This is going to sound like a flippant question, but it's sincere, how much porn do you consume? Do you, or did you ever spend a lot of time on the internet viewing pornography? You don't have to answer, but if you are consuming a lot of porn, you should stop and access therapy if you're able. Even if you did previously, but no longer do, therapy is probably a good idea. I've never met an incel that didn't have a dysfunctional relationship with their sexuality, and usually it's because of porn.