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That wonderful feeling of seeing that you're not alone (thelemmy.club)

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[–] purplerabbit@piefed.blahaj.zone 61 points 8 months ago (1 child)

That's why I try and have trans symbols that were visible on me at all times. As an act of resistance, a fuck you I'm trans, deal with it. But also, as another form of resistance: community. A reminder that you're not alone. That if you see this, you can come and talk to me at any point, you'll be safe with me. The world sucks and family can be awful. So I don't mind being someone's big sister or cool aunt for even just 10 minutes of their lives.

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[–] clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works 33 points 8 months ago (6 children)

Does it mean anything if I'm not trans myself? I don't want to end up in a stolen valor situation! Just want folks to know there are allies around.

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[–] Iheartcheese@lemmy.world 39 points 8 months ago (1 child)

Put it on and you WILL grow boobies. Or lose boobies. Something is happening to your boobies.

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[–] clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works 16 points 8 months ago (3 children)

I'm a big fan, but I don't think I would want one of my own.

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[–] Iheartcheese@lemmy.world 10 points 8 months ago

You do not have a say in this.

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[–] duncan_bayne@lemmy.world 8 points 8 months ago

That's okay; they generally come in pairs.

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[–] dreugeworst@lemmy.ml 3 points 8 months ago

yes, I'm usually in favour of stuff happening to boobies, but feel little need to have my own

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[–] AntiBullyRanger@ani.social 22 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

What symbol do you like?
I signal with many.
anarchist symbols

My📱 rn uses a subtle one:
the flags by LaurenSwiffin
CX, either Teepublic took LaurenSwiffin’s account, or she took it down. Can't find the upscale version.

found this one hilarious
🛸🏳️‍⚧️get in loser, we’re going to protect trans kids! 🔗

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[–] TheTux@lemmy.ml 10 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (2 children)

Only way it could be 'stolen valor' is if you're a trans/queerphobe, & that'd just be called 'lying' & 'a dick move'. Just do what feels right.

I do have a few alternatives though:

If you want to be clear you're an ally, there are ally variants, though I wouldn't recommend going that route unless you have a queer friend/loved one who's happy to call you an ally before doing so. Some cis people claim to be ally's & then continue to buy jk Rowling trash or be weird about pronouns & 'dude'. Don't want to muddy the waters.

Otherwise, you could just get something like the progress pride flag if you don't feel like being specific.

Edit: misspelled 'variants'

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[–] clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works 5 points 8 months ago (1 child)

ally verdants

I'm not finding anything with this search term. Do you have more information?

Thank you for the tips.

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[–] TheTux@lemmy.ml 4 points 8 months ago (1 child)

Nope, spelling mistake, already edited

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[–] clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works 4 points 8 months ago

Gotcha, thanks!

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[–] Pieisawesome@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 8 months ago (1 child)

What do you mean about “being weird about dude”?

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[–] TheTux@lemmy.ml 3 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 child)

Some trans feminine people don't care for being called dude or variations of the same. Trans people in general tend to have complicated feelings about how others refer to them. Others don't care one way or the other. If you're not sure, just ask. If you slip up then correct yourself & move on. Not much to it. This advice should also apply to pronoun stuff.

Some transphobes like to act like there's a whole complicated song & dance you gotta do so the scary trans people won't be triggered if you talk to them or whatever. Its really not like that, all ya gotta do is ask & be respectful.

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[+] nilloc@discuss.tchncs.de 1 point 8 months ago

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[–] jlow@discuss.tchncs.de 9 points 8 months ago (1 child)

I'd be interested in opinions on this as well.

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[–] clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works 7 points 8 months ago

got one so far. https://sh.itjust.works/post/52345288/22868580

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[–] purplerabbit@piefed.blahaj.zone 5 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 child)

There are cool pins that have like the pride flag and say you are safe with me that kind of stuff. Maybe you should get some of that. :)

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[–] clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works 3 points 8 months ago

That sounds like what I want, thanks.

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[–] yuri@pawb.social 3 points 8 months ago

i think it’s totally fine for allies to fly the trans colors! it’s easily identifiable and unlikely to lead to confusion (e.g. is that rainbow just for style??)

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[–] FilthyShrooms@lemmy.world 28 points 8 months ago

Bro really said ":3"

[–] rabite@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 8 months ago (3 children)

I am conflicted on this.

While the trans community is generally supportive, as non-binary person I have hard time relating to most trans conversations, resources, memes, etc.

Is it weird that I still feel alone?

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[–] flora_explora@beehaw.org 6 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Non-binary and trans are not separate concepts though. I identify being trans, but that doesn't mean I have to be super binary. And the struggles my non-binary friends face are also mostly the same. It is certainly harder to use they/them, neopronouns or no pronouns. But I can still relate with that struggle very much and support wherever I can.

But I agree that it is hard to relate to most trans memes posted here. They are often very binary and rooted in gender stereotypes. But I think this isn't a you-problem and more of a problem of this specific lemmy community and various trans spaces online. As a trans person, I'd wish there would be more nuanced and relatable takes, not so much idealization of cat girls and anime...

Regarding the OP, I wouldn't be interacting with strangers like this because I'm socially too anxious.

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[–] Cass@piefed.blahaj.zone 4 points 8 months ago (1 child)

As a trans person, I’d wish there would be more nuanced and relatable takes, not so much idealization of cat girls and anime…

Preach!

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[–] rabite@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 point 8 months ago

Moe anime girls are invasive species. Beatiful 90s futch tomboy anime girls with huge hair who drink a lot and wear tank tops all the time were driven to extinction by moe catgirl in a maid costume who goes "wehh". Those are the apex predators. They dominate ruthlessly with reckless abandon. Terrifying beasts.

That said, I don't think there's HRT that would give you yaoi-sized hands. An allergic reaction might.

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[–] rabite@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 8 months ago (1 child)

Oh sure, the acceptance is there as I said.

However rejecting all societal defaults, having no clear path forward and little to use for guidance or example is certainly a rather specific mood. As much liberating it can also be.

Regarding the OP, I actually rather enjoy when me being visibly gender non-conforming has this effect on people.

And you're right, we could definitely use more variety of takes on here. Maybe I'll be the enbyposter I want to see in the world.

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[–] flora_explora@beehaw.org 1 point 8 months ago (2 children)

I feel like these are all things that I also go through as a (probably mostly???) binary trans person. I don't really know who I want to be yet and have to discover this, too. I think it is always as much about finding yourself as it is about finding the right gender and gender expression.

On days when I feel confident in myself, I also enjoy this very specific mood of nonconforming and messing with people's perception of gender :)

Would be great if you wanted to post here!!

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[–] rabite@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 point 8 months ago

I meant being GNC having the effect of attracting trans/queer people in non-queer spaces. I don't usually care enough about people's perception to intentionally mess with it, however I guess it also helps me spot the people I want to avoid early on.

Also I'd love to pick your (or anyone's with relevant experience) brain about the possible differences. However I'm pretty sure that's not discussion for public forum. The chance of me asking a demeaning question or phrasing something really badly would be fairly high.

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[+] ccx@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 point 8 months ago

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[–] SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 8 months ago

I'm on hrt and all, so I feel very "seen" by other transfems, binary or not. Even so, there is something special about being around other enbys that I can't get anywhere else.

So I get what you mean about still feeling alone. If you don't relate to the lived experiences of binary trans folks, then spaces dominated by them probably don't feel as comfy for you. That's very normal and expected, not weird.

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[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone [S] 1 point 8 months ago

Probably not.

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[–] shiroininja@lemmy.world 13 points 8 months ago (1 child)

Whenever I see another trans person in my small city, I, an egg, want to be like "I'm just like you!" but instead I just stand and stare like a deer in headlights, and mumble a sorry for existing if we have to cross paths. I'm pretty sure I just look like I'm staring to be rude or am a chaser or something.

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[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone [S] 7 points 8 months ago

It honestly wouldn't be impossible for them to guess that you're jealous rather than bigoted or fetishizing them. I've occasionally noticed eggs that later hatched; not to the level of being able to predict it, but enough to not be surprised.

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