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I've mentioned that I like to just sit back in my easy chair, put headphones on and just listen to music without doing anything else. People say this is weird and say they would fall asleep or go crazy from not doing anything. Am I weird for doing this?

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[-] Shellofbiomatter@lemmus.org 32 points 3 weeks ago

I wouldn't say weird. You can enjoy your music however you want.

Personally i wouldn't be able to do it, having ADHD and sitting still doesn't really go together.

[-] Mr_Wobble 5 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Same here. I think walking and listening to music also qualifies as "just listening to music" for me, and I find it quite easy and enjoyable. I don't think the sitting part is all that important, only the "just listen to music" part.

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[-] sheogorath@lemmy.world 4 points 3 weeks ago

If you have adhd I suggest getting a good quality IEM or headphones. I can sit still and just listen to music if it’s layered and lush and have myself fully stimulated trying to piece everything.

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[-] mcforest@feddit.org 22 points 3 weeks ago

I thought that's exactly what we pretentious audiophiles do.

[-] kn33@lemmy.world 19 points 3 weeks ago

I don't appreciate being called out like this

[-] everett@lemmy.ml 5 points 3 weeks ago
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[-] bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works 6 points 3 weeks ago

I mean, it wasnt uncommon that normal families just did this as well , thats why many of us always had good listening setups in the living room.

Now they are usually relegated to the basement and only listened to by crazy ol gramps.

I swear this is a reason for growing depression , among other things. Music is one of humanities strongest past times, and the majority of humans now dont give a shit and put it on as background noise with 0 care.

I blame parents.

[-] nymnympseudonym@piefed.social 17 points 3 weeks ago

Does vaping weed count as "doing something else"?

[-] myrmidex@belgae.social 9 points 3 weeks ago

About as much as "sitting in a comfy chair".

[-] nymnympseudonym@piefed.social 8 points 3 weeks ago

Converting ethanol into urea is one of my favorite activities

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[-] nymnympseudonym@piefed.social 2 points 3 weeks ago

Reserved for Tangerine Dream , Ozric Tentacles , and Pink Floyd

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[-] fitgse@sh.itjust.works 16 points 3 weeks ago

I “metaltate” several times a week. Dark room, closed eyes, focus on breathing, and headphones with black metal.

[-] zewm@lemmy.world 15 points 3 weeks ago

One of my earliest memories of listening to music was in exactly this style.

Our family inherited a mobile trailer that was parked in our front yard for a while. I was a young kid and would use the trailer as “my house”.

I distinctly remember plopping down a boombox on the “kitchen table”, which was just a fold out table with a chair on either side.

I popped in Dr. Dre’s Da Chronic into the cassette deck of the boombox and hit play. Listening to the whole album while sitting on the chair.

Fun times. Stop worrying about how other people consume entertainment and just do what feels good to you.

[-] ContactClosure@lemmus.org 14 points 3 weeks ago

I think everyone should try to only listen, at least sometimes. We've been trained to need input constantly and we're not built for it. People can't just watch TV any more either, need more screens!

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[-] OriginEnergySux@lemmy.world 10 points 3 weeks ago

...you've made me realise I actually havent done this in so long

[-] Suck_on_my_Presence@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago

Yeah same. Time to grab the ole trusty Moody Blues

[-] andrewta@lemmy.world 9 points 3 weeks ago

No I do this also

[-] lurker2718@lemmings.world 8 points 3 weeks ago

As many others have already said, you are definitely not weird for it. If thats what you enjoy, don't let others take it from you just because they might consider it weird.

For me personally, I do both. Sometimes I listen to background music while doing other things. As someone said above, its like elevator music. However, for me it improves the mood for some tasks.
On the other hand, I sit down maybe three times a week just for listening to music. I fully follow the emotions and story of a song or album.
The music is quite different between these two modes. For the background music I just need some good tunes. When listening fully, the song must have a text I like or be a really good instrumental song. Then I also need the right song and order of songs depending on mood. Mostly it's a curated list from which i select song by song. If I hear a great song in background listening I add it to the list. Later I listen to a more songs of the album or artist with full attention and add the ones I enjoy to my list. Funnily there are songs which then have so much meaning for me, I cannot listen to them in background anymore. Either I skip them or i put my full attention to them.

[-] Entertainmeonly@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 3 weeks ago

For me listening to music and dancing are a joint experience. Setting still while listening feels offensive somehow. My body just kinda moves on is own.

[-] kn33@lemmy.world 6 points 3 weeks ago

I do, but not with headphones. If it's headphones, it's second to something else. If the activity is specifically listening to music, I'm doing it on the good speakers.

[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 6 points 3 weeks ago

Sometimes but never in headphones. In the living room right in the stereo spot on the couch. Mostly I listen and do, but sometimes just listen.

[-] Lena@piefed.zip 5 points 3 weeks ago

reading this thread made me realize why music visualizers were so popular

[-] hanrahan@piefed.social 5 points 3 weeks ago

Doing something as in having a coffee or not doing anything at all ? I'll have a coffee or a drink and listen, at most eat a light meal.

I'm weird in that I can't listen to music and do something else because I can't.. listen I mean, it's just noise in the background, like elevator music, so why bother? and listening while running, walking or cycling is beyond me as there's so much going on and you need so much situational awareness when engaged in those avtivities.

[-] hperrin@lemmy.ca 5 points 3 weeks ago

That’s not weird at all. It’s very enjoyable.

[-] Iconoclast@feddit.uk 4 points 3 weeks ago

I quite rarely listen to music but sometimes I just want to hear one or two songs and then I often just sit and listen.

[-] Tiral@lemmy.zip 4 points 3 weeks ago

Both actually. BUT the type of music I listen to changes drastically depending on my activity.

[-] UnPassive@lemmy.world 4 points 3 weeks ago

I do the same, but with my turntable

[-] melsaskca@lemmy.ca 4 points 3 weeks ago

Both. The distinction being when working I listen to albums or a stream, when listening only, it's by the song.

[-] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 4 points 3 weeks ago

depends. I have music on like 90% of the time. Sometimes I like to put headphones or quality speakers on and close my eyes and really pay attention to the music. Otherwise it's daily activities or kareoke

[-] CptHacke@piefed.social 4 points 3 weeks ago

Thanks for the replies, all. It's nice to know that I'm not the only one who does this! I find it very therapeutic, and I enjoy being able to really focus on the lyrics and the music itself. My high school band teacher taught us that music is not a spectator sport - if you're only hearing sounds, you're missing out on half the experience. :)

[-] gera@feddit.nu 3 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Have to do something else. I mostly listen to new albums when doing cardio at the gym, or when playing multiplayer vidya.

[-] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 3 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I can't. Music just doesn't interact with enough senses to be a standalone activity for me.

My brother though, could spend the whole day doing nothing but listening to music.

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[-] squirrel@cake.kobel.fyi 3 points 3 weeks ago

I can't, because of adhd. If I want to listen to a whole album I put it on headphones and go for a walk.

[-] IchNichtenLichten@lemmy.wtf 3 points 3 weeks ago

People experience music differently. If I'm going to listen to music, I have to sit there and actively listen to it. If music is playing when I'm trying to work on something, I have to turn it off, it's too distracting.

[-] flubba86@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago

Same. For me, listening to music is an active experience that takes up my brain slot. I can't do something else while listening to music. Eg, many people study better with music, or do coding with music. That's impossible for me. Exceptions are when I'm driving with the radio on, or walking to the train station with my earphones in.

[-] slemptastrophe@piefed.social 3 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I need something to engage my hands and eyes. If I want to just sit and listen to music, or an audiobook, or podcast I usually play Tetris. It's a really low engagement task that keeps me from zoning out. Starting to get tired it though so I'm open to recommendations for similar games.

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[-] alternategait@lemmy.world 3 points 3 weeks ago

I recently got an adult paint by numbers from a clearance rack at a hobby store. I’ve put WAY more time into it than I expected. I’m really loving having it to do while doing other more mentally engaging things.

[-] Witchfire@lemmy.world 3 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I do both but I'm usually doing something because of ADHD. Sometimes it's something mindless. My favorite time to listen to music is while walking around the city

[-] StickyDango@lemmy.world 3 points 3 weeks ago

I do this sometimes, especially when I am stressed out and just need time to relax and forget everything for a while by immersing myself in whatever I'm listening to. Same with just sitting on public transport. Sometimes, I just stare out the window, and everything I hear is just sound because I'm just in the moment. I'd otherwise be on my phone like everyone else.

No, you're not weird.

[-] zlatiah@lemmy.world 3 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I do it sometimes, but mainly for music I really enjoy or have a keen interest in. Technically I also did it for a music competition a few months ago but that probably doesn't count...

There is research on this btw! I had to dig a bit, but this is a 2011 research article (might be paywalled, I can try & help if anyone is really interested in) on why people (psych undergrads, but still) listen to music. They identified 6 mostly independent factors, one of which ("personal identity") may be more linked to ppl listening just for enjoyment; one of their experiments showed that 75.66% of participants listen to music as "background noise". So music as primary activity is probably relatively uncommon (but not non-existent). Funnily enough I rarely use music as background distraction these days

[-] sturmblast@lemmy.world 3 points 3 weeks ago

All the time. Its wonderful.

[-] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 weeks ago

I think it's not as common as it used to be. Now there are endless forms of distractions through small screens, and I think most use music as background entertainment while doing something else.
I can listen to music while doing other things, but I prefer to actually listen while not distracted so I can fully take in the phonics and arrangements. Otherwise it's merely hearing and not listening. I find that this distinction is more common with musically inclined people.

I dance and/or sing while listening to music because I'm not dead. 👍

[-] RaoulDuke25@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 3 weeks ago

It's the best way to analyze a track or just let my brain juices flow and just think or plan or just drift into the aether.

[-] AceFuzzLord@lemmy.zip 2 points 3 weeks ago

If I'm just a passenger in a vehicle, I don't mind sitting back and just listening to music. Otherwise, I'm so used to doing something else while listening that it feels kinda weird to not have it as background when I'm working, when appropriate.

[-] Professorozone@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago

I love music so much I have it on almost all of the time, but I admit, I'm almost always doing something else too.

[-] jordanlund@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago

Very rarely do I just listen to music, typically only when I'm driving.

[-] dennisnedry@feddit.nu 2 points 3 weeks ago

I used to do that all the time in my teenage years. I would buy a CD Album, go home, play it on my stereo, listen through the entire album while reading the lyrics or Look at the art in that little Booklet that came with the album.

Or i would just play an album, lie on my bed and just listen.

Nowadays i mostly listen to music while working or driving. I dont have a stereo and no space to have one. I would like to have a "music corner" it like Rob in High fidelity.

[-] XeroxCool@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago

I do it. I miss having linear, defined "playlists" we used to call listening to an album. So, duh, you can still do it. I play curated playlists when I'm driving. If something catches my attention, I go to that song's album (please don't be a single, please don't be a single). If the album plays through well, I'll probably give it a go at home.

Granted, sitting still is not my strong suit, so it's not all that common. Video games are my main TV/couch thing if solo. I always have some other chore or project nagging me. But damn, is it relaxing to lightly hit a thc vape and play deadmau5

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