Wifey had to teach me that you either politely deny advances while trying your best not to bruise the male ego and hope for the best, or rudley deny advances and risk violence.

“Had to teach” is crazy. If she’s a woman it is literally impossible for her not to be aware of her social position and what that means for interacting with men. All you’ve “taught” her is to internalize the idea that the actions of those men are her fault. I’m not saying this to shame you, it’s just that society has got us all fucked up on how we think about gender dynamics. It’s our responsibility to self-reflect on these things because we ALL do it. Not just you.

Yeah it’s such a burden on you when other men hit on your wife. Good thing you told her to stop.

Those men would do so whether your wife was smiling or not. You’ve successfully told her to dampen her own joy.