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That wonderful feeling of seeing that you're not alone (thelemmy.club)
submitted 8 months ago by [M] to c/transmemes@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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[–] 61 points 8 months ago (1 child)

That's why I try and have trans symbols that were visible on me at all times. As an act of resistance, a fuck you I'm trans, deal with it. But also, as another form of resistance: community. A reminder that you're not alone. That if you see this, you can come and talk to me at any point, you'll be safe with me. The world sucks and family can be awful. So I don't mind being someone's big sister or cool aunt for even just 10 minutes of their lives.

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  • [–] 33 points 8 months ago (6 children)

    Does it mean anything if I'm not trans myself? I don't want to end up in a stolen valor situation! Just want folks to know there are allies around.

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  • [–] 39 points 8 months ago (1 child)

    Put it on and you WILL grow boobies. Or lose boobies. Something is happening to your boobies.

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  • [–] 16 points 8 months ago (3 children)

    I'm a big fan, but I don't think I would want one of my own.

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  • [–] 10 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (2 children)

    Only way it could be 'stolen valor' is if you're a trans/queerphobe, & that'd just be called 'lying' & 'a dick move'. Just do what feels right.

    I do have a few alternatives though:

    If you want to be clear you're an ally, there are ally variants, though I wouldn't recommend going that route unless you have a queer friend/loved one who's happy to call you an ally before doing so. Some cis people claim to be ally's & then continue to buy jk Rowling trash or be weird about pronouns & 'dude'. Don't want to muddy the waters.

    Otherwise, you could just get something like the progress pride flag if you don't feel like being specific.

    Edit: misspelled 'variants'

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  • [–] 5 points 8 months ago (1 child)

    ally verdants

    I'm not finding anything with this search term. Do you have more information?

    Thank you for the tips.

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  • [–] 2 points 8 months ago (1 child)

    What do you mean about “being weird about dude”?

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  • [–] 3 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 child)

    Some trans feminine people don't care for being called dude or variations of the same. Trans people in general tend to have complicated feelings about how others refer to them. Others don't care one way or the other. If you're not sure, just ask. If you slip up then correct yourself & move on. Not much to it. This advice should also apply to pronoun stuff.

    Some transphobes like to act like there's a whole complicated song & dance you gotta do so the scary trans people won't be triggered if you talk to them or whatever. Its really not like that, all ya gotta do is ask & be respectful.

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