (1 child)

    Is this the USA? What's going on :O

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