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I’m basically living with this guy now. I keep saying “guy” because it feels too soon to call him my boyfriend or say we’re actually dating. It’s still kind of a getting-to-know-each-other thing, but we’re also fucking and pretty much living like a couple lol.

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[-] Contramuffin@lemmy.world 4 points 2 hours ago

If you have any concerns or questions about your relationship, it is a really good idea to talk to him and sort it out before it becomes an issue.

The relationship being something other than what you wanted isn't the worst thing that can happen. The worst thing that can happen is if you didn't know that that was the case.

[-] Lemvi@lemmy.sdf.org 63 points 8 hours ago

It's too soon to call him your boyfriend but not too soon to move in together?

[-] THE_GR8_MIKE@lemmy.world 3 points 3 hours ago

Sounds like they should go to a Coldplay concert and hash it out.

[-] snoons@lemmy.ca 27 points 7 hours ago

Capitalist situationship?

I needed a roommate and we ended up fucking.

[-] TheReanuKeeves@lemmy.world 2 points 2 hours ago

I've seen that one

[-] Nebulous_Keito 3 points 6 hours ago
[-] Nebulous_Keito 12 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago)

The comments are so funny btw. I'm enjoying the comment section

[-] Canopyflyer@lemmy.world 35 points 7 hours ago

Have you thought about sitting down with him and talking about it?

Relationships are built upon one thing... Trust.

Trust requires communication.

[-] wizbiz@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 6 hours ago

You need to talk with him about it. It's whatever you and he decide it is. Communication is so damn important. Start this thing off right and open those lines of communication

[-] pastermil@sh.itjust.works 38 points 8 hours ago
[-] Nebulous_Keito 2 points 6 hours ago

I'm suspecting this too

[-] zaphod@sopuli.xyz 28 points 8 hours ago

At this speed you're getting married in three days and divorce in a week.

[-] Nebulous_Keito 4 points 6 hours ago

For real honestly

[-] yaroto98@lemmy.world 11 points 6 hours ago
[-] Nebulous_Keito 2 points 6 hours ago

Lol 😹😹

[-] Eq0@literature.cafe 14 points 7 hours ago

You met three days ago? And you are “basically living together”?

Considering the length, it’s a fling. Considering you haven’t talked about it, it’s a situationship.

My unwanted and unasked advice is to take some distance for at least a day before calling it anything at all. And then talk about expectations.

Honestly (anecdote time!), when I started going out with my partner, I had some weird and totally personal hang ups with the word “boyfriend”. So for a couple of months they were “the person I am seeing” then became my “partner”. We had the conversation about exclusivity and such, talked about where we saw stuff going and so on, but wording was difficult. A word is just a word, as long as you both agree on the rest it doesn’t really matter much.

[-] violet08@lemmy.today 1 points 7 hours ago

Yeah, it’s very fast, I know. But it’s something I’ve always wanted to do and couldn’t in my past relationship (2024-2026). We were living in the Gulf, and my ex was living with his family, so that came with a lot of restrictions (Muslim background, family expectations, etc.).

This guy actually wants me here, and I’m in a position where I can do it, I don’t have a job right now, online school is more of a formality like I mentioned before, and my parents support me financially. So I’m not really tied down by anything, and I just took the opportunity, lol.

[-] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 points 2 hours ago

Yeah that doesn't make it less bad of an idea, actually probably worse of one.

Have fun. Don't get killed. Bail when it starts going south. Learn from the experience

-an experienced older slut

[-] village604@adultswim.fan 0 points 5 hours ago

That's a fling, then. It could develop into something different, but that's all it is at the moment.

[-] snek_boi@lemmy.ml 11 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

Another comment said you can safely assume he’s your boyfriend. Before I did that, I’d want to have a clear and explicit conversation about exclusivity (do you two want to have it or not?).

As to your broader question, sure the label to the relationship might help in clarifying expectations.

But more important is what kind of person you want to be to him and vice versa. Years from now, if you were to look back on what kind of person you were in this period, what would you like to see? Kindness? Exploration? Consistency? Honesty? Playfulness?

[-] leoj@piefed.social 8 points 7 hours ago

Are you the person who was asking about making soup for your first date/hook up since he left you at his house the morning after?

Not judging, just curious.

[-] dumples@piefed.social 6 points 7 hours ago

U-haul lesbians?

[-] snoons@lemmy.ca 9 points 7 hours ago
[-] jordanlund@lemmy.world 7 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago)

Seems weird to move in and act like a couple without actually calling it that, but then I knew folks who did that for 10 years and went "Oh, shit! We forgot to get married!" 😉 (yes, they did get married).

You're above "Friends with Benefits", but below "Seriously Involved".

I'd say enjoy it. If other people ask just say "boyfriend/girlfriend" as social shorthand, no sense confusing people.

Name it when you're ready.

Mitch Hedberg: "I don't have a girlfriend, but I do know someone who would be mad at me for saying that."

[-] tyrant@lemmy.world 9 points 8 hours ago

You guys are a couple. I think you're safe in calling him your boyfriend.

[-] tomiant@piefed.social 1 points 4 hours ago

Very easy way to test- how would you feel if he went out and had sex with someone else? How would he feel if you did?

If it's a problem for either of you, that person thinks it's a relationship. If it's only a problem for one of you, that's definitively a problem for the both of you.

[-] IWW4@lemmy.zip 3 points 7 hours ago

Why are you over thinking it?

BOYFRIEND

Every relationship I have had started like yours.

One lasted three years, one lasted 1 year and the last one has lasted for about 35 years.

Sure I had a few one night stands, behind the tree, in a field, in a car and in a hotel room, but the three substanial relationships I have had started just like this one.

Lean into and roll with it.

[-] Zwuzelmaus@feddit.org 2 points 6 hours ago

a getting-to-know-each-other thing, but we’re also fucking

Pretty good definition of: marriage

[-] JoMiran@lemmy.ml 2 points 7 hours ago

I like the modern term "situationship".

[-] Nebulous_Keito 1 points 6 hours ago

I came across your other post today too and I was wondering why you were living with someone of opposite gender, even went grocery shopping with them and enjoyed it, and you were still referring to them as "guy". Definitely thought it was weird and strange 🤨🫠

[-] papalonian@lemmy.world 3 points 8 hours ago

Using your previous few questions as context, I'm gonna say you call this "a really fun and fast 7 months", which at your age is totally fine.

[-] disregardable@lemmy.zip 2 points 7 hours ago

Sounds like it's time to talk about it, because if you've been sleeping with him daily for a while he should be excited to call you his girlfriend. If you want a steady relationship, and he doesn't want to have one with you, maybe that'd be a sign to pull back from this person.

[-] Pudutr0n@lemmy.world 2 points 8 hours ago

you don't call it anything until you need to.

[-] notsosure@sh.itjust.works 2 points 8 hours ago

Highway to hell and loving every minute of it.

[-] KindnessIsPunk@lemmy.ca 2 points 8 hours ago

A good time.

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